i'm a venus cazimi aquarian, being new to astrology, this post is anecdotal.
"love" is a confusing word because it means so many things. you already seem to have the egalitarian sense of aquarian ..they say "friendship" that it is prudent to have and extend consideration for all people, things, perceptible and imperceptible.
what you seem to be seeking is desire, a consuming passion. this imo is somehwat (maybe not, but maybe) at odds with intellectual, disattached aquarian..
..it's like god, god cannot be "wholly" if god is only a part of the world, god has to stay the entire world, lest, being a part, god lose perspective.
ova and ova again!
desire, pa-shun, shouldn't be too hard to access, after all, many things in society will corroborate this sense of desire. if we use the god model again, perhaps it is like losing your god perspective, to gain something in the process, an experience. this may not necessarily be painless, prudent, or necessary, which could be why, when you are faced with the prospect, you are reluctant to fully immerse yourself.
after all, on this planet, all people are meat skeletons, to the grave they will go. do you wish to celebrate the transitory, or honour something more integral?
if you are somewhat distant from selfish lust, then perhaps a way *into* passion is to find someone who desires you, who is attracted to you for some arbitrary, silly reason, who may be dangerous and consume or use you. then, as an egalitarian aquarian with a heart big enough to give the whole world, you donate yourself to fulfill this persons desires, and rob a bit of the sentiment in the process.
you want heart burn...? take one of these and call "me" in the morning
these meat skeletons, what do they celebrate, what do they desire? they are in illusion. perhaps if you are careful you can get a whiff and manage to preserve your egalitarian self instead of losing it to these selfish interests, i think you'll be lucky to find someone who preserves wholistic intent.
*edit* adds... boring.. what's wrong with boring? i strongly, strongly advise you, whatever path you choose to pursue, to check the link in my sig and devour the tao te ching... boredom is good! boredom is a great and generous friend! boredom is the salvation from hideous, maleific interest! amitabha! if you're young.. you'll remember it when you're old and have been through the wringer a few times..