BaoSanniang
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Looking at my own chart, one of the more interesting things I've noticed is how my most key masculine planets / energies (Sun and Saturn) have poor aspects with each other while my two most feminine planets, the Moon and Venus, are much more positive. As you can see from my chart, my Sun and Saturn form a square with each other, my Sun is also opposite my Jupiter. The only positive / neutral aspect that gives my sun a bit more stability and consistency, especially when it comes to the mind, is Sun Conjunct Mercury. Overall, that's 2/3 explicitly negative aspects for my sun.
On the other hand, my moon seems to tell a much happier story. I have Moon Trine Venus, Moon Trine Mars, and Moon Sextile Ascendant. While two of the most masculine / yang energies in my chart are in hard aspect to each other, my two most feminine energies are in harmony. My Venus is conjunct my Mars (11.48 degrees GEM and 14.42 degrees GEM, respectively), it's sextile my Saturn (11.48 degrees GEM and 7.12 degrees Aries), and it's opposite my ascendant though I've heard Venus in opposition to the Ascendant isn't a particularly bad thing to have.
As a guy primarily raised by mom (for better or worse, but IMO more for the better in many ways), I feel uncomfortable with many masculine ideals. I'd say between uncomfortable and repulsed depending on the situation and my mood. For example, I don't like the idea of being a breadwinner type of guy when I get married, I hate it when people bring up ideas like how men should earn more than women, be judged by their profession / career / income and how they should clearly be the ones in charge of the household. I don't like many stereotypical "guy" things such as cars, alcohol, etc. I'm 22 and i don't have a driver's license nor do I plan to get one any time soon, if ever. I hate the culturally ingrained idea (across many cultures) of how men shouldn't show emotions, shouldn't be too sensitive. There is a Chinese saying I absolutely detest: "A man's will lies in four directions." Basically what it means is men should be the ones who are bold and seek new endeavors, to go out in the world and carve a path for themselves instead of focusing on "petty" affairs such as ones of a more homely / domestic nature.
I like long hair more than short hair. Even as a guy I wish I can have longer, flowing, and silky dark hair. Even when it comes to media, I identify more with male characters who look a bit metrosexual though I am OK with those that look more traditionally masculine. If I have kids, I believe I'd have trouble exerting a fatherly kind of influence in their lives, and I honestly have no idea how the father's role should be different from the mother's. Perhaps due to the combination of my Cancer, Moon, and Venus, if I have kids in many ways I'll be just as soft and nurturing to them like a mother would. I have trouble being a more "traditional" father as someone who sets rules and boundaries and some discipline from time to time.
I'm straight, but I feel that I have a fairly easy time relating to women even at a platonic level. This is not to say I can't relate to other guys well, and not to say I can relate well to every woman, but whether it's by chance or by something in my birth chart, I feel a kind of natural smoothness when it comes to women and I'm not afraid of "girl talk" both in a "physical" or a more emotional / psychological sense. It's not hard for me to get female friends to open up about their problems, both big and small. My style of relating to females is that I tend to do things for them. Nothing big or romantic, but things of a more everyday / practical nature. I sort of like to sing, and even at the age of 22 my Adam's apple is barely noticeable and I can sing some girl's songs better than songs by male singers. I'd much prefer to marry my caring female friend than someone I've successfully pursued and have great passion with.
A slightly complicated part of my psychological relationship with masculinity is I feel that a very small part of me still aspires towards what's stereotypical of masculinity every once in a while. I channel that mostly through the virtual world, such as playing war-themed video games. However, most of the time I'm more "yin" than "yang" in my character despite being a guy, and I don't feel any shame because of it.
As for my own dad, he was basically a jerk eager to prove himself to the world at the expense of love and family. He wanted to earn big bucks but didn't have the knowledge nor the opportunities. That, coupled with the fact that he comes from more of a rural background versus my mom's more urban middle-class background, created insecurities within him that sometimes led to fits of anger and even physical violence towards me when I was a young kid. Two years ago I got to know him adult-to-adult (he's been remarried for 4 years), at first things went smoothly but then I was extremely turned off by his conceited and controlling nature when he dealt with me. He wanted to shape me into someone he never was (and someone I'm not), to be used as a weapon against my mom. I eventually had to sever ties with him due to his ways, and the fact that I seldom saw him while growing up didn't help at all.
I have some guy friends who come from more stable two-parent families, I can discuss politics, religion, philosophy, many things with them and I certainly consider them to be good friends of mine, but one part about myself that I've never really shared with them is my disagreement with their more patriarchal / "man in charge" values because I know that's not who I am. When they discuss these things among each other, I sort of retreat from the scene.
Though this may or may not be related to astrology, regional differences, even among people of the same ethnicity, might cause different attitudes. I am of a southwestern Chinese heritage, the southwest of China is arguably one of the most gender-balanced, perhaps even matriarchal parts of China. I've grown up seeing numerous strong women. My Singaporean friend, of Hokkien and Cantonese heritage, comes from a more patriarchal Chinese background. In the culture of his Hokkien and Cantonese ancestry, men are more likely to be the ones in charge.
