cancerfotochik
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Okay, a bit of a long story, but here goes..
There is this guy I've known for almost two years (I'll call him Matt, for clarity's sake), we worked together at least once a week. I don't know Matt's full astrological profile, b/c I don't know what time he was born, but I do know that his Sun is in Capricorn, and his Moon is in Pisces. Birthdate is 01.02.1971, born in TX. My chart is attached below.
Okay, so I liked Matt from the start as a person, he's kinda goofy, but at the same time serious and can be very sweet, as I have gotten to know him a little better. About a year ago or so, I noticed he started 'picking' on me at work a bit, whereas before, he was pretty shy around me and we didn't talk a whole lot. Anyway, so he was kinda flirty and picking on me like I said, and this went on for awhile.
Around a month and a half ago, out of the blue at work, as I was leaving, he followed me outside and kind of covertly asked me if I'd like to go out with him sometime. I was shocked but said yes immediately, cause I really liked him as a person. He told me that he'd had a crush on me for awhile, and that's why he'd been picking on me at work, lol! I was delighted, it was very sweet what he said, and well, this really plays on my cancerian/piscean romantic nature.
So, I waited, and waited, lol, for him to make the first move and actually take me out. I knew Caps are usually pretty slow going when it comes to love, so this didn't alarm me much. It took him about a week to call me, and we talked for a bit, mostly about work, and have exchanged texts here and there since then. A couple of weeks ago, his dad died, which kind of slowed things down, which I totally understood, I just let him know that I was there for him if he needed me. Finally, tho, this past Sunday nite, he texted me and said he could use some company, so I went over to his place. I was pretty floored at how the next 12 hours progressed. We laid there on his bed and talked and held each other for this whole time, he was very affectionate and barely let go of me at all. There were a couple of intense make-out sessions, although at one point during the first one, he stopped and said that he felt like he'd gone too far already, and I told him that I thought it was too soon (for sex). He was very understanding, although, that didn't stop him from trying again a little later, lol! Not that I minded really, his erotic overtures were very gentle and almost loving, it seemed like, and very focused on pleasing me without going too far. I was blown away to say the least, it really opened something inside me that made me really start falling for him in a big way. I literally cannot stop thinking about him. Being there with him felt so natural and comfortable, and I rarely feel this way about romantic relationships, since I've had some pretty lame experiences in so called 'love', and one really bad marriage. I find it difficult to let myself be comfortable around a man unless I know he is really interested and cares about me. With Matt, though, it was really different. Not my first Cap boyfriend, I dated one for about 6 months before Matt, and even though the relationship did not work out, we remain good friends. The relationship really helped me see the error of my ways in the way I deal with guys. It brought about a very significant transformation in myself, which has changed a lot about my perspective on life in general. (Maybe the Universe's way of preparing me for my current situation...?)
Anyway, to tie this novella up here, I really really want this thing with Matt to work out, b/c he really is a very nice, upstanding guy, and very affectionate, which is what I need for a relationship to even begin. I have read up quite a bit on Caps, and I know that they don't usually start anything with a woman unless they really like them a lot. This makes me excited, but I also know that there are other issues in his chart that may make a difference in how this relationship unfolds. Its been very slow-going so far, as expected, however, I am a bit worried about his moon in Pisces, knowing from great experience that Piscean influence can make a person wishy-washy at times. (My heart was pretty much broken to bits by a Piscean.)
My biggest concern though, is something kind of uncomfortable that I will have to tell him before we have sex. I have had genital herpes and hpv for about the past 10 years. So, understandably, I am quite nervous about having to tell Matt this. I know that I have to tell him before we have sex. However, I am so worried that he may be just looking for sex, not that he really strikes me as that kind of person, but he is a GUY after all, and we all know that guys love their sex and will do a lot to get it! Anyway, I am really sensitive, and I'm not sure how he will react to this info about me, so naturally, I am afraid to tell him. I guess my biggest fear is that he will be upset and reject me, which will definitely make me cry, which I don't want to do that in front of him! We have plans to see each other this weekend, and I am pretty sure that will include some cuddly time, which may lead to more, and I will end up having to tell Matt my unfortunate secret.
SO, I am feeling all sorts of scared and halfway in love, and not sure how this will turn out. I was hoping that someone here could give me some advice as to how this situation might turn out, or how you think he will handle this info about me, just to help ease my fears about it.
