Intimate relationship with my close friend. Future?

ScorpAsc5

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I met this guy at work. We became friends real quick. I didn't know that he likes me the same way I do. Well, gradually we started getting close and on my bday yesterday we got intimated. Thoroughly unplanned. We didn't have sex but everything else.

He did cry though. He confessed that he loves me and I did the same. But he himself is going through life crisis and told me that he does not want any relationship whatsoever and wants to be really good and close friends.

We both got it complicated but I do understand that if you both like each other and because of worldly circumstances, if you cannot escalate your relationship, it is really difficult to act just friends.

He asked me to think about it and talk all together and decide what could be the best for both of us about this situation.

I am asking you guys, what would be the future of this relation now? If you need more details, I will post much more information. But we do go out a lot for drives, eating, hangouts and blah.

Thank you! :)
 
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IleneK

Premium Member
It is hard for me to understand how you could even consider:

"he does not want any relationship whatsoever and wants to be really good and close friends."
This sounds so much like the last fellow that you have been struggling to get over.
 

ScorpAsc5

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That's why I asked about it again. So he is talking two things at one time -
1. I love you - and getting intimate
2. I need friends right now, not ready for romance.

So I am almost in the same situation again. Obviously why would I want to go through all that past **** again? I clearly said you need to go away, complete cut off , that's why I did for the last fellow right? But he is keeping tab on me much better now. He is taking care more than he did before. He punched a guy for me when someone else tried to even come closer at some bar.

There are two mixed reactions coming up from his side. He is planning camping in 2 weeks to go and finding ways to communicate and hang out. He is making lunch for me and just not letting me go from his arms even when its all safe.

Its thoroughly confusing to me. Hence I asked. I understood he is confused. I am not. But I guess i would have to break this friendship also and hurt both of us before it goes way too rot to handle.
 

IleneK

Premium Member
Don't be sucked into this again.

There is an old saying that goes,
"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me."

No need to indulge your confusion here. Just stop the whole matter completely as long as it is under such unsatisfying conditions.
 

Mitch

Member
I met this guy at work. We became friends real quick. I didn't know that he likes me the same way I do. Well, gradually we started getting close and on my bday yesterday we got intimated. Thoroughly unplanned. We didn't have sex but everything else.

He did cry though. He confessed that he loves me and I did the same. But he himself is going through life crisis and told me that he does not want any relationship whatsoever and wants to be really good and close friends.

We both got it complicated but I do understand that if you both like each other and because of worldly circumstances, if you cannot escalate your relationship, it is really difficult to act just friends.

He asked me to think about it and talk all together and decide what could be the best for both of us about this situation.

I am asking you guys, what would be the future of this relation now? If you need more details, I will post much more information. But we do go out a lot for drives, eating, hangouts and blah.

Thank you! :)


I'll start by saying I'm not a romance specialist but I'm working on honing my skills more in that direction and was intrigued by the post:happy:. It seems to me that there are 2 prominent (more powerful) aspects in this chart.

1. Mercury-Chiron trine which helps with communication. Sounds like you two at least have the communication part down however I don't see any other magic love connection in the air (aspects or synchronizations) beside this verbal communication.

2. Neptune-Juno trine. Even though this is not a hard angle with Juno (won't be as severe) it's still with Juno. Juno is wishful thinking, illusion, unrealistic, selfish and sexual. One of Neptunes meanings is longevity, so this combination could manifest into a long-term and wishful thinking but unrealistic affair/friendship that is going nowhere.

Mitch
 

TheFish

Well-known member
>> he does not want any relationship whatsoever and wants to be really good and close friends.<<

You don't need astrology to figure this out. He's just not that much into you - sorry to say . He's just fooling around a little bit. Don't invest yourself.
 

ScorpAsc5

Well-known member
Incredible! Thank you lovely people for jumping in to protect and save me from another developing mess.

Well I did talk to him about total end, dead end. Parting ways completely. Seems like he is not agreeing to it. And wants to meet me. I don't even want to meet that human. I am just being extremely strict about the situation.

If he is stuck on being friends and I am stuck on being lovers, the best solution in this situation is to part ways thoroughly so that we could avoid hurting further to each other :)

I hope it ends now.

Well thank you so much, really! I knew I am going back towards the same previous situation but wanted to take decision.

Have a good one! :)
 
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