ardentika
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I respect your opinion but I wasn’t projecting my own beliefs. I was giving my perspective. I think that hearing from different ones of us helps him take a bit from each and find his truth. We all interpret things in our own way.
I do strongly believe that anyone who feels that they have to “save” or “fix” another behaves as such due to early childhood programming. Codependency keeps us shackled to another person and held back; it is ego. Codependency is ego interacting with ego — enabling each other to continue on in patterns that are unhealthy.
I believe there’s a lesson in every relationship, absolutely.
My approach isn’t everybody’s cup of tea...but for a few, it is their double shot of whiskey.
I also don’t base things on Freud. I think he has a few good points and was mentioning him in a tongue in cheek way.
I can’t get on board with the codependency thing, though.
But anyways, I always enjoy your posts and appreciate your perspective.
Hah, I see what you mean, you got a point. And that's true there is a lesson in every relationship.
Oh I know you don't base things on Freud, was just mentioning hah. Also I'm not sure I agree with the part of "helping" and "fixing" being a part of early childhood programming. This is simply the MOST human trait. I don't know a single person that did not want or try to help one of the parents, mostly the mother. It's an instinct. Well, maybe I do know one person, and he is the most selfish and rude being I know. So there ya go with the results.
Simply these days we live among a very psychological generation that this is the way we help each other. Just my observations tho.
nnm227, I will be honest with you, because I was in a similar position as you are. I too met someone who made me experience things out of this world, and I'm not talking about love or shiz. I'm talking about dreams, premonitions, synchronicities, him talking to me in my dream and then I find out what he said there is not made up but true. I even saw his room one time. It was crazy. Each time we went out I felt this odd energy between us as he was coming close to me, it was so intense many times I wanted to just turn around and leave. We never dated, we were never romantic. At some point I obsessed over him, who he was, what was this, why it was so intense, I wanted answers badly. From him, from the universe.. I'm a huge skeptic, I had way too many people telling me he would act as a twin, but I never believed that ****. Altho he fits the bill perfectly. He is prolly on the same level of awareness as me, perhaps not THAT much, but I was still surprised. This hooked me even more cos I wanted to dig deep in his psyche.
I had times where he was responding poorly, and I'd get pissed off. Each time I got pissed off there was something I was not seeing. Each time I got a clearing and reached a point of realization, bam he would respond within days. It was fascinating, it was like a dance.
We spoke about that and he openly shared he was avoiding me sometimes because he felt that obsessive vibe from and that threw him off, he also shared that he sees that commonly in people, but there is nothing he can do rather than step back and see if the person deals with it and overcomes that energy. Needless to say I was on awe that someone could be so mature, haha.
I too fell in that state of "OMG, I need to help you, I need to clear you, I need to help me, clear me" bla bla. This is another obsessive thought that I do see in you too. I came to realize I can only heal myself as much as to not feel bad. I cannot clear more than I am given to clear, if that makes sense. If its meant to happen it shall happen, one way or another. I cannot force anything, I did all I felt i had to do, the rest is on him. Sometimes we gotta let go and move on. And it's painful I know. I too had an 1 orb moon-moon conjunction. Sun/Moon too. He too has some weed addiction problems, which I used to criticize a lot, but now I get it. I was put in the same position as him, so I get it , really, I can't judge. Our charts are almost identical, mimicing each other, so I do believe he is indeed a lot like me, with the same fears, same beliefs, just tiny bit different. I too got hooked up with astrology, that we have this amazing composite Libra Sun/Merc/Venus stellium, all at 22 degrees. (my favorite and spiritual number hehe)
And funnily enough we met at 22. His juno conjuncts my Sun/Moon midpoint, my moon conjuncts his Sun/moon .. you get the picture, it looks perfect on paper.
What I'm saying is, let go of control a bit. Cos from what I get from your post you almost sound like you believe that if you clear more he will come back to you. That's definitely trying to control things and it's a huge nu nu. You can't just become more aware with clearings. Those things tend to happen on their own terms, simply because someone above sees better how much you can take, and even if you might believe you CAN take a greater awareness, that can literally fry your brain and psyche. SO everyone wakes up at their own terms and their own speed.
I'm sorry I went on rambling with my story, but I know it feels good when you know this happened to someone else too and you are not alone in the madness haha <3