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I've developed an intense connection with a woman at work. We worked together for a year-and-a-half before ever talking to each other. I noticed her and thought she was attractive but never approached her. She's shy and very quiet and I just assumed she wasn't interested. Then one day before a meeting she sat down across the table from me, leaned in and told me I have gorgeous eyes. After the meeting, I approached her and struck up a conversation and it felt really good being in her presence.
From then on, she would make herself available for conversation and would often approach me. We started sharing secrets and having very intimate conversations right away. We also started hugging each other every time we interacted, sometimes two to three times during the course of an hour conversation. I'm talking long, sensuous, pelvis-to-pelvis hugs that sometimes end with a mutual kiss on the cheek. About two months in, we got in an argument via text; I was jealous because I had asked her a few times to spend time with me outside of work - and she had also brought up the idea of having dinner, going out for drinks, getting lunch together, grabbing coffee, etc. - several times but always found an excuse not to spend time with me outside of work. I got upset because she frequently goes out to lunch with this married guy at work who is 18 years younger than her whom she has worked with for about 13 years. She said he is like family to her, but I think it's weird. During this argument, I confessed that I felt like I was starting to fall in love with her. She told me she cares about me as a friend...
I really don't get it. She wants to know EVERYTHING about me. She constantly asks me if I'm dating. Also, I'm fairly certain she stalks me on Facebook because she mentions things I never told her about but posted on my Facebook page. She remembers EVERYTHING I tell her. She has also turned many conversations sexual and one time wanted to know in detail what I like to do in bed. We also recently started sexting. She gives me the silent treatment when I speak to other girls at work. It's gotten pretty intense between us lately, with me making sarcastic comments and her getting extremely upset with me and really punishing me for my comments. She told me that she can't get close to me because every time she starts to, I hurt her with my comments. I hate to say it, but I really feel like she overreacts a little because my comments are not that bad. I'm just really frustrated... She also cries a lot when she's upset with me and told me she rarely cries otherwise.
She definitely has a wall up and admits it. She said she has a hard time getting close to anyone and has lost a lot of friends because of it. She told me right from the start that she is not interested in having a relationship with anyone and really likes being single. She has been single for 10 years and had one brief affair with a married man. I've tried to move on but something always brings me back to her. I feel like she is having a hard time moving on, too. I've never met anyone like her before and I feel like she has a lot of qualities I like in a female.
Can someone take a look at the synastry and let me know what you think. Is this really a one-sided attraction? I feel like the connection is mutual and very deep, but she tells me she's only interested in friendship. Our Venus-Pluto opposition is definitely noticeable in our interactions, and I also feel the effects of her Venus in my 8th house. We're both very sensitive but I think she is much more sensitive due to her Moon in Cancer because she seems to get hurt by everything I do. I'm thinking her Venus in Aries makes her appreciate her independence and her Mars in Sagittarius leads her to seek freedom. My Venus-Pluto-Neptune Yod/Boomerang seems to always make me too intense for most people as well as really obsessive and possessive. Is there something I'm missing, though? Is there a possibility she feels something beyond friendship for me? Sometimes I think she'd be okay with a physical relationship with me, but doesn't want anything beyond that. She gets flirtatious sometimes but I don't dare make a move because she told me she just wants to be friends, so I have to respect that. Then when I don't make a move, she seems to get frustrated with me and ignore me for a day or two. I am so confused...
From then on, she would make herself available for conversation and would often approach me. We started sharing secrets and having very intimate conversations right away. We also started hugging each other every time we interacted, sometimes two to three times during the course of an hour conversation. I'm talking long, sensuous, pelvis-to-pelvis hugs that sometimes end with a mutual kiss on the cheek. About two months in, we got in an argument via text; I was jealous because I had asked her a few times to spend time with me outside of work - and she had also brought up the idea of having dinner, going out for drinks, getting lunch together, grabbing coffee, etc. - several times but always found an excuse not to spend time with me outside of work. I got upset because she frequently goes out to lunch with this married guy at work who is 18 years younger than her whom she has worked with for about 13 years. She said he is like family to her, but I think it's weird. During this argument, I confessed that I felt like I was starting to fall in love with her. She told me she cares about me as a friend...
I really don't get it. She wants to know EVERYTHING about me. She constantly asks me if I'm dating. Also, I'm fairly certain she stalks me on Facebook because she mentions things I never told her about but posted on my Facebook page. She remembers EVERYTHING I tell her. She has also turned many conversations sexual and one time wanted to know in detail what I like to do in bed. We also recently started sexting. She gives me the silent treatment when I speak to other girls at work. It's gotten pretty intense between us lately, with me making sarcastic comments and her getting extremely upset with me and really punishing me for my comments. She told me that she can't get close to me because every time she starts to, I hurt her with my comments. I hate to say it, but I really feel like she overreacts a little because my comments are not that bad. I'm just really frustrated... She also cries a lot when she's upset with me and told me she rarely cries otherwise.
She definitely has a wall up and admits it. She said she has a hard time getting close to anyone and has lost a lot of friends because of it. She told me right from the start that she is not interested in having a relationship with anyone and really likes being single. She has been single for 10 years and had one brief affair with a married man. I've tried to move on but something always brings me back to her. I feel like she is having a hard time moving on, too. I've never met anyone like her before and I feel like she has a lot of qualities I like in a female.
Can someone take a look at the synastry and let me know what you think. Is this really a one-sided attraction? I feel like the connection is mutual and very deep, but she tells me she's only interested in friendship. Our Venus-Pluto opposition is definitely noticeable in our interactions, and I also feel the effects of her Venus in my 8th house. We're both very sensitive but I think she is much more sensitive due to her Moon in Cancer because she seems to get hurt by everything I do. I'm thinking her Venus in Aries makes her appreciate her independence and her Mars in Sagittarius leads her to seek freedom. My Venus-Pluto-Neptune Yod/Boomerang seems to always make me too intense for most people as well as really obsessive and possessive. Is there something I'm missing, though? Is there a possibility she feels something beyond friendship for me? Sometimes I think she'd be okay with a physical relationship with me, but doesn't want anything beyond that. She gets flirtatious sometimes but I don't dare make a move because she told me she just wants to be friends, so I have to respect that. Then when I don't make a move, she seems to get frustrated with me and ignore me for a day or two. I am so confused...
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