You really should reconsider your relationship and orientation in life. With Sun as ruler of the 1st in the 10th in Taurus and Venus as ruler of 10th in the 11th, you are not suited to stay at home and cook and raise children. You have to go out into the world an leave your mark. A job or a career and getting involved in society is what gives your life meaning. Sure, you've got your Moon in the 4th which suggest that family is important to you, but family is not going to be what gives your life meaning. What gives your life meaning is where your Sun is located.
You've got some tough years behind you. I've already told you that the chart of your husband is not looking like the chart of someone who's going to have a career or who even needs a career. It seems to me that you projected your own ambition onto your husband and are asking something of him that he can't deliver and isn't comfortable of doing, given his chart. So all your past trouble may be due to unrealistic expectations and false ideals. A 10th House Sun is happy to take the responsibly to provide for a family and get ahead in life and strife for recognition and leave a mark in the world. A 12th House Sun feels rather uncomfortable in that role and prefers to go unnoticed and don't leave any traces.
Based on your charts, you should reverse your roles. I suggest you have a talk with your hubby and talk about each others expectations because the story you've told us and what the charts show indicate that you've got it all upside down and backwards.
Also, about the 12th House Sun in your husband's chart. 12th House could also mean overseas, far far away places. So maybe he could have more luck in a different country or different culture than his own.
Thank you for all your effort Muchacho!! Well, what can I say...
My husband is in science, with very high education, and trying to be a
famous researcher! He sometimes has the style, of "laying down and think",
which, I can't tolerate, but, ok, thats him.
On the other hand, I work in a lab, as a technician, I do not have that high education in my cv, and I do not like my job, or at least my colleagues.
There are power games going on there, playing on my back.
On the other hand, YES, there are some tough years behind (hope),
that really made me fall apart at some points. Now things are better.
Was just thinking, if it would be better for me to quit this job, where
I feel that I do not take what I deserve, and move on, or if I should try to
deal with these 2-3 people who cause me troubles and convince my director
to give me what I want....