Ex-Girlfriend, is there hope?Any/all advice is appreciated!

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Kibblerz

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Me and my ex recently broke up. We had been arguing previously about her not spending enough time with me (we hung out maybe once a week), though we put the issue to rest originally. Then on the 14th of may my best friend died from an overdose, this put me in an emotional tailspin for a few days. I said some hurtful things to my ex, accusing her of not caring because she was not able to see me when I was hurting(her mother was ill) and she ended up breaking up with me on the night of the 15th.

For a few days I was rather persistant, she needed her space and I denied that to her. She ended up blocking my facebook. I had been relying on advice from the Yodha: My astrologer app, who claimed that it was likely she would come back. I began to give her more space still texting her every few days.The astrologer I had been relying on told me that although she'd be mad at my attempts how she'd see them positively in weeks to come. Yesterday her mom texted me saying this was my final chance to leave her alone.

Her friends also blocked me but mentioned she's talking to someone new.

I messed up, I ended up taking some lsd last night and my friend mentioned the astrologer was stringing me along with hope in order to make a profit, looking through the things they said I'm afraid that their predictions were just designed to keep me hoping and paying. I had alienated the women I love because of this false hope instead of giving her the space she needs and I'm afraid it may be too late.

Is there still hope? Was the astrologer right that'd she come back or was I being played for money? Any advice is helpful, thank you!:love:
 
JUPITERASC

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Kibblerz said:
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Me and my ex recently broke up.
We had been arguing previously about her not spending enough time with me
(we hung out maybe once a week), though we put the issue to rest originally.
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Very briefly :smile:


with reference to Synastry Chart
Scorpio Moon and Sagittarius Moon are in Disregard aka Disjunct – not good
Aries Sun and Pisces Sun are also in Disregard aka Disjunct – not good
Cancer Ascendant and Sagittarius Ascendant are also in Disregard aka Disjunct – not good

Kibblerz said:
Then on the 14th of may my best friend died from an overdose,
this put me in an emotional tailspin for a few days.
I said some hurtful things to my ex, accusing her of not caring
because she was not able to see me when I was hurting
(her mother was ill)
and she ended up breaking up with me on the night of the 15th.

For a few days I was rather persistant, she needed her space and I denied that to her.
She ended up blocking my facebook.
I had been relying on advice from the Yodha: My astrologer app,
who claimed that it was likely she would come back.
I began to give her more space still texting her every few days.
The astrologer I had been relying on told me that although she'd be mad at my attempts
how she'd see them positively in weeks to come.
Yesterday her mom texted me saying this was my final chance to leave her alone.

Her friends also blocked me but mentioned she's talking to someone new.

I messed up, I ended up taking some lsd last night
and my friend mentioned the astrologer was stringing me along with hope in order to make a profit,
looking through the things they said I'm afraid that their predictions were just designed to keep me hoping and paying.
I had alienated the women I love
because of this false hope
instead of giving her the space she needs
and I'm afraid it may be too late.

Is there still hope?
Was the astrologer right that'd she come back
or was I being played for money?

Any advice is helpful, thank you!:love:
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Kibblerz

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Wouldn't these just be a few negative aspects though? Her sun trines my moon which surely can outweigh the disregard couldn't it? It always seemed we had good understanding in the relationship. We'd communicate and share are feelings quite well, her introverted nature was just contrary to my nature and I just wanted to see her more than she wanted to.
 
JUPITERASC

JUPITERASC

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Kibblerz said:
Wouldn't these just be a few negative aspects though?

Her sun trines my moon which surely can outweigh the disregard couldn't it?
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Few if any relationships present no challenges at all :smile:
Kibblerz said:


we had good understanding in the relationship.

We'd communicate and share are feelings quite well,

her introverted nature was just contrary to my nature

and I just wanted to see her

more than she wanted to.
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it seems that the understanding was not that good
 
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Kibblerz

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JUPITERASC said:
Few if any relationships present no challenges at all :smile:

it seems that the understanding was not that good
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Well maybe it was just me that understood her a bit more. Though I tend to see different perspectives better than most. She i don't think saw my perspective all that much. oh well
 
Nemis

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It doesn't look good.

Let her go and move on. Don't mess around with someone who is trying to move on. If it's meant to be, she will come back. Don't chase.
 
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katydid

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Kibblerz said:
Wouldn't these just be a few negative aspects though? Her sun trines my moon which surely can outweigh the disregard couldn't it? It always seemed we had good understanding in the relationship. We'd communicate and share are feelings quite well, her introverted nature was just contrary to my nature and I just wanted to see her more than she wanted to.
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But realistically, if she only wanted to see you once a week, then she was not really that into the relationship. I see my manicurist once a week. :pinched:
 
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Kibblerz

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katydid said:
But realistically, if she only wanted to see you once a week, then she was not really that into the relationship. I see my manicurist once a week. :pinched:
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We messaged eachother 24/7. If you read her chart you'd understand. She rarely hangs with her best friends and hung with me more than she did them. I think it was where her uranus was placed that causes her to be so odd in relationships. She doesn't know what she wants, she constantly wants to be free, has some odd fantasies, etc. She'd rather retreat into her inner world than deal with anyone at all on the outer.
 
