turkish girl
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The skeletons in the closet related to his marriage could be indicated by the eighth house involvement in the grand cross. Eighth house being the spouse's resources, shared resources, and emotional undercurrents of the relationship. If either he or his wife inherited money or property, or inherited debt, or brought a knotty in-law situation into the marriage, that would also be indicated in the sense of inheritance.
But with so much fourth house involved, there's no way his family of origin isn't part of the problem. Doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people or abusive or anything like that. It could simply be that whatever problems the family has had over the generations are manifesting in his addictions. There might be several generations of trauma that no one talks about.
Oh maybe,actually now i realised i have not talked much about his father with him because he passed away lots of years ago.I know he loves his mother and bro but his father is a closed box...I usually ask his opinions about guys and he gives me some suggestions about love and relationship stuff and also shared some problems about his married life with me.So i thought main cause is marriage and he diverting his mind away while smoking and drinking.