Its also a funny thing to watch how different people can be especially during trying times as we are living through now. Since I don't have a close family any longer, I can't really identify as with family gatherings but I do have a close neighbor who I've rather adopted as a faux daughter in some ways.
She has 2 little children, a girl 6 and boy not yet one. From everything I've known of her in the 4 years or so I've known her, she is a lovely person. We differ in that she is religious and was brought up to go to church and indeed, its a big part of her life now. She never neglects inviting me especially on holidays, but I've not taken her up on it yet. Its not my thing....And I explained to her that if I did, I'd prefer the kind of church of my youth, (either Roman Catholic or Episcopalian), because of the music and liturgy that I'm more familiar with and comfortable with....
What did bother me quite a bit is that many people in my neighborhood and indeed a large swath of it, comes from the Midwest, or places like Iowa, Missouri, Michigan, the colder climes. My friend's husband from Missouri and she herself has a lot of family in Michigan although she was born here.
Point being, they are all Republicans so I try and avoid politics with her, but did speak up long ago when she mentioned the importance trump had on the economic fabric of the country, and I reminded her that that spiritual fabric is far more important when we claim to be followers of Christ.
I never made the claim first, actually she did and does often.
She knows how I feel, so perhaps avoids the subject moreso now, but I feel like its a huge black wall between us and it does make me sad.
I do think she's getting (hopefully), more disenchanted by him by the day, as the truth is revealed about his scams, cons, etc. She does have a black girlfriend from her church who brings her children over and it is helpful in some regard I'd think especially realizing what the Administration did to the migrant children on the border (thousands were never returned to their parents) and is still an opened sore.
I figure if I continue to be exactly who and what I am, it will all work out in the wash in the end. I'd hate to lose someone who has so much potential and virtue as she has, imo. for some petty reason.
I'm the kind of person to "joke", but being Capricorn stellium, usually my jokes are tinged with truth. Perhaps, I'll tease her with one about putting her into the will.
There is no one else lately, so she may well be it.
My dream has always been to help organize within a community for foster children, because we do have quite a need in this country for their care (clothes, school things, etc)....but I"m getting rather old now and do have my husband and his desires to consider along the way.
So....we'll see how that goes.