BaoSanniang
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This is the chart of my mom, whom, unfortunately, has been quite abusive and manipulative towards me at several occasions in my life. Before I go into too many details (I'll discuss her further in subsequent replies), I have to say she's one of the most complicated / complex people I've ever known. It's like she has so many sides to her, I can never quite figure her out. She also keeps secrets from just about everyone, including me, and I feel as if her whole life's characterized by uncertainties, fantasies, and power struggles / manipulation both as a result of her own behavior and as a result of larger forces. It's like she operates on an entirely different level from me, one that's much less straightforward. I can never quite figure her out and I feel like she's not capable of really figuring herself out. Being a Cancer sun I crave security and intimacy but I simply can't get it from her because she's just so difficult to deal with and understand. My folks divorced when I was 7.
It's really hard to spend an extended period of time around her because she can be so neurotic and suspicious, she tends to see the darkness in just about everyone and everything. Perhaps she's gotten to a point where it's difficult for her to imagine a life that's actually simple and peaceful, because her life's pretty much like the title of a certain Dragonforce song made popular by Guitar Hero (I'll leave the song title for you guys to guess, it's not hard). There are times where she shows a bit more of her softness and sensitivity and it draws people, including me, into thinking that she's actually quite a gentle soul. However, it doesn't take long before she goes back to being suspicious, neurotic, and seemingly ready to explode at the drop of a hat. It's this frustrating inconsistency and emotional instability within her that manifests as sensitivity, manipulation, being high-strung, aloofness, suspicion and anger all at the same time that makes for such a high degree of unpredictability, making sustaining intimate relationships for herself and for the other party so difficult.
Looking at her chart, it's one of the most complex I have ever seen. She has 21 aspects involving either an inner planet or the ascendant. Her Sun and Venus each have a whopping 7 aspects. A number of them are out-of-sign but I have never seen any one planet so heavily aspected in the charts I've looked up, but she has TWO very heavily aspected planets. Furthermore, ALL of the 3 outer planets are involved with her natal planets. What stands out is that all 3 are involved with her Sun and her Venus. Saturn trines her Ascendant and Neptune squares her Ascendant.
While most of the aspects involving the 3 outer planets are flowing, it certainly hasn't made her life any easier. It's like she deals with so many struggles, difficulties, obstacles both externally and internally, it's like she's not so much in control of her world and her life but rather it's the world and external circumstances that seems to control and guide her. I don't even know the person she truly is, I'm not even sure if she still knows the person she truly is, she's so hard to talk to because she's always so guarded and cautious yet so "out there" that it's difficult to really understand all of what's going on inside of her. Adding to the difficulty is the fact that she's such a chameleon that really presents different faces to different people and situations.
On the other hand, I feel like my chart and its aspects are so much simpler and the struggles are much more clearer. I've rarely ever had any doubt about myself and my values, and it's not that hard for me to stay simple though I do fantasize and idealize a lot. It's like with just about anything, my mom has twice, perhaps even three more layers of things to consider compared to me.
So, I'll post her chart and I'll let you guys have a look and give me insights into her personality, her life, and why she's just so much more complex as a person than I could ever fathom becoming.
Here are my aspects (those involving natal planets and / or ascendant) for comparison:
Sun Conjunct Mercury
Sun Opposition Jupiter
Sun Square Saturn
Moon Trine Venus
Moon Trine Mars
Moon Sextile Ascendant
Mercury Square Saturn
Venus Conjunct Mars
Venus Sextile Saturn
Venus Opposition Ascendant
Mars Opposition Ascendant
ASC is 18.03 degrees Sagittarius with Jupiter in I and at 12.54 degrees Capricorn. Was born on July 3, 1996 at 18:10 in Chongqing, China.
These are her aspects (involving natal planets and / or the ascendant):
Sun Conjunct Venus
Sun Sextile Mars
Sun Square Jupiter
Sun Square Saturn
Sun Trine Uranus
Sun Sextile Neptune
Sun Trine Pluto
Moon Sextile Uranus
Mercury Square Uranus
Venus Sextile Mars
Venus Square Jupiter
Venus Square Saturn
Venus Trine Uranus
Venus Sextile Neptune
Venus Trine Pluto
Mars Sextile Neptune
Mars Opposition Pluto
Saturn Trine Ascendant
Neptune Square Ascendant
Very charismatic woman, knows what to say and when to say it. Does a pretty good job of being an angel, but once you really get to know her you'll see that she has so many fears, insecurities, obsessions, and that she can be an absolutely frightening person. After 15 years she still has leftover emotional baggage from her marriage and it's caused lots of misery for me as she projected those emotions onto me. Whenever she saw I was behaving somewhat like my dad, I could feel that part of her within really despised me and almost wanting to get rid of me. I've come to simply accept the fact that I'll never be able to get what I want and need from her because she's too dysfunctional, so now my priority is on making my own life as happy as possible. A lot of times I just don't know how to respond to her, it's like she's so dark, deep, complex and mysterious (even though she's an Aquarius) and touches on a realm of life, a part of the world that's too dark and too alien for me to ever step into.
