If people with more power than ourselves are capable of causing us strain while we're genuinely trying to change from mindsets that ourselves and other would rather us not be in, then are those causing pressure and stress in a position to criticise us for not progressing. Some mindsets for changing ourselves can have a timeframe that if elapsed can make take more will and energy to change ourselves after. Add that onto us being forced into situations in the first place and action being taken before honest provability, then why not allow people the mental space to better themselves?
Things can become describable as hypocrisy when they find themselves in grey areas. Can strain from seemingly good people against our will ever cause a beneficial mindset if it's not applied with honest reasoning?