His ascendent in Capricorn isn't the most comunicative of signs, and with Neptune right there, he seems illusive, can't be pinned down, which is not necessarily deceptive, but at any rate other-worldly, off in a cloud by himself. Venus also there would make him good looking, but with Saturn he's aloof and on the cool side, not at all demonstrative.
His cancer descendent is emotional and home loving, ruled by the moon trine sun/mercury, which describes his ideal partner.
Are you that person?
You have a Venus/Saturn square, so his coldness is similar to your way of feeling and expressing your affections, and his detachment doesn't necessarily turn you off. Your sun/neptune conjunction resonates with the Neptune on his ascendent, and your ascendent just into cancer makes you look to him like the type he instinctively longs for. The ruler of your 4th of home, in cancer's house, and exactly on your descendent reinforces this image.
However, while he has a trine showing an easy and relaxed relationship with his partner, your descendent and planets housed there are squared a Saturn/mars opposition, and conjunct your nodes. You need a bit of pepper and friction between you and your partner. Uranus in a positive aspect with all this shows you a way to release this energy, with lots of freedom and space around you even in a relationship.
Your moon is very independent, impulsive and fiery, on the cusp of the 11th, so friends are very important to you. But it isn't strongly integrated into your chart, just as his isn't in his chart aside from the trine to sun. So emotionally you both tend to be detached and aloof.
Putting the two charts together to form a composite the same theme is carried out, with a moon in an intellectual airy sign, that doesn't really relate to anything much in the relationship chart. So on the one hand, this reflects the way each of you have this type of detachment individually, on the other hand emotions and feelings are a large part of a romantic relationship together, so on this level you don't really have this base to hold you together.
Venus of affections is also weakly tied in, with a wide conjunction with fascinating but eruptive Uranus, and Neptune of illusions and fantasy.
Going back to the synastry chart, he has Chiron of "learning through pain" exactly on his descendent so he has a lot of lessons to learn from relationships, and it will not be easy for him. Because your ascendent/descendent axes are flipped, this Chiron falls in your first house, bringing you a bit of grief in expressing yourself in the relationship.
Jupiter on his descendent falls on your ascendent so he does make you feel good and brings out your personality.
When we flip the charts, his Venus/uranus/neptune/saturn are on your descendent, which makes for a very intense relationship.
Add to this mixture your pluto on his mercury, trying to change his way of thinking, and his Saturn on your mercury criticising and nagging you.
His Saturn there also touches your Venus, so his coldness will spill over from not being affectionate to being cold in the relationship itself.
And, if this isn't enough, his Neptune there makes for a lot of illusions and deception.
This relationship is very heavy duty. There is a lot of karma involved, working out old soul's issues. It can be very helpful for the two of you to stimulate your maturity, but you would feel very uncomfortable in the relationship in the long run, once the lessons have been learned and you are ready to move on. Also because, a love relationship needs love and affection and an emotional tie, and these just aren't here.
Have you looked at your progressed chart? There is an incredible amassing of energy in your 7th of partners. Remember, this house rules not only marriage but any type of partners.
And half of these planets are tied with the mars/saturn opposition exactly on your midheaven/IC. You seem to moving towards a lot of career development, and working with a partner will stimulate you greatly.
This is also why you currently feel pushed to enter a romantic relationship, your energy is all concentrated there.
Good luck to you, try not to think about him, it may have already run its course for you.
Turn your energies towards your career and the rest will come automatically.
His cancer descendent is emotional and home loving, ruled by the moon trine sun/mercury, which describes his ideal partner.
Are you that person?
You have a Venus/Saturn square, so his coldness is similar to your way of feeling and expressing your affections, and his detachment doesn't necessarily turn you off. Your sun/neptune conjunction resonates with the Neptune on his ascendent, and your ascendent just into cancer makes you look to him like the type he instinctively longs for. The ruler of your 4th of home, in cancer's house, and exactly on your descendent reinforces this image.
However, while he has a trine showing an easy and relaxed relationship with his partner, your descendent and planets housed there are squared a Saturn/mars opposition, and conjunct your nodes. You need a bit of pepper and friction between you and your partner. Uranus in a positive aspect with all this shows you a way to release this energy, with lots of freedom and space around you even in a relationship.
Your moon is very independent, impulsive and fiery, on the cusp of the 11th, so friends are very important to you. But it isn't strongly integrated into your chart, just as his isn't in his chart aside from the trine to sun. So emotionally you both tend to be detached and aloof.
Putting the two charts together to form a composite the same theme is carried out, with a moon in an intellectual airy sign, that doesn't really relate to anything much in the relationship chart. So on the one hand, this reflects the way each of you have this type of detachment individually, on the other hand emotions and feelings are a large part of a romantic relationship together, so on this level you don't really have this base to hold you together.
Venus of affections is also weakly tied in, with a wide conjunction with fascinating but eruptive Uranus, and Neptune of illusions and fantasy.
Going back to the synastry chart, he has Chiron of "learning through pain" exactly on his descendent so he has a lot of lessons to learn from relationships, and it will not be easy for him. Because your ascendent/descendent axes are flipped, this Chiron falls in your first house, bringing you a bit of grief in expressing yourself in the relationship.
Jupiter on his descendent falls on your ascendent so he does make you feel good and brings out your personality.
When we flip the charts, his Venus/uranus/neptune/saturn are on your descendent, which makes for a very intense relationship.
Add to this mixture your pluto on his mercury, trying to change his way of thinking, and his Saturn on your mercury criticising and nagging you.
His Saturn there also touches your Venus, so his coldness will spill over from not being affectionate to being cold in the relationship itself.
And, if this isn't enough, his Neptune there makes for a lot of illusions and deception.
This relationship is very heavy duty. There is a lot of karma involved, working out old soul's issues. It can be very helpful for the two of you to stimulate your maturity, but you would feel very uncomfortable in the relationship in the long run, once the lessons have been learned and you are ready to move on. Also because, a love relationship needs love and affection and an emotional tie, and these just aren't here.
Have you looked at your progressed chart? There is an incredible amassing of energy in your 7th of partners. Remember, this house rules not only marriage but any type of partners.
And half of these planets are tied with the mars/saturn opposition exactly on your midheaven/IC. You seem to moving towards a lot of career development, and working with a partner will stimulate you greatly.
This is also why you currently feel pushed to enter a romantic relationship, your energy is all concentrated there.
Good luck to you, try not to think about him, it may have already run its course for you.
Turn your energies towards your career and the rest will come automatically.