Horus
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Scorpio vs. Cancer Compatibility Dilemma
Hi All,
I'm a Scorpio man and I just started dating a Cancer lady who has been divorced (from an Aries) for six months. Dreams, visions, and intuitive promptings have made me pursue her, and it was a like lightning had struck when I first met her!
Outwardly it would seem to be a good match per basic sunsign compatibility, (better than w/ the Aquarius I was dating before her) but I am already experiencing communication issues, a couple of heated arguments, and a feeling of oddity w/ her at times. Yet there is this intense attraction, and growing affection between us. It 'clicks' but it doesn't 'flow', or vice-versa.
I've turned to astrology to try to understand the crazy dynamic, and whether there is any real chance of having a successful, committed, long-term relationship with her. Our individual charts and synastry wheel are attached.
I've plugged our data into several sites to get synastry readings and received mixed messages back. Some interpretations list aspects that alternate between "this is wonderful" and "this is terrible". The Venus Files website lists tons of aspects I've never heard of ("tri-septile", "octile', etc.) and sugarcoats negative aspects w/ optimistic suggestions.
I also went to configurationhunter.com and printed a list of aspects (sans asteroids and moons - keeping only Chiron and Juno) and tried to evaluate them w/ Cafe Astrology's numerical system and tally up a "score". The problems with that approach were a) Cafe doesn't give points for everything on the confighunter's list and b) I'm skeptical that the config hunter actually listed all of the aspects that are there.
For example, I have five planets in Scorpio. Shouldn't her Saturn in Leo be squaring all five? Only one or two have been listed in these various auto reports around the Web. Why? Is it the degree separation?
It looks like the strongest things going for us are:
1) my Sun conjuncts her North Node
2) my Sun conjuncts her Uranus -which is her ruling planet
3) her Venus and Sun are in my 7th house (I read that's it better if mine were in her 7th -oh well!)
4) my Pluto is in her 7th house
5) Our Suns are trine (4°)
6) Our Venuses are trine (Venus -Sun trines less than 2°)
7?) I've also read that it's worth something if the Sun conjuncts the partner's descendant, but what about the Moon? Any points for that? Her Gemini Moon seems to conjunct my descendant.
This connection feels karmic to me, and I may be instrumental to her growth, healing, and transformation. The positive Pluto aspects and conjunction w/ her North Node would seem to confirm this, and I am a clinical hypnotherapist...
The chief negative aspects seem to be:
1) her Mars squares my Saturn (really BAD!)
2) my Sun squares her Saturn
3) my Mars squares her Sun
4) my Mars is in her 7th house
5?) Both of our Mars' and Venuses are square to one another too which seems to be a mixed bag of sex and (combative?) tension.
6?) Our Moons are in Opposition and I keep reading mixed things about that too. One astrologer thinks its great, another says we're at odds because of it. I read in one place that a Moon in Gemini can indicate dishonesty and deception...?
Do all of the Martian squares mean I am going to be fighting with this girl most of the time, or will our lovely Sun-Venus trines "smoothe over ruffled feathers"? I have worked through and healed a lot of my own issues in recent years, (and coincidentally the ones reflected in my own natal chart by Saturn opposing all my stuff in Scorpio) but I still get very jealous and this could be the flash-point for conflict w/ this woman. How do I transcend that? Doesn't everyone get jealous when their significant other spends lots of time w/ friends of the opposite sex who are attracted to them? (sigh)
I have no idea how to interpret the Ascendants. If they compare to each other directly, then I guess they are trine. If hers compares to my Sun and the other four planets that I have in Scorpio, then there are some squares. Does that matter? How important is the ascendant in all of this? Isn't that just the mask we wear while the Sun and Moon is who we really are?
Our Mercurys are non-aspected -is this behind communication difficulty? And yet, my Mercury also trines her Sun and Venus. I'm confused. Maybe she's just a wounded crab and it will take awhile for her to come out of her shell and get used to me...
There are other good and bad aspects but I'm unsure how weighty they are...and that's actually the crux of my confusion and query here:
WHAT is ruling this picture??? The positive aspects or the negative? Can I marry this gal?
