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"In synastry—Your Jupiter in Gemini inconjuncts his Mercury/Saturn in Capricorn. So you value [Jupiter] open communication [Gemini] —but that is a disconnect with his Mercury/Satrun in Cap, which is not very expressive and tends to shutdown when emotionally overloaded."
YEAH. It's annoying. I have no idea how he FEELS. I know by his actions, but not his words or our conversations. It's early so I'm trying not to ***** too much, god knows my Gemini placements can think of All The Things, but yes. I think this is why I am sort of connected to Chart 2 differently. All the words! Yes, I know.
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Ok, read and reread what you are saying ^^^above.
You say you don't know how he feels, except by his actions, and not his words.
So you are putting someone's words ABOVE their actions....
.....which is not always a good way to measure.
When someone has Mercury conjunct Saturn in Cap, they are not going to express themselves with words as fluently, as you can, with your cardinal, fiery Mercury.
But maybe this is an important lesson for you to learn. When someone SHOWS you how they feel, with their actions , that should be proof of their feelings.
If they cry because they think they might have hurt you somehow, it is showing you how they feel about you and about this relationship with you.
You are needing and wanting him to say these things to you, and that is understandable. But it would be sad if it was a deal breaker for you, and you would possibly lose out on a wonderful relationship with someone who really truly cared about the real you, simply because they couldn't put into words, the intensity of their feelings.
You are a very expressive and assertive communicator. Aries/Gemini excels at that. But it could be a detriment to your if you expect everyone else to do it in the same way as you can.
Others express themselves differently.
That inconjunct between his Mercury/Saturn and your Jupiter could spell doom ---unless you BOTH adjust to it. He will need to be more communicative and express his feelings more freely. But you will have to give some too---by learning to see the other ways he shows his love for you....and accepting those things graciously.
Keep in mind, words are just words. If there are no actions supporting those words, then they are hollow and meaningless. So it might be important for you to change up the way to 'accept' love. You might need to reevaluate that and understand that when someone goes out of their way to look out for you, and think about your needs, etc, in that way, they are 'loving' you and even telling you so.