Bluebell87
Banned
That's exactly how I see things!! (bolded)...my own lack of feeling kinda surprised me but the fact that he had sex with other people didn't bother me in the slightest... I get the no commitments thing, but no emotional at all? That's impossible for me, if I'm being honest. I can't see people as just bodies. If I didn't want any emotion at all, I'd just use a vibrator. It's like, get yourself a sex robot or something because if you treat women this way, they're going to have an emotional response no matter what so
Oh, and to answer your question, he did talk to me that one time we hung out afterwards, that's when he told me he didn't want emotional attachments (which I knew anyway) but that was it.
And as for the whole relationship thing, I felt like this guy was compatible with me personality-wise, like if we had met as just friends everything would have been fine (in fact his chart is very similar to my best friend's) but our approach to relationships is obviously very different and that's the problem. I feel like in order to be in a relationship, I'd have to force myself to be with someone who I'm not only not attracted too but also incompatible with personality-wise.
craft, hhe is acting similar to a guy i had an experience with this summer. we had actually got on great as friends before but we started talking this time and he was so different. the way he was acting was nothing short of rude and cheap but the next time i saw him he was so depressed and coming to terms with losing his ex who head cheated on. i thinnk he was realizing for the first time what he had with his ex and his poor little boy brain couldnt handle the lesson. did your guy have an ex he was gettin over or some drama that would make him depressed? its no excuse obviously but i didnt feel hurt by his words anymore because the guy was going through his first heart break. anyway, sounds like you handled the situation well. it sounds like he was expecting you tto be more upset so good on you!
anyway, im glad there are three of us girls in the same or similar situations, different stages or what not. its helping me by reading this. it doesnt help its xmas, im still in my saturn return and i let myself get wound up by my guy, the one the horarys are about.
child of venus and craft, i salute you. mayybe our nnext thread should be titled fwb: coping strategies for the entering and exit stages.