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Kibblerz

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Nemis said:
It doesn't look good.

Let her go and move on. Don't mess around with someone who is trying to move on. If it's meant to be, she will come back. Don't chase.
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Yeah, for awhile I was relying on a very ****** astrologer site. I think they just wire people in with hope in order to get more and more money. I was so bent up on the hope he gave me that I smothered and alienated her :/ who would've thought hope would be so destructive
 
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katydid

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Kibblerz said:
We messaged eachother 24/7. If you read her chart you'd understand. She rarely hangs with her best friends and hung with me more than she did them. I think it was where her uranus was placed that causes her to be so odd in relationships. She doesn't know what she wants, she constantly wants to be free, has some odd fantasies, etc. She'd rather retreat into her inner world than deal with anyone at all on the outer.
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Then it is very hard to have a real relationship with her. You are on a treacherous slope. And it feels to me like you are trying to force something that is not happening.
 
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Kibblerz

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katydid said:
Then it is very hard to have a real relationship with her. You are on a treacherous slope. And it feels to me like you are trying to force something that is not happening.
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That hope just got to me too much I guess. I never clicked with someone like I did her, her introverted nature was like the only significant issue.
 
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katydid

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Kibblerz said:
That hope just got to me too much I guess. I never clicked with someone like I did her, her introverted nature was like the only significant issue.
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Well then, take a break. A LOOOONNGG break. Let her catch her breath. She knows how to reach you if she misses you. But you need to totally back off. If she has a freedom issue then you are pressing the wrong buttons right now.
 
Nemis

Nemis

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katydid said:
Then it is very hard to have a real relationship with her. You are on a treacherous slope. And it feels to me like you are trying to force something that is not happening.
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I agree. It doesn't sound like a realistic relationship.

Did she 'abuse' you?
 
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Kibblerz

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katydid said:
Well then, take a break. A LOOOONNGG break. Let her catch her breath. She knows how to reach you if she misses you. But you need to totally back off. If she has a freedom issue then you are pressing the wrong buttons right now.
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True. I've also seen in my own natal chart and different relationship reports on my chart something that is very true. I like imperfect relationships. Actually I love them. It's a sort of addiction i guess and on a level it's exciting. I've noticed my own issues in a relationship tend to be putting one on a pedastool and when they fall off I keep holding standards and trying to make them live up to them. Unconsciounsly it becomes like a chess game.

Also as a Buddhist I try to stay void of attachment(obviously not too good at that though), so a relationship where the other needs more freedom requires me to let go more and improves my spiritual path. I have felt that she evens me out in the places I need to be even.

I have a thing for the very pisces like girls. Considering I'm a hard headed aries with a sagitarious ascendant that provides a chaotic mix. Though my venus is in pisces. I guess it's a fatal attraction of sorts. I do need a spiritual/intuitive mate to balance out my overly intellectual way of thinking. Especially my neptune conjuncting uranus in the 2nd house making me unmaterialistic, which seems to pose certain issues on an aries path.

Does anyone have any suggestions for maybe future relationship choices for me? someone who can be supportive in my spiritual search while also tolerant and forgiving of my hard headed intense nature?
 
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Kibblerz

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Nemis said:
I agree. It doesn't sound like a realistic relationship.

Did she 'abuse' you?
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No lol. She was the sweetest thing in the world to me. Always making me laugh and smile. Even when we fought about her confusion with what she wants(might have contributed to her not seeing me alot) or not seeing eachother alot. It always ended in laughter and love. Never got bored of eachother either. I was her first real relationship though so that probably contributes to her not knowing what she wants and not wanting to hang out too much. I also cuddled her too much when we did hang out xD
 
Nemis

Nemis

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Kibblerz said:
I have a thing for the very pisces like girls. Considering I'm a hard headed aries with a sagitarious ascendant that provides a chaotic mix. Though my venus is in pisces. I guess it's a fatal attraction of sorts. I do need a spiritual/intuitive mate to balance out my overly intellectual way of thinking. Especially my neptune conjuncting uranus in the 2nd house making me unmaterialistic, which seems to pose certain issues on an aries path.

Does anyone have any suggestions for maybe future relationship choices for me? someone who can be supportive in my spiritual search while also tolerant and forgiving of my hard headed intense nature?
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From your other posts - you're 18. You have an entire life ahead of you. Relationships will come and go, relax and enjoy your life first.
 
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Kibblerz

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Nemis said:
From your other posts - you're 18. You have an entire life ahead of you. Relationships will come and go, relax and enjoy your life first.
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I'm not trying to spend much of my life searching a lot. I just need someone who's supportive and helpful, who can prop me up when I'm in need and i could do the same to support me on my path.
 
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