Happy New Year to all. As I enter the new year, I decided to move forward in life and eliminate toxic situations from my life. I had mentioned that my husband (now in the process of divorce) has been giving me mixed signals after our separation. He decided that he doesn't want to have a child, he says he might have issues down there (his assumption supposedly), then the excuse is that he doesn't want to waste money on raising a child, then the next day the issue is me...as in he's scare that upon divorce I will clean him out on child support, and another day is that he isn't making good money now (making $3,000/month) and wants to first get a job that pays really good then have a child. This was the reason of my filing the divorce that hasn't been finalized yet. It's constantly one or the other excuse. Now yesterday he says if you want, wait 2 years, while he gets a job that pays well so he can buy his first house then has a kid later lol. Mind you that I am turning 39 soon and he's turning 45 in half a year already plsu I already have a paid-off home that we didn't pay any mortgage on so there was no issue with housing for us.
When I told him good bye and asked him to leave my house seeing that he doesn't want a child and I hear excuses in that regard (never had one), he first made an excuse to come back 3 months ago when we first separated, says he loves me. While I stopped paying him attention he kept texting me, making excuses to get me out sometimes, said he didn't want to divorce at the beginning too. About 3 weeks ago, we had coffee and he asked me how I would feel if he said that he wants to return to my place (I was shocked), he also asked me what my parents say about him to get an idea how they will 'accept him'. He says he feels embarrassed in front of them. I made it known that I might be interested in his return since I figured he now wants a child. In fact he directly said to me that he wants a child in a few months upon his return, so we kind of made a plan about it, so I figured let's give it another chance since divorce isn't finalized yet. Then a week passed after that convo, I texted him "so when did you wanted to return?" and he says "I'm not sure yet" I said what do you mean? He said, "I'm not ready yet". Then I did him some random favor, so as thank you, he invited me out for a dinner a few days ago and acted like we're on a date (no kissing though). He was so attentive and all. He says that when he starts driving a truck (this way he will be making more $), whenever he returns from his work to rest for a week, he will go to Hawaii, Vegas etc during his break and he will take me with him.
He told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, he felt good with me but the problem is him, not others...his issue is in his head that he doesn't feel secure in his own skin living in the house of a woman instead of a woman living in his house (which he doesn't have) and he says he wants to return, but he knows that he has a $hitty personality and that in 2-3 months he will start exploding again from his insecurities about not owning anything and he will make me miserable and there's going to be another 'kicking him out' again and that he knows the same scenario will happen again. He says let's be friends because "I will not regret having him in my life" LOL as he will always be there for me. The problem for me is that I married him not to have him as a friend and he wasted my time a lot. He switched from one comment to another the past 3 months since we separated. My question is will he decide to come back later on? I won't accept him back, but I really want to know if he will want to return later? right now I decided to no longer contact him as Im getting tired of this situation. We had a great time on our date a few days ago and I felt like we were getting back together but he says let's be friends which I don't intend to do. What I noticed is that he is constantly wanting to keep me in his life and doesn't let go and Im wondering why...he also said on our date that I looked great. So Im Mars in Saggy (not sure what it means), he is retro Venus, so does it mean he will change his mind and want to come back?
When I told him good bye and asked him to leave my house seeing that he doesn't want a child and I hear excuses in that regard (never had one), he first made an excuse to come back 3 months ago when we first separated, says he loves me. While I stopped paying him attention he kept texting me, making excuses to get me out sometimes, said he didn't want to divorce at the beginning too. About 3 weeks ago, we had coffee and he asked me how I would feel if he said that he wants to return to my place (I was shocked), he also asked me what my parents say about him to get an idea how they will 'accept him'. He says he feels embarrassed in front of them. I made it known that I might be interested in his return since I figured he now wants a child. In fact he directly said to me that he wants a child in a few months upon his return, so we kind of made a plan about it, so I figured let's give it another chance since divorce isn't finalized yet. Then a week passed after that convo, I texted him "so when did you wanted to return?" and he says "I'm not sure yet" I said what do you mean? He said, "I'm not ready yet". Then I did him some random favor, so as thank you, he invited me out for a dinner a few days ago and acted like we're on a date (no kissing though). He was so attentive and all. He says that when he starts driving a truck (this way he will be making more $), whenever he returns from his work to rest for a week, he will go to Hawaii, Vegas etc during his break and he will take me with him.
He told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, he felt good with me but the problem is him, not others...his issue is in his head that he doesn't feel secure in his own skin living in the house of a woman instead of a woman living in his house (which he doesn't have) and he says he wants to return, but he knows that he has a $hitty personality and that in 2-3 months he will start exploding again from his insecurities about not owning anything and he will make me miserable and there's going to be another 'kicking him out' again and that he knows the same scenario will happen again. He says let's be friends because "I will not regret having him in my life" LOL as he will always be there for me. The problem for me is that I married him not to have him as a friend and he wasted my time a lot. He switched from one comment to another the past 3 months since we separated. My question is will he decide to come back later on? I won't accept him back, but I really want to know if he will want to return later? right now I decided to no longer contact him as Im getting tired of this situation. We had a great time on our date a few days ago and I felt like we were getting back together but he says let's be friends which I don't intend to do. What I noticed is that he is constantly wanting to keep me in his life and doesn't let go and Im wondering why...he also said on our date that I looked great. So Im Mars in Saggy (not sure what it means), he is retro Venus, so does it mean he will change his mind and want to come back?
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