Thanks
There is this guy I've known for almost two years (I'll call him Matt, for clarity's sake), we worked together at least once a week. I don't know Matt's full astrological profile, b/c I don't know what time he was born, but I do know that his Sun is in Capricorn, and his Moon is in Pisces. Birthdate is 01.02.1971, born in TX. My chart is attached below.
Okay, so I liked Matt from the start as a person, he's kinda goofy, but at the same time serious and can be very sweet, as I have gotten to know him a little better. About a year ago or so, I noticed he started 'picking' on me at work a bit, whereas before, he was pretty shy around me and we didn't talk a whole lot. Anyway, so he was kinda flirty and picking on me like I said, and this went on for awhile.
Around a month and a half ago, out of the blue at work, as I was leaving, he followed me outside and kind of covertly asked me if I'd like to go out with him sometime. I was shocked but said yes immediately, cause I really liked him as a person. He told me that he'd had a crush on me for awhile, and that's why he'd been picking on me at work, lol! I was delighted, it was very sweet what he said, and well, this really plays on my cancerian/piscean romantic nature.
So, I waited, and waited, lol, for him to make the first move and actually take me out. I knew Caps are usually pretty slow going when it comes to love, so this didn't alarm me much. It took him about a week to call me, and we talked for a bit, mostly about work, and have exchanged texts here and there since then. A couple of weeks ago, his dad died, which kind of slowed things down, which I totally understood, I just let him know that I was there for him if he needed me. Finally, tho, this past Sunday nite, he texted me and said he could use some company, so I went over to his place. I was pretty floored at how the next 12 hours progressed. We laid there on his bed and talked and held each other for this whole time, he was very affectionate and barely let go of me at all. There were a couple of intense make-out sessions, although at one point during the first one, he stopped and said that he felt like he'd gone too far already, and I told him that I thought it was too soon (for sex). He was very understanding, although, that didn't stop him from trying again a little later, lol! Not that I minded really, his erotic overtures were very gentle and almost loving, it seemed like, and very focused on pleasing me without going too far. I was blown away to say the least, it really opened something inside me that made me really start falling for him in a big way. I literally cannot stop thinking about him. Being there with him felt so natural and comfortable, and I rarely feel this way about romantic relationships, since I've had some pretty lame experiences in so called 'love', and one really bad marriage. I find it difficult to let myself be comfortable around a man unless I know he is really interested and cares about me. With Matt, though, it was really different. Not my first Cap boyfriend, I dated one for about 6 months before Matt, and even though the relationship did not work out, we remain good friends. The relationship really helped me see the error of my ways in the way I deal with guys. It brought about a very significant transformation in myself, which has changed a lot about my perspective on life in general. (Maybe the Universe's way of preparing me for my current situation...?)
Anyway, to tie this novella up here, I really really want this thing with Matt to work out, b/c he really is a very nice, upstanding guy, and very affectionate, which is what I need for a relationship to even begin. I have read up quite a bit on Caps, and I know that they don't usually start anything with a woman unless they really like them a lot. This makes me excited, but I also know that there are other issues in his chart that may make a difference in how this relationship unfolds. Its been very slow-going so far, as expected, however, I am a bit worried about his moon in Pisces, knowing from great experience that Piscean influence can make a person wishy-washy at times. (My heart was pretty much broken to bits by a Piscean.)
My biggest concern though, is something kind of uncomfortable that I will have to tell him before we have sex. I have had genital herpes and hpv for about the past 10 years. So, understandably, I am quite nervous about having to tell Matt this. I know that I have to tell him before we have sex. However, I am so worried that he may be just looking for sex, not that he really strikes me as that kind of person, but he is a GUY after all, and we all know that guys love their sex and will do a lot to get it! Anyway, I am really sensitive, and I'm not sure how he will react to this info about me, so naturally, I am afraid to tell him. I guess my biggest fear is that he will be upset and reject me, which will definitely make me cry, which I don't want to do that in front of him! We have plans to see each other this weekend, and I am pretty sure that will include some cuddly time, which may lead to more, and I will end up having to tell Matt my unfortunate secret.
SO, I am feeling all sorts of scared and halfway in love, and not sure how this will turn out. I was hoping that someone here could give me some advice as to how this situation might turn out, or how you think he will handle this info about me, just to help ease my fears about it.
Thanks