To feel joyful. What causes and how to overcome melancholy?
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Tessie
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Hey there, how are you?
What mental problems have you been having? You say problems with socialising, is it something diagnosed or a self-report?
Are you just very anxious and fearful of general situations, panicky, feel adrenaline? Or are you experiencing paranoia: distrusting people around you and suspecting their motives etc. ? Or both?
Why do you consider your current interest in religion "unhealthy?" Celibacy is am alternative way of life that some prefer. There is nothing intrinsically unhealthy about it. So, what problems are solved for you if you were to become a monk?
Why do you not have close friends? Are you scared of what behaviour you might show in front of them? Or are you distrusting of them?
Please feel free to not answer my questions or PM me. Whatever you are going through, there are many others going through the same. Often the brain tries to play tricks on us, in order to protect us, but we can stay calm knowing that anxious feelings are not forever, as we regain control. Something is at the root of this. I just wondered whether you have identified a cause, because you ask how to over come it?
Cardiovascular exercise is really good for brain chemistry. Sometimes mood in particular can be influenced by metabolism or circulation inequality between the two lobes of the brain. Lots of research shows that mindfulness meditation does have a powerfully calming and restorative utility. Of course, talk is good to get it out, even that experession is via pen and paper, or through prayer. Of course, prayer is powerful when you ask. It may be helpful to ask for guidence and wisdom and healing.
You are also at an age where questions relating to survival adulthood are paramount and natural.
Placidus, you are in a 10th house profection year, so issues about your direction in life are the focus. When you identify the sign of the profection year, in this case Gemini, you'd look at the aspects Mercury makes in order to understand broadly the key influence. Mercury is in your 11th house of friends and makes natally those challening interpersonal oppositions with the outers in the Saturn ruled 5th house of play and 6th house of health. This (superficial analysis) seems to speak to your concerns.
My interpretative knowledge is limited to say the least, but it may be important alongside astrological interp. to just clarify your health so that you can help youself through the appropriate healing avenue.
P.s. If health is your second and additional concern, if not only concern, it is a good idea to post your questions on the Medical Astrology sub-forum.
What mental problems have you been having? You say problems with socialising, is it something diagnosed or a self-report?
Are you just very anxious and fearful of general situations, panicky, feel adrenaline? Or are you experiencing paranoia: distrusting people around you and suspecting their motives etc. ? Or both?
Why do you consider your current interest in religion "unhealthy?" Celibacy is am alternative way of life that some prefer. There is nothing intrinsically unhealthy about it. So, what problems are solved for you if you were to become a monk?
Why do you not have close friends? Are you scared of what behaviour you might show in front of them? Or are you distrusting of them?
Please feel free to not answer my questions or PM me. Whatever you are going through, there are many others going through the same. Often the brain tries to play tricks on us, in order to protect us, but we can stay calm knowing that anxious feelings are not forever, as we regain control. Something is at the root of this. I just wondered whether you have identified a cause, because you ask how to over come it?
Cardiovascular exercise is really good for brain chemistry. Sometimes mood in particular can be influenced by metabolism or circulation inequality between the two lobes of the brain. Lots of research shows that mindfulness meditation does have a powerfully calming and restorative utility. Of course, talk is good to get it out, even that experession is via pen and paper, or through prayer. Of course, prayer is powerful when you ask. It may be helpful to ask for guidence and wisdom and healing.
You are also at an age where questions relating to survival adulthood are paramount and natural.
Placidus, you are in a 10th house profection year, so issues about your direction in life are the focus. When you identify the sign of the profection year, in this case Gemini, you'd look at the aspects Mercury makes in order to understand broadly the key influence. Mercury is in your 11th house of friends and makes natally those challening interpersonal oppositions with the outers in the Saturn ruled 5th house of play and 6th house of health. This (superficial analysis) seems to speak to your concerns.
My interpretative knowledge is limited to say the least, but it may be important alongside astrological interp. to just clarify your health so that you can help youself through the appropriate healing avenue.
P.s. If health is your second and additional concern, if not only concern, it is a good idea to post your questions on the Medical Astrology sub-forum.
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Crystalpages
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No no, Digimon -- I did not see your question as egoistic! Quite the converse, if you ask me!
