Venus in Gemini is the wife. Gemini Twins masculine energy. There is probably a split between masculine and feminine in that energy.
Mars is masculine, the warrior, and in Aries which is masculine. There is masculinity there to be a military/spiritual warrior mentally.
Moon Scorpio Is mother and feminine energy. Scorpio tends to be dominate and more masculine to me when I deal with Scorpio Moons. Scorpio is listed feminine energy, but in my experience, it’s the disciplinarian feminine and controlling. Stubborn and in the ego. Temper tantrums. Emotion and water.
Jupiter Gemini. Is the husband and again Gemini Twins, and Split, two sides and inner struggle.
Mercury Cancer usually does play into sexuality, and Cancer is feminine energy, and related with the Moon and Mother.
Saturn in Sagittarius is Karma, and also Masculine energy.
Pisces is passive and feminine energy. Chiron Cancer feminine energy.
I can see why you would be conflicted with all the water Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio being feminine and Gemini in the mix.
With Virgo as your AC, this is purity, purification and the way you appear to the world. Virgo is Masculine energy. With North Node in Pisces as your descendent you can either appear to abandon other people in relationships, not showing up in life, by escaping into entertainment, addictions, or others around you can being the same thing mirroring you.
Self-abandonment vs. being abandoned. Rejecting self, vs. Rejecting others. Being Rejected by them. Aries in 8th house can draw plutonian/mars relationships, and you’ll have to decipher what is healthy and not healthy for you. It can be very transforming in the sense, it’s getting a grip on your emotions, thoughts, and feelings, setting personal boundaries with other Aries/Scorpio’s and not allowing yourself to be caught in the domination versus submission co-dependent relationships. Emotional and mental power struggles.
Taurus/Sagittarius will be your teachers in some of these relationships.
Uranus in Sagittarius may have something to do with being hurt be religious/spiritual/psychological theories, dogma, beliefs, and having to heal those inner wounds within yourself. Not allowing it to get to you emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or physically, and staying true to your authentic self.
Neptune in Capricorn in the 5th house of Leo is seeing through the illusions of Entertainment, Systems, Structures, your Peers, and it seems to be something Scorpio Pluto Generation uses is fantasy, fiction, and illusion. Who are they behind the scenes. Dig deeper than face value of their Leo Role Playing on the Internet, Chats, Media. What’s their agenda and motivation.
Scorpio Pluto and Scorpio Moon in the third house has a lot to do with higher communications, thoughts, what you’re thinking, what you believe, and how you process this information in your mind. Are you warring with yourself with negative inner criticism and taking the external worlds inner criticism and turning it on yourself? As third house would also be your neighbors, peers, people you work with, surround yourself. Not allowing them to influence your thoughts, emotions, and feelings.
Saturn in Sagittarius in 4th may be what you’ve inherited within your family tree as negative and positive beliefs, or dysfunctional ways of relating through their jobs, careers, family tree from past generations, and sifting through the religious/philosophical/psychological karma they’ve passed down to you and taking out what doesn’t apply. You may have had educational parents.
You have to heal your Venus (Feminine) The women who have harmed you emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, sexually. You may be denying this somewhat, but also Cancer is gravitating toward the feminine, because it’s more nurturing, sensitive, giving, receiving to your Identity.
You have to heal your Mars/Jupiter by accepting you may be the Feminine Masculine.
I would encourage you to go take a Meyer’s Brigg’s Personality Test, because I don’t know if I’m right but you may be an INFJ/INFP, INTJ/INTP, ESFP, ESFJ, and this tends to be the feminine and women and men on the planet, versus the masculine who are ISTJ, ISTP, ESTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENTP. Introverts vs. Extroverts. And this all about dominance versus submission in the world.
That will probably give you some answers. Jung found the psychological types from Astrology, it’s just easier to break down that way how it impacts your life.