Interesting post on the Mars/Pluto aspect. When I saw this in my son's chart, it terrified me at first sight...in the 4th house 4 degress apart and the south node right on Pluto (and this is all in Scorpio). It still scares me but I think the effect of this on him is extreme endurance. He works hard, he works out. He will be 34 in December (a stellum in Sag that includes his sun). Now he's going through a bad divorce with a soon to be 3-yr old. Pluto is transiting through his 7th and boy did he step in it...deep and he's suffering now but I think he will come out good b/cause he loves his little girl and makes sure hes in her life.
He's a really honest and great person...I think all that sagg helps.
What makes it more interesting is that I have the Mars/Pluto opp ... 8 degrees approaching Pluto (M-12/P-6) and his father has this opposition as well...only 1 degree apart (P-2/M-8).
Also, and I have to mention this...I noticed some of my ancestors has Pluto/Mars connections...some were oppositions, some were conjunctions but I need to verify and look into this. I want to use this in a positive way.
I think it's more destructive to look at anyone's chart(but probably especially our childrens') and think they're gonna be a certain way because of those charts. I think we'll find greater truths if we explore them as people and instead come to understand various aspects of their charts through understanding them which may result in even drastic reframe. But I do understand... I mean certainly we can potentially use our childrens' charts to help us gain some insight into how to raise them and what to look out for
But I want to give you a positive case study even tho I know your son is much older now. Maybe this can help some others
I think anything related to Pluto and Scorpio tends to be blown all the way out of proportion to where it's not even rooted in truth anymore. It happens for a variety of reasons, but I'll focus on the positive case study instead
My sister has this square along with being very Scorpionic(5 planets in her 10th house in Scorpio, 6 counting her north node) and she's one of the most peaceful and loving people I know to the point these are defining traits of hers. She's not even notably sexual. She doesn't have a horrible temper either. She's very moody, but that's about it. She feels bad when people receive her moodiness as hatred. She's not dark and twisted with any potential at all for abusiveness or manipulation. In fact, she has such a developed and firm ethical system.. I actually think she might be the most ethically driven person I've ever known even aside her being such a genuinely loving, patient, and understanding individual
Her Pluto is also on an angle(10th house) and her Mars very very close to the 8th house(2 degrees away, but in the 7th)
I think that endurance thing is probably gonna be more of a defining characteristic of this aspect than any of the horrifying stereotype ********. My sister's like that as well. The fixed-water comes in and makes these people adaptable and moldable like water, but stubborn as all hell. Nothing can stop these people unless they want it to. And it doesn't necessarily manifest as this fiery, destructive, ruthless energy that will devour anyone in its path like the stereotypes would have us think. It's much slower and more Earthy given that this endurance stems from the fixed nature. It even seems to me to be strangely peaceful. I imagine it like a stream of water flowing across the land and it's not fast nor does it find itself flowing into the rapids. It just flows and flows. And when it approaches a dam, it will follow the process of breaking the dam in its own time, not through exorbitant force or impatience, but a kind of patience that is unbreakable in itself
It's steady and even when in despair, I think these natives might tend to hold that suffering in which can result in suppression which is something I think CAN be destructive if not taken care of
I do have a Mars-Pluto aspect myself, but it's just a milquetoast sextile lmfao
I can see that honesty in my sister too. It's a kind of honesty that can take others by surprise, but it's not driven by illwill, simply the value of honesty and truth. Not to say that I don't think there's potential for unhealthy individuals to be manipulative, but people just tend to blow the destructive traits completely out of proportion where Pluto and Scorpio are concerned
I find that note about the aspect running in your family extremely intriguing. I don't know why it is, but it really seems to me like signs, planetary influence, and aspects can run in families. Mine happens to be extremely Scorpionic. I also looked at my late grandpa's chart and he had the same exact Venus and Mars as mine
I'd love to do an in depth study of this
On a spiritual level, I feel like themes run in families, karmic lessons, but the fact that this can possibly be seen on an astrological level is just..WOW!!
Anyway, I want to add that I'm sending my love to your son. As you've observed, there's this incredible endurance with this aspect. My sister's been through a lot of tough **** in her life and she just keeps pushing and pushing. Nothing gets her down for too long and your son's probably the same way. I think Pluto is imbued with the wisdom to understand why things happen or to at least come to understand it...to understand how to use what's happened to grow and to not let these things hold it back
-So just..I'm sending my love to your son that he finds the meaning in what's happened to him , the 'reason' why it happened and how it's not gonna keep him down