Hmm not quite what I meant. lol I was kind of launching off the concept of relationships into the realm of a core question that haunts me, which is what am 'I' and if that is fundamentally/universally linked to the concept of 'we'. Not just romantic, but also platonic, and also societal.
And I'm not sure it's about finding 'decent' men out there. It's good to know yourself enough to know what you find compatible, etc. Mostly, I fell into my first and only relationship because we clicked and bonded and wanted intimacy. We agreed from the beginning that the relationship was as much a disclosure of ourselves as it was a discovery of ourselves.
I think really getting to know someone and bonding starts with vulnerability with someone you just 'click' with, as well as a certain level of self-awareness. I think relationships only last when both people are working on themselves, more so than working on the relationship.
Idk if you wanna say you're destined to be an 'I'. lol I think maybe you'll fall into a relationship when you click rather than when you search for the relationship itself. Like why are you ready now for a relationship now? For me, I found a person I really clicked with and wanted to know more deeply and then I was like 'oh hey, YES, to the relationship'. lol