Kitchy
Banned
I want to respond to all of the other posts but I'm in the car now but did want to respond to this.
Normally I would agree or say that I could understand this perspective, however, I have never relied on my looks or charm in order to get ahead in life. In fact, I was always a bit of an overweight child and into my late teens so a personality was something that I needed to develop in order to get anywhere since I was going to make friends or boyfriends based on just walking into a room. I won't argue that I don't have a difficult time getting a job but I oddly have had a strong work ethic even as a child when I would set up a lemonade stand and hang signs around the neighborhood to make some money to when I had a babysitting circuit going on my block so I was the richest 14 year old anyone knew. But again, I do get why you might think that, but I just refuse to accept that I have ever been handed anything just based on looks and charm. I do think being overweight and not feeling attractive as a child is the reason why I have such a large personality for a now attractive woman. I also do think that being icy was always my way of sifting out the assholes and people who would hurt me or make fun of me. So I don't waste my time on catty b*tches or superficial people. To me, this woman is everything I try to avoid. I can't stand fake people or just people who want to try and hurt others out of jealousy or trying to elevate themselves. This is the kind of person who makes me stay reserved and seem aloof. I hope this gives a little more color.
I suggest you engage Frisengal or Waybread then, ask about Lilith - I am just learning about her role in my chart.
Your honesty is appreciated in your response. Some of the cutest and most charming gals I've ever known were or are chubby who have Venus in 1st - don't bring weight into it - bring knowing how you use your charms into it.
Seriously - look at what your 1st house is presenting when you first meet and interact with others. First impressions most often take heed.
You don't need to dummy down your charms - you need to use them for all women because of that moon. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Uranus in 10th - surprise attacks opposing the moon from 10th - knowing how to work people for the common good inspite of your emotions and 'stand back' leanings.
Sisterhood - not enemies - think on those lines. Once you make that place of I got your back, grrrllll - and ditch the place of you're all agaiinst me - you'll figure it out.
Most people would LOVE a Venus on Asc. Just make it pretty, as is required.