Please share your birthdata in text format (spell the month in text and not numbers for those at times cause problems -- and also share about the source of you birthdata. Since you were a bit preoccupied at that special moment, I always ask that silly-sounding question when folks on internet post querries? ;-)
Rohiniranjan
Please share your birthdata in text format (spell the month in text and not numbers for those at times cause problems -- and also share about the source of you birthdata. Since you were a bit preoccupied at that special moment, I always ask that silly-sounding question when folks on internet post querries? ;-)
Rohiniranjan
Rajarshi
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Rajarshi
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www.astro.com is more accurate. Jagannath Hora is also showing Gemini as below
Body Longitude Nakshatra Pada Rasi Navamsa
Lagna 22 Le 12' 14.62" PPha 3 Le Li
Sun 29 Ge 59' 39.57" Puna 3 Ge Ge
Crystalpages
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Dear *Digimon*,
I use the sidereal framework of astrology that in India is known as Jyotish.
It is somewhat unfortunate (but who am I to judge that, really!) that your formative period in current lifetime had been plagued by demons of isolation. If you can write and express so well and lucidly in a language that is not your primary one, you surely possess a good ability to express in your mother tongue (primary). If you do not do so already, I would requestingly urge you to begin keeping a personal journal. Force yourself to write in it how your day went, which thoughts and emotions were prominent during the past 24 hours, what dreams you saw and what they meant to you. This will take some doing, self-discipline and psychological energy. Do it first thing in the morning or last thing before you head to sleep, try to eventually maintain a routine time to do so. Keep it locked securely because one of the things you will remain bothered about is the fear of someone else reading about your innermost thoughts. If doing this using your computer, use a strong password. But express freely without holding back anything. One more thing, resist the temptation to read what you wrote earlier, frequently. Maybe once a month or even less frequently. Resist the urge to change or erase anything you have written, including any typographical errors. Usually, this works best if you can write on paper with a pencil or pen, but computer-journal would be fine too.
Had you approached me a few years ago, I would have advised you to join some sort of martial arts academy like tae-kwon-do, karate, judo, etc. You are still pretty young and if you can find a dojang or school nearby, it would be helpful for you.
Around mid-2014 (july onwards) you can expect to feel an inner change, gradually and so it is NOW the perfect time to follow the above advice that I give you.
Religion, occultism, mysticism will remain of interest to you for a long time, and you will from time to time get the deep urge to become a hermit. Neither accept nor dismiss the thoughts or be afraid of those or any other thoughts, the fleeting ones, as well as the obsessive ones. Just write those down and capture them in words! It may sound too easy or even silly to some, but you can see the power in these only after you start doing and keep on at it!
Don't feel pressured to be able to figure everything out, as most people seem to be obsessed by and do not even realize that they are so obsessed! For a change, develop the role of simply being an observer! At least most of the time, or primarily so!
I would like to hear from you, from time to time, if you choose to follow the advice I give to you today.
Wishing you luck, inner strength and happiness!
Rohiniranjan
I use the sidereal framework of astrology that in India is known as Jyotish.
It is somewhat unfortunate (but who am I to judge that, really!) that your formative period in current lifetime had been plagued by demons of isolation. If you can write and express so well and lucidly in a language that is not your primary one, you surely possess a good ability to express in your mother tongue (primary). If you do not do so already, I would requestingly urge you to begin keeping a personal journal. Force yourself to write in it how your day went, which thoughts and emotions were prominent during the past 24 hours, what dreams you saw and what they meant to you. This will take some doing, self-discipline and psychological energy. Do it first thing in the morning or last thing before you head to sleep, try to eventually maintain a routine time to do so. Keep it locked securely because one of the things you will remain bothered about is the fear of someone else reading about your innermost thoughts. If doing this using your computer, use a strong password. But express freely without holding back anything. One more thing, resist the temptation to read what you wrote earlier, frequently. Maybe once a month or even less frequently. Resist the urge to change or erase anything you have written, including any typographical errors. Usually, this works best if you can write on paper with a pencil or pen, but computer-journal would be fine too.
Had you approached me a few years ago, I would have advised you to join some sort of martial arts academy like tae-kwon-do, karate, judo, etc. You are still pretty young and if you can find a dojang or school nearby, it would be helpful for you.
Around mid-2014 (july onwards) you can expect to feel an inner change, gradually and so it is NOW the perfect time to follow the above advice that I give you.
