PeacefulHeart
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For the heck of it, I decided to look up a childhood friend's natal chart. This girl (now a woman) had a very negative influence in my life. She was very emotionally abusive and controlling. I was very surprised to see that she has a Grand Earth Trine (as do I).
I am wondering if there is anything in either of our charts that points to why she may have latched on to me. Could she have subconsciously sensed our similarities and latched on to me? Did she sense that I was weak in one area and that she had room to pounce? Was she weak in an area and saw one of my strengths as a way to balance herself out? I am intrigued about the possibility that some of this could be explained in our birth charts.
It may help if I give you a bit of a background about my friendship with this girl, so here goes:
I met her in junior high school, when I was 11. She had switched schools. She had always been overweight and because of this, other kids made fun of her. I remember her first day of school and how the other kids in our class didn't want to sit beside her because of the way she looked. I thought it was a stupid reason to judge someone and I sat beside her anyway. I decided to give her a chance. However, after time, I discovered the sort of person she really was.
Our "friendship" started out as a lie. She agreed to stop spreading rumours about me if I became friends with her (it sounds bizarre, but hey, this was junior high!) and from the start, she tried to get whatever she could from me. She used me for school lunches and convinced me to do her homework for her (ie. "a good friend would never let me fail".) She also controlled who I talked to and what I wore. She was very power-oriented and wanted to make sure that she looked better than me.
Even the teachers/staff at school couldn't figure out why we were friends. We seemed to be opposites. But over time, she completely crushed my self esteem and destroyed all of the other friendships that I had. I finally had enough during my first year of high school and stopped talking to her. However, she tried really hard to regain contact with me. She was a very toxic person and my family hated her.
I don't have any hard feelings towards her now. I realize that she did the things she did because of her upbringing and how she came to understand the world. Her mom was very verbally abusive with her and sometimes hit her. I think she felt powerless and sought out ways to make herself feel more in control.
Anyway, it's interesting that we both have Grand Earth Trines, and both of our Moons are in the Trines (in Virgo, nonetheless). It may be interesting to add that her Trine forms a Kite with Mercury and Mercury is a part of my Trine.
But, please take a look and let me know if you notice anything unusual about our charts. Don't let my insights/background info make you biased
Thank you.
I am wondering if there is anything in either of our charts that points to why she may have latched on to me. Could she have subconsciously sensed our similarities and latched on to me? Did she sense that I was weak in one area and that she had room to pounce? Was she weak in an area and saw one of my strengths as a way to balance herself out? I am intrigued about the possibility that some of this could be explained in our birth charts.
It may help if I give you a bit of a background about my friendship with this girl, so here goes:
I met her in junior high school, when I was 11. She had switched schools. She had always been overweight and because of this, other kids made fun of her. I remember her first day of school and how the other kids in our class didn't want to sit beside her because of the way she looked. I thought it was a stupid reason to judge someone and I sat beside her anyway. I decided to give her a chance. However, after time, I discovered the sort of person she really was.
Our "friendship" started out as a lie. She agreed to stop spreading rumours about me if I became friends with her (it sounds bizarre, but hey, this was junior high!) and from the start, she tried to get whatever she could from me. She used me for school lunches and convinced me to do her homework for her (ie. "a good friend would never let me fail".) She also controlled who I talked to and what I wore. She was very power-oriented and wanted to make sure that she looked better than me.
Even the teachers/staff at school couldn't figure out why we were friends. We seemed to be opposites. But over time, she completely crushed my self esteem and destroyed all of the other friendships that I had. I finally had enough during my first year of high school and stopped talking to her. However, she tried really hard to regain contact with me. She was a very toxic person and my family hated her.
I don't have any hard feelings towards her now. I realize that she did the things she did because of her upbringing and how she came to understand the world. Her mom was very verbally abusive with her and sometimes hit her. I think she felt powerless and sought out ways to make herself feel more in control.
Anyway, it's interesting that we both have Grand Earth Trines, and both of our Moons are in the Trines (in Virgo, nonetheless). It may be interesting to add that her Trine forms a Kite with Mercury and Mercury is a part of my Trine.
But, please take a look and let me know if you notice anything unusual about our charts. Don't let my insights/background info make you biased
Thank you.