graay ghost
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I don't know.
There's the common myth that physical activity will make one less angry, which for me, at least, is untrue. Strenuous physical activity like sports make me more angry because I hate them so **** much. I have never felt too exhausted from physical activity to be angry.
But there's a much more dangerous common myth that expressions of anger are totally uncontrolled. This usually isn't true... because expressions of anger are often directed against those who are considered "weaker" when they have to be restrained against those who have power because the people with power can make one's position worse and can actually, in some cases, legally kill you.
I have a quote not from an astrology book but from Why Does He Do that? by Lundy Bandcroft, a book on spousal abuse. I had to massage it significantly to get it under the 100 word limit, but you can read the whole passage here (the person's notes have dirty words if that kind of thing bothers you)
While there are cases when people take out anger on authority figures, these cases are relatively few and far between compared to the amount of anger taken out on spouses, children, service workers... yes there may be more of them but there is a definite flow of anger downwards, based on feelings of inadequacy and a need for control.
My point is that I do not believe what most people call expressions of "Mars" to be, I guess, as dumb-brute as people think they are. "Mars," or whatever it is, is definitely going through some algorithms to decide whether this situation is 'safe' to act out against.
Like, exercise might work to stave off general crankiness. It absolutely does not work against this sort of thing, which sounds much more like the violence described in this thread.
I'm "spiny," fine. I am definitely capable of snapping at people (but who hasn't? We can't all be saints). I love getting into stupid debates over stupid things over the internet (everyone needs a hobby, I guess...). But this sort of behavior? As described in this thread? Absolutely beyond the pale.
There's the common myth that physical activity will make one less angry, which for me, at least, is untrue. Strenuous physical activity like sports make me more angry because I hate them so **** much. I have never felt too exhausted from physical activity to be angry.
But there's a much more dangerous common myth that expressions of anger are totally uncontrolled. This usually isn't true... because expressions of anger are often directed against those who are considered "weaker" when they have to be restrained against those who have power because the people with power can make one's position worse and can actually, in some cases, legally kill you.
I have a quote not from an astrology book but from Why Does He Do that? by Lundy Bandcroft, a book on spousal abuse. I had to massage it significantly to get it under the 100 word limit, but you can read the whole passage here (the person's notes have dirty words if that kind of thing bothers you)
“[...] She described the rages that my client Michael would have: ‘He just goes absolutely berserk,[...] He’ll just start grabbing whatever is around and throwing it.[...] And he smashes stuff, important things [...] Later he seems kind of ashamed of himself.’
"I asked Sheila two questions. The first was, when things got broken, were they Michael’s, or hers, or things that belonged to both of them? [...] she said, 'You know what? [...] he only breaks my stuff. I can’t think of one thing he’s smashed that belonged to him.’[...]
"I commented, 'See, Michael’s behavior isn’t nearly as berserk as it looks. [...].”
While there are cases when people take out anger on authority figures, these cases are relatively few and far between compared to the amount of anger taken out on spouses, children, service workers... yes there may be more of them but there is a definite flow of anger downwards, based on feelings of inadequacy and a need for control.
My point is that I do not believe what most people call expressions of "Mars" to be, I guess, as dumb-brute as people think they are. "Mars," or whatever it is, is definitely going through some algorithms to decide whether this situation is 'safe' to act out against.
Like, exercise might work to stave off general crankiness. It absolutely does not work against this sort of thing, which sounds much more like the violence described in this thread.
I'm "spiny," fine. I am definitely capable of snapping at people (but who hasn't? We can't all be saints). I love getting into stupid debates over stupid things over the internet (everyone needs a hobby, I guess...). But this sort of behavior? As described in this thread? Absolutely beyond the pale.