woah, that’s nice to hear! i was basically told venus in capricorn was more of a curse than a placement, it’s bugged me for years.
Are you sure the person who told you that said the curse was Venus in Capricorn, not Venus square Moon?
Saying a placement in your chart is a curse is shoddy astrology. Placements can be challenging, in some cases, but that's not the same thing. Another way astrologers describe placements that make them sound like curses is using words like fall, detriment, poorly placed, or weak. Those words do have astrological meaning, but not quite the same as what they mean in general use.
Certain signs don't showcase a planet that strongly; those are the planet's fall or detriment signs. When a planet is in fall or detriment, it's rather like it's wearing clothes that don't fit quite right. However, Capricorn is not a fall or detriment sign for Venus.
Venus square Moon isn't really a curse either, although it would make more sense if someone interpreted it that way. Squares are considered difficult aspects, because they're friction. Planets in square always want, and need, completely different, usually irreconcilable, things.
I suppose we could regard that square as a bit extra challenging because of the sign placements involved. Moon's fall sign is Capricorn, and one of Venus's fall signs is Aries. So while Moon doesn't dislike Aries and Venus doesn't dislike Capricorn, they find each other's placements uncomfortable. That's been described as the planets disliking each other's clothes, or more succinctly, mutual aversion.
In practical terms, you're experiencing that conflict for yourself: conflicting very strong needs that both show up in how you relate to people.
i’ve only ever been involved with people who were (for lack of a better word) obsessed with me rather than mutually interested. it created an uneven balance in the relationship and was the source of the many bizarre things happening
That is a pitfall of your Pluto placement. The midheaven doesn't just represent your career, it also represents your public image. How you're seen from a distance. How your public, whatever your public is, sees you.
Planets at your midheaven tend to draw a certain kind of response, again and again. When I was just starting to get into astrology, someone--who did not know me at all, except, slightly, online--looked at my chart and said, "People see you as an oddball, but an oddball who gets along with others." Very true, and I have Uranus in Libra on my midheaven.
In your case, the planet right at your midheaven is Pluto. That's the most alluring and deadly of the planets. It invites obsession. It stands for power.
Usually, when people get obsessed with another person, they perceive that other person as having power that they themselves lack. That's a Pluto thing. You may or may not feel that powerful yourself, but you show power to others, unconsciously, just by being. And as you've seen, this Pluto power can really get out of hand.
Incidentally, Pluto also represents the taboo... and sexuality. Mars, also close to your midheaven, is also associated with sexuality. Those placements in a person with atypical sexuality could lend themselves to a public image created by making that known. I think, if you wanted to, you could become a public face for whatever kind of atypical sexuality you have. And define public however you will. It could mean being known for that in your community, or social media fame, or something like that. Or, who knows, bigger.
i would not say i am on the aromantic spectrum as i do desire romantic connection and things alike but it’s more about how i am as a person that makes it harder. i’m closed off and seemingly aloof so it makes things very difficult. i think you can form long lasting platonic bonds while being like this as i have a lot of very close friends, but it makes a romantic connection forming harder.
I misinterpreted, then. But it does still look, to me, like having romance in your life is probably not your top priority.
If you're dealing with a difference in sexuality, too, it may take gaining more comfort with that, and being ready to be out, to make romantic connections happen.
there’s not much you can do with that degree especially where i’m from, and the only thing it can really lead you is academia or something surrounding communication (something along the lines of corporate communications, marketing, etc.) i’m not the best with either of these things, and they don’t excite me much either.
Academia can be described by Sagittarius. There's that. But Sagittarius also describes law (everything from lawyers to cops to judges to politicians) and religion and philosophy and travel and foreigners. And, more generally, doing things for the sake of experiencing them. If one manifestation of Sagittarius doesn't speak to you, look to others.
Pluto at the midheaven opens up even more possibilities, and makes choosing the right sort of career all the more crucial: if you choose something that doesn't resonate for you, planets at the midheaven get especially problematic, and Pluto tends to be problematic just as it is. To name a few possibilities: Pluto rules what's underground, so if you have any interest in geology, you could study that and be a mining consultant. Or design sewer systems (that's a whole subset of urban planning). Or go with the muckraking side of Pluto: Pluto exposes things. Investigative journalist. Documentarian. Those are Plutonian careers, and typically involve travel, too.
That's not an exhaustive list, either. Just a few ideas to start the brainstorming.