I agree with the "ruthless honesty" - although I think that this is true for the whole chart. Owning one's chart can be hard. None of us is perfect.
But Pluto on the 7th can be rough because it implies so much change and even violent change...which may not actually mean "violence" the way we think of it...
But DEPENDING UPON THE ASPECTS PLUTO MAKES it can be evolution that we recognize as necessary ....right away...at the time....or at some time LATER that whatever major changes are going on. The longer it takes for us to recognize that irrevocable change, the harder we will work against it.
At the heart of this placement is the peculiar WAY that change will happen in that house. Remember: the 7th house is the house of the partner...what we are attracted to....but....at ANY TIME it is the "mirror" of who WE are. So we can "outgrow" the type of person we are "originally" attracted to. And we have to be HONEST about this....and not feel guilt about it. That doesn't mean you are relieved of your responsibilities to that person, but the WAY the change happens will vary from time to time.
What you find attractive in another may have a lot to do with what you do or do not find attractive in yourself. It could have to do with changing GOALS. Also, the HOUSE Pluto rules...unless your have Taurus rising which means the Pluto is in Scorpio in the 7th...is very important and will be part of any change.
It's really hard to "be OK" with the Plutonian change that happens through our lives. Especially if there is a lot of fixity in the chart. But even without fixed signs, Pluto, being the natural ruler of Scorpio, which is fixed, is very deep and personal. And when there is Plutonian change it can feel like death.
I remember a woman client who, because of a bad accident could no longer do her job, which was a career and which she was very invested in. She was fine afterward, but never again could she do that particular job. It wasn't about the money, as that was not an issue. It was about the change. From having a CAREER and being a professional to having to do something else....she had lived her whole life up til that time around her career and when she had to sell her practice she said she felt like she was dying. Literally. Of course she didn't die....but she felt that way for along time, and no amount of therapy or my help as an astrologer could speed up that process.
I don't know if any of this helps you, but you are not alone. Pluto and personal "evolution" is really rough. Everybody gets this type of inevitable dynamic in their life sooner or later. But with Pluto on an angle, it's always really difficult.
Even after you "own" it.
With placement like this everyone has to find his/her own "way" ...own "path" and to figure out...."what does the universe need me to do with this?"
LIN