Religion, occultism, mysticism will remain of interest to you for a long time, and you will from time to time get the deep urge to become a hermit. Neither accept nor dismiss the thoughts or be afraid of those or any other thoughts, the fleeting ones, as well as the obsessive ones. Just write those down and capture them in words! It may sound too easy or even silly to some, but you can see the power in these only after you start doing and keep on at it!
Don't feel pressured to be able to figure everything out, as most people seem to be obsessed by and do not even realize that they are so obsessed! For a change, develop the role of simply being an observer! At least most of the time, or primarily so!
I would like to hear from you, from time to time, if you choose to follow the advice I give to you today.
Wishing you luck, inner strength and happiness!
Rohiniranjan
Crystalpages
Well-known member
You think a bit too much for your own good! 
First of all, you need to work on your fear of fear itself! Little by little!!
Journal is not planned writing for publication etc so composition and grammar and spelling or syntax is not required at this time. Doing so will block the very source which you would be trying to express and document.
Any physical activity be it sports or even jogging would be a good start, if martial arts create immediate problems and revulsion! Although, they are good for training the body and the deeper layers. Or yoga if such is available where you are located.
Also, with so much deep-seated resistance that has built-in during rahu period would not get released overnight!
Contentment is like the foundation of the edifice of happiness and then comes its roof: BLISSFULNESS!
But first you must start digging, to lay the foundation (step 1). ;-)
Love and Light,
Rohiniranjan
First of all, you need to work on your fear of fear itself! Little by little!!
Journal is not planned writing for publication etc so composition and grammar and spelling or syntax is not required at this time. Doing so will block the very source which you would be trying to express and document.
Any physical activity be it sports or even jogging would be a good start, if martial arts create immediate problems and revulsion! Although, they are good for training the body and the deeper layers. Or yoga if such is available where you are located.
Also, with so much deep-seated resistance that has built-in during rahu period would not get released overnight!
Contentment is like the foundation of the edifice of happiness and then comes its roof: BLISSFULNESS!
But first you must start digging, to lay the foundation (step 1). ;-)
Love and Light,
Rohiniranjan
Tessie
Banned
What lovely imput from Rohiniranjan!
I just want to say that what you describe are two things:
1. Catastrophising in combination with avoidant behaviour
2. Putting lots of pressure on youself.
#2 is antithetical to what you want to achieve because by saying "I cant do this, I cant do that," you are effectively accomplishing nothing. It would not matter so much if your accommplishments were realated to other people, because other people can find someone else to help them. But you are giving up on stuff that is super important to you and only your wellbeing: like meditation and diary writing, for example.
Not every one is born with athletic ability. Not everyone is born with a big nose. But everyone is born with a mind and anyone can meditate, they just need to be willing to try and try and try, practice and practice and practice. It is a shame if you give up on that.
As for #1. you sound like you have, what is known in the West as, obsessive compulsive disorder: where people are plagued by distressing thoughts and then feel a compulsion to behave in a certain way so that those thoughts do not hurt them more. As far as I understand, these thoughts may never go away completely. But you can definately gain control over them rather than them having control over you. Te way to defeat them is to stand up to them and show them that you dont care. It is easier said than done, I know, but, intrinsically, you are the one giving power to them. Without you, they have no actual power.
Meditation is simply an exercise by which you train your mind to acceptance, ignore peacefully the madness in this world. By training, you will be stronger than those thoughts as your brain adapts to a new way of working. The same as, first the bear is stronger than you, but then you train at the gym and become stronger than the bear.
In combination with meditation it is good to practice gratitude and positve thinking. So whenever you experince yourself falling down that spiral nagative thinking, think of how grateful you are today that your parents are alive and just stay with that feeling. Think about how grateful you are that you have drinking water, and stay with that thought. Etc. When you write a diary, if you decide to go back to that some day, try to write two things you are grateful for that day and any reflection on any improvement you may be seeing by trying to meditate and how this minimises those worthless horrible thoughts.
Dont expect a big change to happen overnight, but if you try to make a pact wth yourself to practice this for just a week, I promise you will start to see really positive changes. One step at a time. But you must be the person making that step because your health depends on your resilliance and your decisions.
Chamomile tea is really calming and soothing for anxiety and catastrophic thoughts. Surely drinking this tea is something you will be able to do. I'd love to hear how you get on with it.
Lastly, reading is really good for engaging the mind into the plot and away from what is bothering you. HOWEVER, it is not a good idea therefore to read stuff that may worry you. You should be reading fiction books about two people falling in love and their positive adventures. Have you read "the power of now," by Eckart Tolle? That is a really good short book you may like and it is available as a pdf online for free. I hope that you may give that a try too and let us know how you get on.
