It's not about aggression or respect. You can see, my chart are very bad to have success in love .
If you consider birth charts to be "bad" or "good" for particular things, you actually have a good chart for love, by the basic rules of astrology. Your seventh house ruler (partnerships, relationships) is very strong. Venus, the love planet, is your most elevated planet, is in an angular house (that makes it especially strong) and a sign that gives it plenty of room to act like itself, and it rules your chart (ruler of your Libra ascendant). On top of that, Venus trines Mars, a "good" aspect. When planets are trine, they team up on everything, making it highly likely that they'll both get what they want.
You are also, probably, very good at communicating with others in a flattering, flirtatious, or diplomatic way. Libra rising usually means coming across to others as pleasant, accommodating, perhaps even charming. Mercury on the ascendant makes communication one of your strengths, and one of your most readily apparent strengths at that. You meet the world by talking to it, metaphorically or literally or both.
The trouble here is what you're doing with those gifts. Venus in Leo, particularly when it's elevated and angular, is at risk of great self centeredness in matters of love. Leo is all about the self, so for a Leo Venus, self love is especially important. Love from others must feed love of self first and foremost. If you feel loved enough, you can generously give love, but if you don't, you might fall into the trap of demanding love, feeling that others owe it to you just because you want it from them.
And your Venus wants the same thing as your Aries Mars. Aries is also a self-oriented sign: it wants to win. Mars is the competitive instinct, and aggression, and sexuality and passion. Trine with Leo, Aries Mars gives its aggression and competitive drive to matters involving love and sense of self. Because Mars rules your seventh house, this manifests most when it comes to relationships.
As a result, you're pursuing relationships aggressively, competitively, feeling you must win at all costs, and out of pure self interest. You're not showing any consideration whatsoever for the people you pursue relationships with. You seem to see them as just prizes to be won.
In addition, your earth trine of sun and moon seem to be lending their efforts to sustaining this attitude. Virgo and Capricorn are both willing to work for whatever they want, as persistently as necessary, for as long as it takes. If what you're working for is something that can be won by working for it, like an advanced degree or a good job, that's a great way to be, but if it's a relationship with a particular person who doesn't necessarily want a relationship with you, that's the wrong approach.
That attitude and approach is preventing women from wanting to date you. Nobody wants a "relationship" with someone who isn't willing to relate to them.
Some guys sick , are handicap, have problem with drugs, alcohol, they like to cheat, have bad economy, are very passive or hyperaktiv and they have better love life than I.
If by better love lives you mean they have relationships, what they're probably doing is relating to the women they like as people. If they have drug problems or like to cheat, that kind of thing can and probably does ruin those relationships eventually, but if they also know how to focus on the other person and not just themselves, that gets relationships started and keeps them going for a while.
what kind of magic i have to use ?
It may seem like magic to you because it doesn't come naturally. You're so oriented to self that it would take a major shift in your thinking, your feelings, and your very way of being to be able to relate to others in a way that would make them want to have a relationship with you. But it can be done.
To start with, your strongest ally in this is probably your Mercury. Mercury is in the other-oriented sign of Libra, which wants to relate to others and create harmony with them. To relate to others, you have to think of them, not just what they could do for you.
If you're interested in someone, what's she like as a person? What interests her? What does she like to do, or talk about? What's she passionate about? What makes her life feel meaningful to her?
If you don't know those things, get to know her, without expecting that she'll give you anything. When you know those kinds of things about another person, you're paying enough attention to relate to them, and they're more likely to want to relate to you.