Hi---
Mdiniaz wrote--
Your 7th house is not empty - Chiron is there and that is a very important point and it is very negatively aspected in this chart. Chiron reflects the hurts we suffer in life, mostly in childhood and that we carry forward throughout our lives. First, it is opposite Pluto in the 1st, showing that you exercise a great deal of control in relationships in order to avoid suffering any pain. It is semisquare Saturn, which is the ruler of your 7th house (use traditional rulers for houses, not modern ones). Saturn is in the 5th house, of yes, romance, but also fun and creativity. With Saturn in your 5th, you view it more as work, obligations, and responsibility, which probably reminds you of your childhood where everything was a duty or obligation and "fun" took a distant backseat. When you view your relationships that way, that removes the "fun" aspect of being in love and enjoying the time you spend with someone. When the other person sees you are not having fun, they will mostly likely conclude that they just don't light up your life. Part of the fun of being in love and being with someone is the joy you give to other person - and if they appear joyless - well that is just plain depressing. Nobody wants to be around that.
----Yes that is true about me....with Pluto oppose the only asteroid in my 7th, the issue of control and I would also say my history of sex abuse would emerge in my partnerships---related to Pluto and Chiron. WIth Saturn in my 5th and semisquare my Chiron in 7th (plus Sat opposing Venus) it does have a heavy hand and a too serious on in my love life. I have been criticized for being too serious and not lighthearted enough. I would love to focus on the omore pos aspects of Saturn (reliability and loyalty), plus maybe harness my Jupiter in Sag closely sextiling my 7th, to add some fun and warmth.
Mdinaz wrote---With the negative aspect Venus to Chiron however, this doesn't extend to your relationships. Were your parents not friend with each other? Did one of your parents view their relationship as an obligation rather than out of love and friendship? Somewhere in your youth you learned that marriage = work. I view the sesquiquadrate as a spiritual aspect so this is an important lesson for you to learn. Chiron is also quincunx Mercury, so talking about these problems to your partner is also difficult and annoying for you. I think you need to review WHY you want a close relationship with someone, you need to figure out how to get from here to there, and completely change your views on what exactly a partnership and marriage SHOULD MEAN TO YOU, rather than what you learned it to be from your parents or other family members.
-----THanks for the thorough analysis. I had assumed that since Venus is in Cancer and Chiron in Pisces, they would bein alliance? I hadn't notied the sesquiquadrate......yes my parents were friendly---I believe I received the negativ messages about love via my mother being abusive to me and my siblings---yet she and my father got along. Yes, Chiron aspecting Mercury is difficult for me---the Chrion wound affecting my mind and communication---repressing me and fillling me with fear....what I would seek from a relationship would be love, romance, security and mutual support.
As for Juno, it shows where you give up power to others in order to maintain relationships. Yours is semisextile Saturn, which means you are willing to give up your ideas of home life (safety, security, peace) in order to maintain a relationship, even if it is a lousy one. This comes easy for you. Again, it sounds like you had a parent who did exactly that. It is quincunx your Venus so doing this irritates you, and you can sense something is not right, but with the semisextile to Saturn, you are loathe or too lazy to change it.
---Yes I fear changing it, fear other peoples' reactions. You are right, my parent (father ) was more passive and didn't speak up to my mother even when she abused us and was rude to him. And the Jun0 aspects to Venus and Saturn are almost exact....your analysis is painful and accurate.....and I would add that I would choose partners with the fun and freedom traits of Juno in Sagittarius, and I would try to add the empathy and devotion of Venus in Cancer, not always matching up.
Melisa