Best wishes brother, <3
I just want to say that what you describe are two things:
1. Catastrophising in combination with avoidant behaviour
2. Putting lots of pressure on youself.
#2 is antithetical to what you want to achieve because by saying "I cant do this, I cant do that," you are effectively accomplishing nothing. It would not matter so much if your accommplishments were realated to other people, because other people can find someone else to help them. But you are giving up on stuff that is super important to you and only your wellbeing: like meditation and diary writing, for example.
Not every one is born with athletic ability. Not everyone is born with a big nose. But everyone is born with a mind and anyone can meditate, they just need to be willing to try and try and try, practice and practice and practice. It is a shame if you give up on that.
As for #1. you sound like you have, what is known in the West as, obsessive compulsive disorder: where people are plagued by distressing thoughts and then feel a compulsion to behave in a certain way so that those thoughts do not hurt them more. As far as I understand, these thoughts may never go away completely. But you can definately gain control over them rather than them having control over you. Te way to defeat them is to stand up to them and show them that you dont care. It is easier said than done, I know, but, intrinsically, you are the one giving power to them. Without you, they have no actual power.
Meditation is simply an exercise by which you train your mind to acceptance, ignore peacefully the madness in this world. By training, you will be stronger than those thoughts as your brain adapts to a new way of working. The same as, first the bear is stronger than you, but then you train at the gym and become stronger than the bear.
In combination with meditation it is good to practice gratitude and positve thinking. So whenever you experince yourself falling down that spiral nagative thinking, think of how grateful you are today that your parents are alive and just stay with that feeling. Think about how grateful you are that you have drinking water, and stay with that thought. Etc. When you write a diary, if you decide to go back to that some day, try to write two things you are grateful for that day and any reflection on any improvement you may be seeing by trying to meditate and how this minimises those worthless horrible thoughts.
Dont expect a big change to happen overnight, but if you try to make a pact wth yourself to practice this for just a week, I promise you will start to see really positive changes. One step at a time. But you must be the person making that step because your health depends on your resilliance and your decisions.
Chamomile tea is really calming and soothing for anxiety and catastrophic thoughts. Surely drinking this tea is something you will be able to do. I'd love to hear how you get on with it.
Lastly, reading is really good for engaging the mind into the plot and away from what is bothering you. HOWEVER, it is not a good idea therefore to read stuff that may worry you. You should be reading fiction books about two people falling in love and their positive adventures. Have you read "the power of now," by Eckart Tolle? That is a really good short book you may like and it is available as a pdf online for free. I hope that you may give that a try too and let us know how you get on.
Best wishes brother, <3
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Crystalpages
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People with strong ideas should not seek advice! ;-)
Unless they are actually weak and seeking magical solutions which does not involve 'digging'?
;-)
These are times of great uncertainty and turmoil in some regions and the world's attention is on it, somewhat apprehensively and so compassion from those distant is timely and very much the sign of times and shows how much love and caring exists in the world today!
Love and Light!
Rohiniranjan
Unless they are actually weak and seeking magical solutions which does not involve 'digging'?
;-)
These are times of great uncertainty and turmoil in some regions and the world's attention is on it, somewhat apprehensively and so compassion from those distant is timely and very much the sign of times and shows how much love and caring exists in the world today!
Love and Light!
Rohiniranjan
Rajarshi
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Ascendant is Leo, Moon sign Taurus...both of them are fixed signs.
So, generally you will have strong ideas. Mars in Ascendant and Venus in Moon sign, both have strengthened these two signs.
You should not feel sad of your strong ideas...this is one of your nature.
Best wishes
So, generally you will have strong ideas. Mars in Ascendant and Venus in Moon sign, both have strengthened these two signs.
You should not feel sad of your strong ideas...this is one of your nature.
Best wishes
Crystalpages
Well-known member
Indeed, Rajarshi ji, difficult lessons to choose for a life-plan, but souls from time to time do choose such lifetimes.
I would say, that Tessie has picked the very book for Digimon to study! The power of now and also other books by Tolle are worth paying attention to. He writes very effectively, though not so impressive in his u-tube presentations! The same impressions I had with Dr. Brian Weiss. In his case I am comparing his written sharings, in contrast with his CDs.
Love and Light,
Rohiniranjan