I'm so sorry to hear about all that went on
sounds so tough.
I have a question... why do you say that all that happened with my fam couldn't be Saturn? I'm curious... should I be paying more attention to Uranus? I don't like Uranus very much, although I acknowledge that all its changes did recreate me for the better... it was just so long and difficult to go through...
Right now Saturn is in Libra which is on my 4th house cusp but even before it entered my fourth house, as soon as Saturn went into Libra, my Step-father lost his job, my brother lost his scholarship, my mother was diagnosed with diabetes, I began having issues with my roommates and so on and so forth. Anyway, sounds like i have to read those articles.You can't blame saturn for all of the above, the most it could have been linked to was your brother
Saturn is transiting/going through your third house of siblings, plus saturn is karma, men, authority figures - do the research
http://www.skyscript.co.uk/temples/h3.html
house meanings
http://www.horoscopeswithin.com/houses.php
http://www.astrologyzine.com/what-is-a-house-in-astrology.shtml
http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/EmptyElement12.1.htm
http://www.dkfoundation.co.uk/dkfoundation/BookKarma&NewDirections.htm
http://www.gotohoroscope.com/houses-in-chart.html
http://www.skyscript.co.uk/temples/h1.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/House_(astrology)
http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_house2_e.htm
http://www.skyviewzone.com/astrology/houses.htm
Uranus was squaring my natal venus at 25 gemini but now that it's in Aries things (seem to) have begun to look up, if only because its passed the threshold... also, my moon is 0 Aqua which is currently trine Uranus so I haven't felt the negative energy so much yet but I'm scared that it's going to catch me off guard... I've been more afraid to randomly lose my job than anything else and I am actively looking for a new job now with no success in the 6 weeks I've been looking... but I guess that's not as bad as some folks...
T Uranus last made a square to venus/sun last year and is no longer affecting or afflicting venus. Uranus hard aspect to venus or moon is on my list of divorce aspects...
synastry and divorce
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=13745&highlight=synastry+divorce
Synastry & divorce--- really great article, well worth reading-----
http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=0OJgX88KKMsC&pg=PA46&lpg=PA46&dq=astrolog y+2nd+marriage&source=bl&ots=DoV__K_IQS&sig=dI1UAX 5oprrQLtfzYUrJ4_XzuKU&hl=en&ei=zBV0SsfnHYqhjAf5rN2 nBg&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=6#v=onepa ge&q=&f=false
I'm literally making myself over to help my job search, dieting, changing my hair style, tweaking my confidence and personality... however, going on a diet is long overdue and has a lot of spiritual meaning/healing, as letting go of this weight has a lot to do with letting go of some 4th house clutter...