and that is exactly what I have a problem with. To be Popular strongly socially accepted always trying to show off. In todays world that probably means you are wrong the people that are cool have little to no friends in todays world.
Plus why As a Scorpio would I be looking for a relationship with someone who has a lot of friends (distraction from me) as yes it may be nice to know some new people and I might like them and find someone I want to hang out with but if they are constantly going and doing things when do I get that sense of merging or adventure or any of that. Where is the me against the world thing or all the other stuff I like.
The more show offy libra just grates on my nerves. The social recluse Libra (yes there are some if they are in a relationship) grates on my nerves too cause they are so like Anti-Social and pessimistic about the world criticizing everything
Wonder why this placement if its domicile is so much fail for the way the world is. I bet it was better under different circumstances where the world wasn't in general so dumb and superficial and trying to socially outcast anyone who wants to be cool and different.
Well, as a Venus in Aries, I can only put this bluntly.
Venus is the SIGN of social graces.
Venus in Sagittarius would rather have fun, don't care what anyone thinks, and doesn't really value the mundane social structure in society. A relationship, a real one, cannot function in a sign that just wants to have fun and do what it wants.
Venus in domicile is not necessarily "compatible" with every sign, but Venus is at home in Libra because Libra is considerate of the "rules". Venus is in the chart because social rules are important if we expect to live in an orderly society and if we expect not to offend others or harm other. That's why they exist in the first place. Venus in Libras are most aware of this. They are most conscious of whether they are offending others, and fight in the name of peace. They reflect their partner. If you are rude, they act rude, if you are not ,they don't. Libras care about their appearance. Venus is the planet of beauty, and as beauty is a superficial thing, it's not something that is always "real".
Venus rules the general idea of getting along and love, but this doesn't mean everyone with Venus in Libra will be loved by ALL, and that will be decided by aspects, house placements, and general compatibility in a composite/synastry chart. However, a Venus in Libra usually doesn't want to make enemies.
I want to ask you. Have you ever told a Venus in Libra that you don't like how they act? More than likely they tried really hard to please you and to keep your friendship. That is what Venus would do because she doesn't like enemies.
You may not like all this "phoniness" but that is what superficial Venus is about: social graces. Venus in Libras work on their charm, and try to be pleasant with everyone, with a sense of fair play.
As Venus is a relaxed sign, Venus hates anything energetic, ugly, rude, mean, too straight-forward, or too harsh. Which sign do you think fits with Venus most? Aries or Libra? Libra, of course.
Why does Venus value these social graces? Because in the world, and not just your own world, a general standard of "manners" ensures that everyone lives peacefully and without tension.
Even you recognize that you use these manners in public (being the Mars in Libra you are). Why? Because you recognize that you could offend someone. Venus in Libra recognizes this importance more than you do. They focus more on social graces, whereas you just recognize it's there, but don't pay much attention to it.
While you see it's important, you are Venus in Sag. Venus in Sag is not Venus' strongest suit in dignities and debilities because while Venus in Sag might some-what recognize the need to be fair, they don't recognize the need to be gracious, preferring instead to let lose some, to be straight-forward even rude sometimes, and to be free to do whatever it wants.
But remember, when we do whatever we want, we can't equally consider others in the process. When we are straight-forward, we will hurt someone else, when we are not gracious, we show the attitude of "selfishness", that we don't care about anyone except ourselves.
Venus is NOT that kind of planet. Your Venus can't get along with this Venus because this Venus cares too much about others, the way Venus likes it. Whereas you care to a certain extent, but sometimes fall into the "independent" fire sign way of "selfishness", and so many times, they do what they want to do, regardless of social consequences, and regardless of anyone else's feelings.
Jupiter falls in Capricorn, so Sagittariuses tend not to see any rules before them at all, as it breaks the need to expand.
But signs like Sagittarius and Aries can't last in friendships or relationships very long because Sag is too free-minded and a bit intolerant of those who don't believe like they do. Aries is too impatient and gets bored too easily. Venus recognizes that these signs won't last. She also recognizes that these signs are too impatient and intolerant, and she wants someone who has standards, but is willing to consider others' weaknesses. Fire signs jump to conclusions way too often.
Aries makes friends easily, being the initiators in the zodiac. It's a masculine planet, so it's especially easy for men to admire it. But they don't MAINTAIN or KEEP friends for very long, moving on to newer and better friends. Aries is also selfish. Sure, they don't tell you about your social issues, and aren't concerned about how they look, but this also can be a reflection that they don't care about their partners, their friends, how their friends feel or think, and don't care if you embarrass yourself in public. In fact, they just don't care. They just want admirers and to be the leader. They care about themselves. Unlike Venus in it's fall placement, this isn't evident until you actually get in an intimate relationship with a Venus in Aries, with no aspects or poor aspects, and a very fiery house, and Mars in Aries with no aspects or negative aspects...They love you, but they care more about themselves.
Of course, this is the general gist of Aries vs Venus.
An actual person with this placement might have aspects, houses, and other placements that make them caring individuals. And Venus has to travel through Aries, even if it's uncomfortable. It's very good at starting new relationships, falling in love easily, and having fun, it just gets bored and will do what it wants to do, and may not care what anyone thinks, not even it's partner.
Aries is a daring flirt, and may even flirt with their spouse sitting next to them! Whereas Libra would consider the spouse and care.
Take your pick according to what you like, but Venus, herself, prefers the more caring sign, and the one that cares about it's appearances.