I've been into astrology for a long time now. I've been in this website and I've observed people in my daily life through the lens of psychology and through the lens of astrology. So call this my idealism(neptune), call it my need to probe into the truth about love and the world we live in(pluto)-at the end of the day I feel like this must be conveyed especially in this site that is obsessed with r/s.
80 percent of women have sex with 20 percent of men. That is the truth.
When it comes to astrological compatibility in order to have great compatibility in my opinion, you can ask me about this in the comments or PM me as to why you need the following:
Mars or venus conjunction or opposing asc lord/ asc or venus conjunct mars
North Node opposing or conjuncting sun, moon, venus or asc
A connection (preferably a conjunction) between both person's luminaries
And perhaps a small pluto connection for passion.
Now this stuff works in most cases only considering whether or not both people are their best version of themselves (considering they are healthy-another term for well-being or even attractive).
This stuff also works IF you're not brain washed by the media's perceptions of what you SHOULD want.
Now another video I watched recently and I will give the link below is what someone's 'personal handicap' in relationships?
And he listed pluto, neptune, uranus, and north node with sun, moon, venus, and/or ascendent (or if moon, sun, venus is in the 8th/6th/12th house), subtract points and make you incapable almost of being in a long-term relationship. I don't think he's wrong and I'll explain why.
So I came up with my own theories(now you can prove me wrong and challenge me on this as this is highly anecdotal) but my theory is pluto wants intensity and probes to the dark parts of someone's soul and causes paranoia and chaos not only in the themselves but their partner. Neptune wants idealism, and Uranus is just interested in the latest thing that gives them an adreneline rush almost devoid of emotion. Rahu/north node tends to have the negative aspects of all the three transpersonal planets-(neptune's fantasy and illusions, pluto's obsessiveness and intensity, and uranus's desire for newness)
I've realized vedic astrology almost always hates on the 8th house whereas western astrology almost glamorizes it.
Which brings me to my next point. Unfortunately for men, either you get women or you don't. Unfortunately for women, you will get men easily especially if you're attractive but you'll easily lose them for another attractive woman or someone more attractive.
Women chose top 20 percent(20 percent of men have the most sex), most of which has to do with wealth, height, slightly attractiveness, and domineering personalities. From what I've seen 75 percent of these men fall for or look for attractiveness and since men are supposed to be more 'polygamous,' they also lose interest way faster. They also like variability so they'll like one woman as the girl with the cute face, the other one for a body part, another one because she's exotic, another one because she reminds him of a scene from a movie. So if you caught your man glancing at your girlfriend's/sisters **** (just know that they are doing it and it makes it even more exciting for them because it's taboo).
And with the sexualization everywhere these days, some men also expect to be honest about these things with their girlfriends causing insecurities but girl needs to be 'cool' about it or "crazy jealous girlfriend" label. And a huge number of these men later go and talk about their girlfriends' and their girlfriends' friends/sisters/other girls/their friend's girlfriends body parts to their 'boys'/friends afterwards anyways. And lots of men don't know the concept of "bros before hoes," especially when it comes to a hot girl.
Women usually are loyal to each-other but never undermine another woman's need for validation. Most women I know will bias themselves into believing a man is looking at them only to feel more attractive than usual. So it's not like women are any better.
Also much of older men are in seekingarrangement.com, don't misquote me I said many of them (not majority of them). And if your older husband isn't, don't you ever wonder what he will do if he was rich?
Also, before you take someone's virginity because you want to simply have sex, do keep in mind they are more likely to be attached to you than other women already in the game. It's not because they are crazy or obsessive, it's because they are simply human.
And women, majority of men will like you for your looks charm and if you manage to create a fascinating enough persona, all of which they will easily leave for someone else, perhaps someone better BUT NOT ALWAYS lol. With the state of how things are today, also don't be surprised if guys start seeing in you a bank account as well as a bed. So don't try find self-worth in your looks, pursue something worthwhile in life.
Men, little things matter, honesty matters, cordiality matters, courting matters. But once you got the woman, luckily for you she will be more attached than usual. So get your game together, don't become INCELs, and exploit all the natural attractiveness you were blessed with, use astrology since you all believe in such things, use psychology and evolutionary science but don't exploit it to the point it will have repercussions. (and this is important and a lesson pluto will teach you)
Now when we go to the select few couples that really love eachother, you have abandonment issues, past heart breaks, childhood isssues, and most importantly projection all of which they bring into their current relationship. And with couples having so much options, and with people never being able to tolerate pettiness, they fall apart as well.
So say hello to a world where sexualization is rampant, where we live in a narcisstic culture and where every one gets their heart broken and has some sort of family issue. Where older men care more about their daughter's hot coworker than their daughter or her old mother.
I know people are going to hate me for this post, and I am probably going to be putting insecurities in both men and women. But what I'm trying to do is give people a realistic understanding of how love/attraction works so they don't come on this site expecting the masses to tell them that they have a an earth bending romance.
Disclaimer-Many pluto relatinships I've seen resulted in painful transformations, not passionate love affairs that validates each person's sense of self.
Now let's talk about beauty and magnetism since we all love that topic on this so much and let's talk about it in terms of soceital standards and what the person is likely to attract as a result.
Perfect by societal standards-will have saturn as the highest degree planet or asc lord or mercury conjunct to these because they are thin and they seem to have amazing facial structure. Now if you have the above and you have some venus/neptune/pluto in aspect or even something like moon in scorpio in addition, you're the hottest you can get. Think Adriana Lima. They also are probably more efficient or seen by society as ideal, smart, dominant etc. So this is simply put in a masculine planet with a nice body (saturn, mars) with another one that is said to have a beautiful face(mercury) or other feminine planet(venus etc). In vedic texts, mercury is said to be extremely beautiful.
magnetic archetype- These people are magnetic, but don't look perfect and usually attract heart breaks. They may have even 'cuter' or sexier facial expressions than the above and some people may not even know why they are attracted to them. These are venus/neptune/pluto/phlagmetic archetypes. They usually tend to have venus as asc lords or highest degree planet with luminaries and venus either oposing or conjuncting venus/neptune/pluto. I've noticed these folks are almost never ugly especially venus but they rarely are perfect looking or have beach bodies unless they work really hard unlike the above. I have seen them continuously attract tragic incidences, love stories, predators(except for the venus archetype). They also often pull in incompatible people that leave them after and they can be tragic and insecure. Men with this archetype is Ryan Gosling. A woman of this archetype would be Kate Winslet. People like them usually because of their warm yet outer worldly spirit, or in the case of venus-because of their artistic tendencies/aesthetic sense/charm/down to earthness. But usually something about them lacks in a worldly/social sense.
Also the pluto/neptune archetype is also linked to BPD and covert narcissm but on another note can also produce avoidant, anxiety prone and codependent folk and charming personalities. It's not always entirely their fault and that's a dynamic I'll explain later. There was an article I read about BPDs being attrative women a lot of the times with an iq as high as 130 or even higher that usually has an enticing attire on. One of the reason could be because intuitiveness/openness to experience is related to IQ but without the groundedness of thinking functions(I'm going into big five and mbti), they lack ability to be too successful in life unlike uranian and mercurial folks.
Anyways this is my rant/explanation of the world. If you want the video I mentioned earlier.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=16x3oGdfpDQ&t=1357s