First, thanks for the responses from everyone. I haven’t spoken about this to anyone in my life other than my husband because I feel so ridiculous even caring or noticing this. The interesting part to me is that it is something I never noticed up until recently after I had a conversation with a family member about her being a “liker” on social media. She says she does it because she doesn’t want to hurt people’s feelings. I actually laughed at her and said I never even look at who “likes” my photos, but that is something that my husband always looks at. However, since that conversation I think she may have triggered something inside me, because now it bothers me!!! And I actually HATE that it does. I think the fact that I have moved to another country makes me rely on Facebook a little more to interact with my friends or family - it does make me feel connected. For instance, any trip that I have taken this year I have posted photos and it’s really just so I can share albums with people like my mom or sister. I just returned from a trip and one of the first things my mom said to me was “Let me know when you upload the photos, can’t wait to see them!”
I think to frame the dynamic of women continually turning against you as your "life for what it is" and then to explain all the things you are not, is to avoid what could be a really important matter in your life.
If this is a contunous repeating pattern as you say, then you are not looking carefully enough into yourself as a party to this matter, and by that I mean you are not recognizing some of your unconscious habitual patterns. It's okay to choose not look deeply into yourself. But at the very least, I think it important to recognize your part in this repeating pattern of alienation.
I agree with you, but if it is unconscious then how am I to even recognize the pattern? I don’t think we will have a complete fall out and terminate our friendship. I have known her literally her entire life and we have gone through cycles like this before, so I do think it will work itself out. But I am interested to know what about me rubs some women the wrong way, outside of this horary.
There is nothing strange with the situation you described.
She would be a 7th house person if she was a mere acquaintance, someone you happen to know but you don't really get along on a personal basis. The 11th house is the one for friends. Given that you and her do have a bond (despite at the moment being damaged) she is represented by your house of friends. A mere acquaintance not liking your pictures wouldn't probably affect you.
OK, that makes sense then. But I am in the 11th house, along with my 10th house ruler (public image, etc). What significance does that have? Does it just mean that I am very concerned about my friendship?
Totally agree with Dirius. She is Mercury, and has no interest in Sun at least in any negative way, she is not jealous or hates, she is just concerned with her own issues, Mercury is strong and in its own sign and house.
However, I'm thinking Jupiter in your 2nd may indicate something about the photos or things you post that may not be to her liking, it could be a mutual friend. 2nd is things you possess or your inbox, things belonging to you. Or perhaps something what Dirius suggested, her friend. So whatever it is, its in the past yet Moon is still there as it just separated from Jup.
Moon with SN and in detriment of Mercury, I think, your husband is right, as he is not into these petty things, and you should leave it behind too. You are getting worried over nothing.
I think Mercury being in its own sign and house would describe her well. I think she is someone who is very self-assured. I think Jupiter in the 2nd house kind of points to something. Mutual friend would be her boyfriend is one of my other best friends. I confronted her about 6 weeks ago about her detachment because she made some rude comment to me and I basically laid it out to her that I decided not to chase her friendship and let her come to me because I felt that perhaps I would relying on the friendship too much and holding on to something that was in the past. She immediately reacted and told me that wasn’t the case, but we need to speak. We spoke via Skype and she brought up her relationship with my friend and she implied that perhaps I was jealous that she took him away from me. I told her that was not the case, but I felt the dynamic of my friendship with both of them has changed because it’s like certain things are off-limits to joke about, etc. and I am unsure where the line is. She also said something to the effect that also maybe I am jealous because I was a NYC girl always going out and now she is doing those things. I told her that was not the case either because I was tired of my NYC lifestyle before I even left NY and didn’t really go out as much because the luster had worn off for me at a certain point. Plus I am having an awesome time traveling all around the world at the moment, so going out to dinner and sporting events in NY doesn’t really mean anything to me except nostalgia of missing my friends/family. So I guess for me, the jealousy question kind of came into play because I feel like she isn’t necessarily jealous of ME, but maybe of my lifestyle or how it is projected on social media. For instance, in the last 356 days I have gone to Ireland, Czech Republic, New York, Italy, Poland, Denmark, Spain and Hong Kong and Bali. For anyone who doesn’t know me well they would think that my husband and I crazy jet setters (we're not. We fly on our air miles or Easy Jet. My husband literally eats hamburgers anywhere we go since he is the pickiest eater I've ever met). I guess my jealousy question was more along the lines of her lack of acknowledgment of anything I do that is fun or interesting. Even when my sister came over to visit, she never asked how that was. It's like she doesn't want to give me the satisfaction of acknowledging that my life at the moment is not monotonous.
I could be making an issue out of nothing. Maybe it’s my insecurity (cancer) in growing apart (sun separating from Mercury). Mercury DOES square the Moon though….
Something that might help is just being upfront and honest about how it hurts your feelings that she doesn't 'like' your fb stuff or show an interest in your life. A true friend is not going to turn away from you for this. Before doing this, if you do, just go over what you want to say first so you don't sound controversial.
Btw, do you 'like' her stuff? Its really a two way street with fb. Its like a really silly social game sometimes. But the more you like of someone else's stuff the more likely they are to reciprocate.
As I mentioned above, I was honest with her about my feelings in terms of our friendship a few weeks ago. I don’t see much of an improvement, but I guess this is typical of her in a relationship because if I can think back to previous relationships I always feel like she slips away and becomes this odd version of herself where she submerges herself in the other persons world in a way. And yes, of course I like her stuff when I see it and if it’s interesting. I try to be supportive to my friends and show an interest and especially being so far away from them at the moment I think it’s important to try and keep in touch with them since we don’t have that face time anymore.
