Weren't you the person who asked about emotional abuse and Saturn once? If that was your dad, and he passed in the meantime, I'm sorry. I can look at the chart, send it if you want to. It can be beneficial for you to learn about this if you're around the time of your 2nd Jupiter return.
Here's what makes a covert different:
Covert's abuse method is called gaslighting. It's a method of driving a person crazy often used by the military and secret services. The term is inspired by this movie:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light
The abuse is never obvious, the narc denies it and you're not sure if it's there, at least not for a long time. The treat you the best and the worst anyone's ever treated you at the same time. A narc used the following words to describe it:
an emotional roller coaster. Another one, the one I've already mentioned on this and other threads here used this music piece to describe it saying that I'll listen to it some day for sure, as that's his favourite:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PppJOrnVtkg
They'll say and do things in a way that's not obvious too. It seems like it's there, but it's not either.
Here are some examples:
A narc hit a victim, a young mother while she was feeding the baby. The victim asked why they did it, they said calmly, without blinking:
I didn't hit you, why are you saying someone hit you. Nobody hit you. She shared this with me a few weeks ago.
A youth's looking for a ladle to put some grains they eat every morning from a massive sack into a box. They casually ask the narc where it's at, because the closet is messy and it's off limits at all times. The narc immediately takes up an attitude. (Don't ever need them, don't ever ask anything, because they see that as an opportunity to say NO in a BIG way and dominate you). They change their facial expression and turn their head away, showing the victim that they're annoyed. They ignore the victim for a moment and then they change the tone of their voice and ask condescendingly
What do you want that for? The victim explains that what they're doing is not bad, they just want to fill the box. They ignore the victim again. Then the victim politely says they'll look for it, it's not a problem. The narc then rushes to the closet and starts bragging, they scream, the child is impossible and all these things that are uncalled for as they watch the victim shake. The next morning, they wake the victim up 4 hours earlier and aggressively order them to sit at the table at once, because they've completed what has been irresponsibly demanded of them. There is a steaming bowl decorated exotically with the most expensive organic fruit and the victim eats as the narc watches them shake. The narc then sheds a few tears kissing the victim telling them they are the most blessed victim ever to have such a compassionate narc who is willing to serve them so eagerly that early.
A narc holds a speech raising a glass and addresses everyone in the room saying:
Dear family, scapegoat #1, scapegoat #2, and those are two orphans, continuing to allude and make sarcastic remarks. They ignore the scapegoats the rest of the time. The enablers do know, yet, they are silent. Later on, scapegoat#2 asks an enabler why they're being ignored, and the enabler yells at them denying that, scolding them for being ungrateful for all the magnificent narc does for them and the family, finding an excuse for the narc, calling the scapegoat crazy and paranoid.
A narc starts yelling at a victim for keeping the lighter away from the radiator. The reason is absurd and the reaction is uncalled for, their veins show on their forehead and the whole street can hear them. They're upset becuase the victim saw their stoned photos on FB and are chickening out they'd share that with the rest of the family, so they need to make the victim look bad ASAP. The victim starts crying while the narc is standing above them, leaning towards their face and the narc goes:
Stop crying. You're only crying to upset the old folks to make them die sooner! That's establishing the terms: the victim is to keep silent. Then the victim tries to defend themselves:
You're the one doing the wrong thing here! But the narc backs off seemingly disappointed and dramatically says, obviously fake crying:
I only tried to ask you to do what I need you to do, what you need, what we all need, what's good for you too, how can you do this to me, to us?You are a bad person! And then the narc leaves. The narc comes back 2 days later all sweet and kind. They even bring the victim a gift and help them with the chores.
A group of rich kids ignores a group of poor kids in a class, but they bully them alluding to various situations wen talking in front of a teacher. They only address the victims to talk down to them. Then never bully them directly, but send the rest of the class who feel the need ot belong to bully the poor kids openly instead, promising an illusion of the integration. We call those the flying monkeys.
The astrology student narc neighbor of mine I refused to be with because he had a gf still won't leave me alone. He's stalking me and my friends online. His gaslighting is mainly starting online accounts with usernames that allude to what we've talked about, they're either pet names or keywords and he even pretended to be me on several occasions. He post wonderful poetry one day, then something degrading the next to tell me what I
am. So,
he's there, but the's not. He would later go to his basketball forum and post crypted messages to give me hints so that I don't miss a clone of his... He still spams me to make me see how
superior he is. My phone rang non-stop for a while, like in the Big Lebowski movie. I've had severe computer trouble because of him. I'm glad that the lady is safe.
All the narcs have strong Leo and Scorpio energy conflicting. I do not necessarily mean the signs or the houses, but, I've noticed that 1st house/Aries emphasis combined with the 8th or 6th house or Sco or Vir emphasized AND conflicted produces a lower order Leo-type mentality.
This experience taught me to play along, always do what they expect you to to gather enough evidence, keep track, record and archive the abuse and keep the evidence safe.