I'm not sure if this would be more fit to psychological or spiritual astrology as it borders both. I've had lots of problems with Fire people and wonder if anyone else can relate?
Natally I have very much Earth and Water placements, two Air placements in addition to that but no Fire at all. I often have hard time dealing with people with natal fire placements. Not often I attract people with dominating Fire charts, but Fire moons with earthly or watery suns seem to be quite common! And in the end they all come off as disappointingly selfish, that they come off as compassionate and helpful at first but in the end discard me if I don't offer ego boosts to them. Only twice I've attracted people with most of their natal planets in Fire signs and in both cases I've left thinking if they're narcissistic. "I care about you only as long as it benefits me - once I'm done, you're only that crazy person who can't let go" woud be their attitude. I don't also understand how these people treat life as a complete joke and diss me for being too serious like: "Whoa your watery emotions are psycho! I was just joking" and then I end up wondering... okay when is it that such person should even be taken seriously? Is it okay to hurt them and if they react, it would still be a joke? As they have done to me sometimes.
But then this can't be healthy. Am I just attracting something that could energetically be "toxic masculine" due to lack of this element myself? Or is it just because I don't understand Fire element, they all only come off to me as selfish, domineering, ignorant of others and narcissistic? Is there a way to heal relationship with Fire energy/masculine archetypes and be their equal instead of being treated as an object/pawn/trophy by them? Or to stop seeing myself as narcissistic for starting to embody more Fiery qualities.
Also, are Fire moons ultimately selfish souls, if Ego (sun in compassionate water or practical earth) is just an illusion of conscious mind?
Natally I have very much Earth and Water placements, two Air placements in addition to that but no Fire at all. I often have hard time dealing with people with natal fire placements. Not often I attract people with dominating Fire charts, but Fire moons with earthly or watery suns seem to be quite common! And in the end they all come off as disappointingly selfish, that they come off as compassionate and helpful at first but in the end discard me if I don't offer ego boosts to them. Only twice I've attracted people with most of their natal planets in Fire signs and in both cases I've left thinking if they're narcissistic. "I care about you only as long as it benefits me - once I'm done, you're only that crazy person who can't let go" woud be their attitude. I don't also understand how these people treat life as a complete joke and diss me for being too serious like: "Whoa your watery emotions are psycho! I was just joking" and then I end up wondering... okay when is it that such person should even be taken seriously? Is it okay to hurt them and if they react, it would still be a joke? As they have done to me sometimes.
But then this can't be healthy. Am I just attracting something that could energetically be "toxic masculine" due to lack of this element myself? Or is it just because I don't understand Fire element, they all only come off to me as selfish, domineering, ignorant of others and narcissistic? Is there a way to heal relationship with Fire energy/masculine archetypes and be their equal instead of being treated as an object/pawn/trophy by them? Or to stop seeing myself as narcissistic for starting to embody more Fiery qualities.
Also, are Fire moons ultimately selfish souls, if Ego (sun in compassionate water or practical earth) is just an illusion of conscious mind?