In a world built on so many illusions and lies, and becoming more and more depersonalized, Pluto's energy might indeed seem scary and intense
Though thinking abut it, when hasn't it been? It depends where Pluto is and the aspects it makes.
Society doesn't generally teach you about transformation, channeling inner or raw desires into a higher form of manifestation/energy and accepting the fact that some things are meant to happen and you shouldn't remain stuck on them.
I have a Bundle-type chart. Pluto is on the handle. I am in a continuous Pluto Transit until 50 something. Every planet, the ASC, some asteroid, and the South Node will be touched by it/some have already been. Saturn in Pisces in mutual reception with Neptune in Cappy is the Dispositor of my chart.
Y'all placing the fault on the stars but the manifestation is everywhere and in our hands more or less.
From the beginnings of time until now, in the 21st century, so much wrong has been done, that [some] wrongs today are necessary and good.
Tragedies and Sad stories happening once you've grown up are made of systematically ignored warnings. Nothing happens suddenly, and the way this Universe works, is not to ultimately destroy you either, or at least, not your learning process. People are scared of an invisible force that makes them suffer but that's not what it is. And whatever it is, it starts forming from inside you.
I like drawing a parallel to the photography of stars and the milky way. Only during the "scary" night, cold or not, when everything is more still, you can photograph the beauty of stars/milky way and vaguely realize the size of all the Universes and stars. During the day, you are like in a warm, blanket-y illusion, where the clouds and light don't easily let objectives see past them. I don't know if the way some of us see and feel this world is deeply encoded, differently from how it is others. Thus it makes it useless to try and make others see exactly like you, but instead teach them to be a better form of themselves.
I am not speaking of individual tragedies, and it's not the case to over-personalize either. It would be egoistical to pretend of a stranger to do that.