While I can be prone to pessimism regarding people and things, she's not only pessimistic but Machiavellian. Another thing I've noticed is she has Scorpio on her IC. Her IC squares her Ascendant, trines her Mars, and sextiles her Pluto. I believe it's due to the Pluto part but I can feel she keeps lots of family secrets, lots of things I don't know about her past. I also have Pluto trine my IC at 0 degrees Aries but I've been kept out of all this mess that has characterized and shaped her. It really feels like her life course and mine are going in totally different directions with little to no common ground. I just don't want to spend so much time deciphering such a complex, difficult, and evasive person because I need security, assurance, warmth and stability to feed my Water.
Here's her chart:
It's really hard to spend an extended period of time around her because she can be so neurotic and suspicious, she tends to see the darkness in just about everyone and everything. Perhaps she's gotten to a point where it's difficult for her to imagine a life that's actually simple and peaceful, because her life's pretty much like the title of a certain Dragonforce song made popular by Guitar Hero (I'll leave the song title for you guys to guess, it's not hard). There are times where she shows a bit more of her softness and sensitivity and it draws people, including me, into thinking that she's actually quite a gentle soul. However, it doesn't take long before she goes back to being suspicious, neurotic, and seemingly ready to explode at the drop of a hat. It's this frustrating inconsistency and emotional instability within her that manifests as sensitivity, manipulation, being high-strung, aloofness, suspicion and anger all at the same time that makes for such a high degree of unpredictability, making sustaining intimate relationships for herself and for the other party so difficult.
Looking at her chart, it's one of the most complex I have ever seen. She has 21 aspects involving either an inner planet or the ascendant. Her Sun and Venus each have a whopping 7 aspects. A number of them are out-of-sign but I have never seen any one planet so heavily aspected in the charts I've looked up, but she has TWO very heavily aspected planets. Furthermore, ALL of the 3 outer planets are involved with her natal planets. What stands out is that all 3 are involved with her Sun and her Venus. Saturn trines her Ascendant and Neptune squares her Ascendant.
While most of the aspects involving the 3 outer planets are flowing, it certainly hasn't made her life any easier. It's like she deals with so many struggles, difficulties, obstacles both externally and internally, it's like she's not so much in control of her world and her life but rather it's the world and external circumstances that seems to control and guide her. I don't even know the person she truly is, I'm not even sure if she still knows the person she truly is, she's so hard to talk to because she's always so guarded and cautious yet so "out there" that it's difficult to really understand all of what's going on inside of her. Adding to the difficulty is the fact that she's such a chameleon that really presents different faces to different people and situations.
On the other hand, I feel like my chart and its aspects are so much simpler and the struggles are much more clearer. I've rarely ever had any doubt about myself and my values, and it's not that hard for me to stay simple though I do fantasize and idealize a lot. It's like with just about anything, my mom has twice, perhaps even three more layers of things to consider compared to me.
So, I'll post her chart and I'll let you guys have a look and give me insights into her personality, her life, and why she's just so much more complex as a person than I could ever fathom becoming.
Here are my aspects (those involving natal planets and / or ascendant) for comparison:
Sun Conjunct Mercury
Sun Opposition Jupiter
Sun Square Saturn
Moon Trine Venus
Moon Trine Mars
Moon Sextile Ascendant
Mercury Square Saturn
Venus Conjunct Mars
Venus Sextile Saturn
Venus Opposition Ascendant
Mars Opposition Ascendant
ASC is 18.03 degrees Sagittarius with Jupiter in I and at 12.54 degrees Capricorn. Was born on July 3, 1996 at 18:10 in Chongqing, China.
These are her aspects (involving natal planets and / or the ascendant):
Sun Conjunct Venus
Sun Sextile Mars
Sun Square Jupiter
Sun Square Saturn
Sun Trine Uranus
Sun Sextile Neptune
Sun Trine Pluto
Moon Sextile Uranus
Mercury Square Uranus
Venus Sextile Mars
Venus Square Jupiter
Venus Square Saturn
Venus Trine Uranus
Venus Sextile Neptune
Venus Trine Pluto
Mars Sextile Neptune
Mars Opposition Pluto
Saturn Trine Ascendant
Neptune Square Ascendant
Very charismatic woman, knows what to say and when to say it. Does a pretty good job of being an angel, but once you really get to know her you'll see that she has so many fears, insecurities, obsessions, and that she can be an absolutely frightening person. After 15 years she still has leftover emotional baggage from her marriage and it's caused lots of misery for me as she projected those emotions onto me. Whenever she saw I was behaving somewhat like my dad, I could feel that part of her within really despised me and almost wanting to get rid of me. I've come to simply accept the fact that I'll never be able to get what I want and need from her because she's too dysfunctional, so now my priority is on making my own life as happy as possible. A lot of times I just don't know how to respond to her, it's like she's so dark, deep, complex and mysterious (even though she's an Aquarius) and touches on a realm of life, a part of the world that's too dark and too alien for me to ever step into.
While I can be prone to pessimism regarding people and things, she's not only pessimistic but Machiavellian. Another thing I've noticed is she has Scorpio on her IC. Her IC squares her Ascendant, trines her Mars, and sextiles her Pluto. I believe it's due to the Pluto part but I can feel she keeps lots of family secrets, lots of things I don't know about her past. I also have Pluto trine my IC at 0 degrees Aries but I've been kept out of all this mess that has characterized and shaped her. It really feels like her life course and mine are going in totally different directions with little to no common ground. I just don't want to spend so much time deciphering such a complex, difficult, and evasive person because I need security, assurance, warmth and stability to feed my Water.
Here's her chart:
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