I apologize for the long post, but do you think it's possible that the more challenged / afflicted masculine energies in my chart versus the more harmonious feminine energies in my chart could be destiny's way of using a strength in one area to make up for a set of shortcomings in another? Will my "breakthroughs" in life when it comes to finding happiness and stability be through my "yin" rather than my "yang" energies?
On the other hand, my moon seems to tell a much happier story. I have Moon Trine Venus, Moon Trine Mars, and Moon Sextile Ascendant. While two of the most masculine / yang energies in my chart are in hard aspect to each other, my two most feminine energies are in harmony. My Venus is conjunct my Mars (11.48 degrees GEM and 14.42 degrees GEM, respectively), it's sextile my Saturn (11.48 degrees GEM and 7.12 degrees Aries), and it's opposite my ascendant though I've heard Venus in opposition to the Ascendant isn't a particularly bad thing to have.
As a guy primarily raised by mom (for better or worse, but IMO more for the better in many ways), I feel uncomfortable with many masculine ideals. I'd say between uncomfortable and repulsed depending on the situation and my mood. For example, I don't like the idea of being a breadwinner type of guy when I get married, I hate it when people bring up ideas like how men should earn more than women, be judged by their profession / career / income and how they should clearly be the ones in charge of the household. I don't like many stereotypical "guy" things such as cars, alcohol, etc. I'm 22 and i don't have a driver's license nor do I plan to get one any time soon, if ever. I hate the culturally ingrained idea (across many cultures) of how men shouldn't show emotions, shouldn't be too sensitive. There is a Chinese saying I absolutely detest: "A man's will lies in four directions." Basically what it means is men should be the ones who are bold and seek new endeavors, to go out in the world and carve a path for themselves instead of focusing on "petty" affairs such as ones of a more homely / domestic nature.
I like long hair more than short hair. Even as a guy I wish I can have longer, flowing, and silky dark hair. Even when it comes to media, I identify more with male characters who look a bit metrosexual though I am OK with those that look more traditionally masculine. If I have kids, I believe I'd have trouble exerting a fatherly kind of influence in their lives, and I honestly have no idea how the father's role should be different from the mother's. Perhaps due to the combination of my Cancer, Moon, and Venus, if I have kids in many ways I'll be just as soft and nurturing to them like a mother would. I have trouble being a more "traditional" father as someone who sets rules and boundaries and some discipline from time to time.
I'm straight, but I feel that I have a fairly easy time relating to women even at a platonic level. This is not to say I can't relate to other guys well, and not to say I can relate well to every woman, but whether it's by chance or by something in my birth chart, I feel a kind of natural smoothness when it comes to women and I'm not afraid of "girl talk" both in a "physical" or a more emotional / psychological sense. It's not hard for me to get female friends to open up about their problems, both big and small. My style of relating to females is that I tend to do things for them. Nothing big or romantic, but things of a more everyday / practical nature. I sort of like to sing, and even at the age of 22 my Adam's apple is barely noticeable and I can sing some girl's songs better than songs by male singers. I'd much prefer to marry my caring female friend than someone I've successfully pursued and have great passion with.
A slightly complicated part of my psychological relationship with masculinity is I feel that a very small part of me still aspires towards what's stereotypical of masculinity every once in a while. I channel that mostly through the virtual world, such as playing war-themed video games. However, most of the time I'm more "yin" than "yang" in my character despite being a guy, and I don't feel any shame because of it.
As for my own dad, he was basically a jerk eager to prove himself to the world at the expense of love and family. He wanted to earn big bucks but didn't have the knowledge nor the opportunities. That, coupled with the fact that he comes from more of a rural background versus my mom's more urban middle-class background, created insecurities within him that sometimes led to fits of anger and even physical violence towards me when I was a young kid. Two years ago I got to know him adult-to-adult (he's been remarried for 4 years), at first things went smoothly but then I was extremely turned off by his conceited and controlling nature when he dealt with me. He wanted to shape me into someone he never was (and someone I'm not), to be used as a weapon against my mom. I eventually had to sever ties with him due to his ways, and the fact that I seldom saw him while growing up didn't help at all.
I have some guy friends who come from more stable two-parent families, I can discuss politics, religion, philosophy, many things with them and I certainly consider them to be good friends of mine, but one part about myself that I've never really shared with them is my disagreement with their more patriarchal / "man in charge" values because I know that's not who I am. When they discuss these things among each other, I sort of retreat from the scene.
Though this may or may not be related to astrology, regional differences, even among people of the same ethnicity, might cause different attitudes. I am of a southwestern Chinese heritage, the southwest of China is arguably one of the most gender-balanced, perhaps even matriarchal parts of China. I've grown up seeing numerous strong women. My Singaporean friend, of Hokkien and Cantonese heritage, comes from a more patriarchal Chinese background. In the culture of his Hokkien and Cantonese ancestry, men are more likely to be the ones in charge.
I apologize for the long post, but do you think it's possible that the more challenged / afflicted masculine energies in my chart versus the more harmonious feminine energies in my chart could be destiny's way of using a strength in one area to make up for a set of shortcomings in another? Will my "breakthroughs" in life when it comes to finding happiness and stability be through my "yin" rather than my "yang" energies?
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