Salme
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Dear friends
I would like to get your opinion on which aspect might cause this inconvinience in my life.
I am journalist by education, do photography as a hobby and sometimes sell my pictures, work in advertisement, make a full meter animation movie now. My work ususally helped me to close my eyes on mating matters but now it really worries me a lot.
I usually attract a vampire type too weak guy who wouldn't work for our relationship (I mean type of relationship when both partners explore each other's needs - suggest ideas like - let's do this and this together, give response). My "men" ususally act like children - just me me me. As a result i feel an emotional sponsor and completely used.
Not to mention statistics ( My first husband was sexually abused as a child by his mom (which i didn't knew), made lots of debts and commited suicide.
My husband now is 38 and still lives with his mom. During his father's illness he moved in and stayed after his father passed away and still lives there for second year.
My first school time boyfriend is 37 and still lives with his mom.
Maybe my greatest crush of all times said to me as a copmplement at one of our first dates - oh, how much you resemble my mom.
I have a friend of long time ago - since school who lives abroad. He always told he has romantic feelings. He came last year to visit my hometown. And i found out ... that he still lives with parents ... at 34 ( While he acted kinda - i am the guest + i have romantic feelings - now YOU shoul take care about me organize everything and be nice (
In the end - I hve got aquainted to a ski-instructor at my recent work-place in a ski resort. Yuhu! i thought - finally a big true guy a brave manly man from the mounts. We became friends on facebook and what i saw was his all wall filled with pictures of his mom!!!!
I am really loving and caring person. I like to cook, work at home and in the garden to make the place cosy and habitable. I know psychology and know that the other side of strength is always weekness and it's necessary to give place to it. And I am so really tired of guys who tend to show me there weak side(
Please help me to figure out which is the evil aspect in my natal chart which makes me magnet for such type of men. And what shall i do\ which aspect should i develope, concentrate on to attract a more mature manly person.
My ideas are:
1) Mars in Pisces. With it's conjunction with Mercury it gives an image of an artistic\ addicted\ somehow damaged and weak person. And they usually get me through talk - that's true and i think i learned to block it.
2) Aquarian sun? 7th house in Aquarius which makes any partnership kind of weird. This is what i have got a lot - quirky talks, watching unusual movies together... too much bizzarness.
3) Venus square Moon. My own feminine energies are in conflict - so I am always sort of rivaled by myself actually ? which materializes as a rivaling maternal figure. I have reflected on that a lot. I am ok to be a motherly figure in termes of understanding and comforting a person in case it is really necessary - but never allow whims ?
4) 12th house in Cancer - family and feminine energies are my secret enemies?
Please give any other thoughtful interpretation of my chart in this respect and how possibly can i work with it to attract a more decisive manly guy who wouldn't only use me to comfort himself but be eager to work for relationship - bring his best into it as well.
I would like to get your opinion on which aspect might cause this inconvinience in my life.
I am journalist by education, do photography as a hobby and sometimes sell my pictures, work in advertisement, make a full meter animation movie now. My work ususally helped me to close my eyes on mating matters but now it really worries me a lot.
I usually attract a vampire type too weak guy who wouldn't work for our relationship (I mean type of relationship when both partners explore each other's needs - suggest ideas like - let's do this and this together, give response). My "men" ususally act like children - just me me me. As a result i feel an emotional sponsor and completely used.
Not to mention statistics ( My first husband was sexually abused as a child by his mom (which i didn't knew), made lots of debts and commited suicide.
My husband now is 38 and still lives with his mom. During his father's illness he moved in and stayed after his father passed away and still lives there for second year.
My first school time boyfriend is 37 and still lives with his mom.
Maybe my greatest crush of all times said to me as a copmplement at one of our first dates - oh, how much you resemble my mom.
I have a friend of long time ago - since school who lives abroad. He always told he has romantic feelings. He came last year to visit my hometown. And i found out ... that he still lives with parents ... at 34 ( While he acted kinda - i am the guest + i have romantic feelings - now YOU shoul take care about me organize everything and be nice (
In the end - I hve got aquainted to a ski-instructor at my recent work-place in a ski resort. Yuhu! i thought - finally a big true guy a brave manly man from the mounts. We became friends on facebook and what i saw was his all wall filled with pictures of his mom!!!!
I am really loving and caring person. I like to cook, work at home and in the garden to make the place cosy and habitable. I know psychology and know that the other side of strength is always weekness and it's necessary to give place to it. And I am so really tired of guys who tend to show me there weak side(
Please help me to figure out which is the evil aspect in my natal chart which makes me magnet for such type of men. And what shall i do\ which aspect should i develope, concentrate on to attract a more mature manly person.
My ideas are:
1) Mars in Pisces. With it's conjunction with Mercury it gives an image of an artistic\ addicted\ somehow damaged and weak person. And they usually get me through talk - that's true and i think i learned to block it.
2) Aquarian sun? 7th house in Aquarius which makes any partnership kind of weird. This is what i have got a lot - quirky talks, watching unusual movies together... too much bizzarness.
3) Venus square Moon. My own feminine energies are in conflict - so I am always sort of rivaled by myself actually ? which materializes as a rivaling maternal figure. I have reflected on that a lot. I am ok to be a motherly figure in termes of understanding and comforting a person in case it is really necessary - but never allow whims ?
4) 12th house in Cancer - family and feminine energies are my secret enemies?
Please give any other thoughtful interpretation of my chart in this respect and how possibly can i work with it to attract a more decisive manly guy who wouldn't only use me to comfort himself but be eager to work for relationship - bring his best into it as well.