Any thoughts, insights and feedback would be greatly appreciated.
Hi All,
I'm a Scorpio man and I just started dating a Cancer lady who has been divorced (from an Aries) for six months. Dreams, visions, and intuitive promptings have made me pursue her, and it was a like lightning had struck when I first met her!
Outwardly it would seem to be a good match per basic sunsign compatibility, (better than w/ the Aquarius I was dating before her) but I am already experiencing communication issues, a couple of heated arguments, and a feeling of oddity w/ her at times. Yet there is this intense attraction, and growing affection between us. It 'clicks' but it doesn't 'flow', or vice-versa.
I've turned to astrology to try to understand the crazy dynamic, and whether there is any real chance of having a successful, committed, long-term relationship with her. Our individual charts and synastry wheel are attached.
I've plugged our data into several sites to get synastry readings and received mixed messages back. Some interpretations list aspects that alternate between "this is wonderful" and "this is terrible". The Venus Files website lists tons of aspects I've never heard of ("tri-septile", "octile', etc.) and sugarcoats negative aspects w/ optimistic suggestions.
I also went to configurationhunter.com and printed a list of aspects (sans asteroids and moons - keeping only Chiron and Juno) and tried to evaluate them w/ Cafe Astrology's numerical system and tally up a "score". The problems with that approach were a) Cafe doesn't give points for everything on the confighunter's list and b) I'm skeptical that the config hunter actually listed all of the aspects that are there.
For example, I have five planets in Scorpio. Shouldn't her Saturn in Leo be squaring all five? Only one or two have been listed in these various auto reports around the Web. Why? Is it the degree separation?
It looks like the strongest things going for us are:
1) my Sun conjuncts her North Node
2) my Sun conjuncts her Uranus -which is her ruling planet
3) her Venus and Sun are in my 7th house (I read that's it better if mine were in her 7th -oh well!)
4) my Pluto is in her 7th house
5) Our Suns are trine (4°)
6) Our Venuses are trine (Venus -Sun trines less than 2°)
7?) I've also read that it's worth something if the Sun conjuncts the partner's descendant, but what about the Moon? Any points for that? Her Gemini Moon seems to conjunct my descendant.
This connection feels karmic to me, and I may be instrumental to her growth, healing, and transformation. The positive Pluto aspects and conjunction w/ her North Node would seem to confirm this, and I am a clinical hypnotherapist...
The chief negative aspects seem to be:
1) her Mars squares my Saturn (really BAD!)
2) my Sun squares her Saturn
3) my Mars squares her Sun
4) my Mars is in her 7th house
5?) Both of our Mars' and Venuses are square to one another too which seems to be a mixed bag of sex and (combative?) tension.
6?) Our Moons are in Opposition and I keep reading mixed things about that too. One astrologer thinks its great, another says we're at odds because of it. I read in one place that a Moon in Gemini can indicate dishonesty and deception...?
Do all of the Martian squares mean I am going to be fighting with this girl most of the time, or will our lovely Sun-Venus trines "smoothe over ruffled feathers"? I have worked through and healed a lot of my own issues in recent years, (and coincidentally the ones reflected in my own natal chart by Saturn opposing all my stuff in Scorpio) but I still get very jealous and this could be the flash-point for conflict w/ this woman. How do I transcend that? Doesn't everyone get jealous when their significant other spends lots of time w/ friends of the opposite sex who are attracted to them? (sigh)
I have no idea how to interpret the Ascendants. If they compare to each other directly, then I guess they are trine. If hers compares to my Sun and the other four planets that I have in Scorpio, then there are some squares. Does that matter? How important is the ascendant in all of this? Isn't that just the mask we wear while the Sun and Moon is who we really are?
Our Mercurys are non-aspected -is this behind communication difficulty? And yet, my Mercury also trines her Sun and Venus. I'm confused. Maybe she's just a wounded crab and it will take awhile for her to come out of her shell and get used to me...
There are other good and bad aspects but I'm unsure how weighty they are...and that's actually the crux of my confusion and query here:
WHAT is ruling this picture??? The positive aspects or the negative? Can I marry this gal?
Any thoughts, insights and feedback would be greatly appreciated.
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