moonkat235
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One's criteria changes depend on what decade you are in and where you see yourself going. So in your twenties you would have certain philosophies due to your development, but it may change. I had to let go some people that were part of my life for a decade, because I simply, eventually outgrew them through some deeper awakenings. And I could foresee my road ahead, if they were still part of it, it would influence me negatively so I felt I needed to make a choice. I still wish them well and hold no ill regard.
If I were to do things differently though for people who's been part of your life for an extended time, it would be to not be so cut and dry, and always leave room for distant or moderate engagement (like 1X a year or every five years). That's probably the only thing I would do differently.
For sure. I hope I'm never stagnant and unchangeable. When my last bff cut me off (because she didn't like the whole astral projection thing I do), the last thing I said to her was 'I don't know why it has to be an all or nothing scenario right now. Why can't you just distance yourself from me and not hang? We could have a chill acquaintanceship so that this wouldn't be difficult on our mutual friends.'
I totally get when you need to move in a different direction, but personally, I've learned not to be so drastic when I see a friendship ending.