I would say with those squares from Pluto you have in your own chart would point to anger and abuse issues and far exceed his own in terms of what I would consider "worrisome" natal aspects. Perhaps you both are feeding off each other; I also think there might be a little projection going on here. I think you should leave him alone. Everything you are saying is not pleasant and I would venture to say if he knew how you felt he would unlikely want to be around you. Pluto can be obsession and at the same time, repulsion.
Its just hard to let go . I don't know why though . It doesn't make sense to me because i have no pluto in me what so ever . My sun trines his Neptune which is conjunct his own sun , so im thinking maybe im seeing things that are not there .
And whats the worse he can do to me i don't even know how he feels about me for sure .
But what i do know is if i say to myself its time to get over him and have him out of my life . i'll feel much happier but i'll feel like i must become a different person .
Its a big deal to me because i have feelings for this person . I don't like him in an obsessive way more like im fond of him and our synastry breaks my heart .
i can't let it go . not just yet . I hope the reason i started this thread is clearer now . I felt like emotionally he is not there and i thought he has traits of a psychopath ! because he does ! anyone who isn't under his spell will tell you that . And i wanted to get to the bottom of it astrologically .
Its just hard to let go . I don't know why though . It doesn't make sense to me because i have no pluto in me what so ever . My sun trines his Neptune which is conjunct his own sun , so im thinking maybe im seeing things that are not there .
And whats the worse he can do to me i don't even know how he feels about me for sure .
But what i do know is if i say to myself its time to get over him and have him out of my life . i'll feel much happier but i'll feel like i must become a different person .
Its a big deal to me because i have feelings for this person . I don't like him in an obsessive way more like im fond of him and our synastry breaks my heart .
i can't let it go . not just yet . I hope the reason i started this thread is clearer now . I felt like emotionally he is not there and i thought he has traits of a psychopath ! because he does ! anyone who isn't under his spell will tell you that . And i wanted to get to the bottom of it astrologically .
I don't think its his fault he is that way . but i don't like the way he takes it out on others and doesn't even care . But i would be too afraid to say it that to his face . im usually not but with him its different .
And plus my saturn is in his 7th house !!!!!!!!!!!
i feel like i need to see the outcome for myself so i know better. I always do . My sister HATES him she proper despises him because she thinks that he is a psycho . she warned me repeadetly but i don#t listen . Its just my nature its the way i am , i always have to find out for myself . But its not loking too good so far .
but im watching him , thats all ama say
I don't think its his fault he is that way . but i don't like the way he takes it out on others and doesn't even care . But i would be too afraid to say it that to his face . im usually not but with him its different .
And plus my saturn is in his 7th house !!!!!!!!!!!
i feel like i need to see the outcome for myself so i know better. I always do . My sister HATES him she proper despises him because she thinks that he is a psycho . she warned me repeadetly but i don#t listen . Its just my nature its the way i am , i always have to find out for myself . But its not loking too good so far .
but im watching him , thats all ama say
those are not my natal aspects those are the synastry aspects i have with him . I don't have any squares or aspects to pluto in my own chart at all .
im also wondering given his natal aspects how he will react to our synastry .
his moon square pluto is opposite my venus conjunct sun . in his 8th house . and his pluto is in his 2nd house.
is that VERY bad because it doesn't sound too good.
btw . I used to go out with a guy who was physically agressive with me and his pluto was also opposite my venus . Just like this one.
My parents have a very violent relationship I wonder if that has anything to do with why my relationships have been so agressive .
i went out with this guy when i was 14 . And the only reason we broke up was because he moved . I still miss him even though he nearly hit me . he was a few years older than me and i think i am always looking subconciously for a dad , i have one but i always felt like he saw the worst in me and he hit my mam and she never told she just took it . She is always trying to please him and no one else understands why but her .
sorry bout all the heavy stuff
he isn't my boyfriend btw , he;s more like a suitor .
You aren't the first and certainly will not be the last to share heavy stuff! I think many people have been helped on here, so perhaps you will be as well.
It's very intuitive of you to understand there is definitely a connection between what you lived with and saw between your parents while growing up and what you will be attracted to in your adult relationships.
Would you be comfortable posting your own chart? This might give us more clues besides what you have told us as to why you are intrigued by this guy. Also again, if you aren't sure of the time just let us know so we know what we are working with.