If we accept everything to be 100% fact and one sided as was presented then it is a no brainer-leave. Do not even ask about your mom if she is the incarnation of satan. But why does her father, siblings and therapist all not believe all these stories? I am just reading the chart. Something seems a little off. I was abused in my early life by my father and we had a strained relationship till my early 20s and there was a lot of negativity there. He wanted a better relationship and so did I and we were opened to it. In this case i do not think her mother nor daughter want to move on.
The (college) therapist did not believe me because at the time, my father was making a lot of money and I was an international student there. Therefore, the therapist assumed I was the product of an overly priviledged environment. He claimed that because of the money I supposedly had, my story didn't add up.
Now, whether you want to believe me or not, I don't care. The therapist said those exact words: "Something seems a bit off". Why? Do you think for a split second I would waste hours and hours on a board telling a story to the tinest details to get attention from a bunch of strangers on an astrology website of all places?!
I have better things to do with my life than to make up an entire story or even sugar-coat or harshen the truth. Whether or not I'm to blame, that is to be discussed because I highly doubt any 4 year old deserves to be hit with high heels repeatedly.
I can't exactly say why my mother behaves this way with me and not with the others. I'm not in her head. My younger siblings and I have 13 year age difference, so maybe she eventually realized what she did to me was wrong. I have a brother and because he's a male, he gets away with pretty much anything.
I find it highly offensive that someone who is genuinely seeking help to break free from this pattern is being "accused" of lying. Don't you think that if I didn't want to move on, I wouldn't have asked for help?
I've been asking for help for ages and people doubt me because what they see is someone who dresses to the nines, so they don't believe my story. My story would probably be more believable if I was a trainwreck or a drug addict because that's the "stereotypical" products emanating from such backgrounds.
As for making her feel better ... I tried. I spent 1/3 of my scholarship and grant money each month to surprise her with gifts of all sorts because my father isn't an attentive man who buys her things. I tried to compensate by buying her plenty of things. I may not be the most affectionate person, but I surely showed her that I care.
I never ever in my life thought of really cutting her off until these past few days, mainly because I was away for so long that I thought the relationship would get a fresh start at some point. It didn't.
A lot of people are very much aware that certain Middle-Eastern families tend to be abusive towards their children. The stereotype is such as the father is usually the "abuser", but in my case, it is my mother.