why do I cheat on relationships? :( astro perspective please

hello all
I have been in multiple relationships and have dated even 3 guys at the same time. the guilt gripped me now and I have broken up with all three. I am really depressed and lonely now. My mind keeps wandering . Its not that I want to cheat but circumstances makes me get attracted to other men too. I have fallen in love twice sincerely but it didnt work out.

Why am I so unlucky in love? I do want to be a faithful partner but it always fails. I am so lonely with no job and no love. will I ever get into a faithful relationship?

Female
dob 4 September 1986
Sun Virgo 11°24'55''
Moon Virgo 10°46'07''
Mercury Virgo 9°59'58''
Venus Libra 27°10'57''
Mars Capricorn 14°52'56''
Jupiter Pisces 18°44'22'
Saturn Sagittarius 3°41'41''
Uranus Sagittarius 18°22'51'
Neptune Capricorn 3°04'11''
Pluto Scorpio 5°15'20''

pls help!!!
priom

priom said:

hello all
I have been in multiple relationships and have dated even 3 guys at the same time. the guilt gripped me now and I have broken up with all three. I am really depressed and lonely now. My mind keeps wandering . Its not that I want to cheat but circumstances makes me get attracted to other men too. I have fallen in love twice sincerely but it didnt work out.

Why am I so unlucky in love? I do want to be a faithful partner but it always fails. I am so lonely with no job and no love. will I ever get into a faithful relationship?

pls help!!!
priom

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acknowledging you have a problem is the first step. Did you know Regulus is conj your MC?
regulus
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=14682
http://www.astrologycom.com/fixedstars.html
http://www.regulus-astrology.com/
http://www.aquamoonlight.co.uk/fixedstars.html
http://www.astrologyinstitute.com/Fixed_star_lessons/lesson_two.htm
http://www.constellationsofwords.com/stars/Regulus.html
http://www.astrology-central.com/stars/Regulus.htm
http://darkstarastrology.com/regulus/

mutable moons are capable of loving more than one person. venus is conj 12th house cusp and within 5' is said to be more effective in the next house along going anticlockwise. so venus 12th suggests hidden, secret affairs and keeping that affection to yourself.

Pluto Asc is not that sociable a sign and very private and THEN having chart ruler in 12th hidden/cadent house suggests you need time alone without partners

Venus is also a singleton ie: only planet in air element or planets in air houses, therefore this suggests, 'sweeping statement syndrome' with not enough thought behind speech.
Saturn conj Asc will knock your confidence and also it challenges your virgoan planets

mercury square saturn shows lack of confidence in communicating from childhood. mercury square uranus adds argumentativeness. mercury opp jupiter tends to overtalk when it should be quiet and undertalk when it should be talking.

T jupiter over the last years has been going through your 5th house of love affairs, but now it is going through your 6th house of work and health..

thanks for replying.

I think Venus in Libra wants a partner, but with Jupiter opposite the moon, I want more... i suspect with Mercury in a tight conj with the Sun, and the Moon conj them too, I am having trouble.

I am extremely lonely for the past one month. it is depressing. I am ready to commit but my only worry/question is will I get into a everlasting relationship in the near future??

Not astrological here....
You are still realitively young. No rush. Also, there are a number of people in open relationships. The problem isn't being with multiple people, it is the lying, and the guilt, pain, and disruption it causes.
Be at peace with yourself first. Good luck.

I was looking at your chart to see what you have in common with my chart on account of I've cheated on girlfriends before, not gonna do it again, but I've done it. All I could come up with on my own was that my moon in pisces is in the 8th house, and your moon in the 10th house is ruled by cancer in the eighth. Moon in the eighth to me makes sense as a viable placement that would somehow influence a desire to cheat, but I don't know.

What I suspect is that although you want to be in a committed relationship, something inside you also wants independence. You have Aries N.N. With this placement the universe will forever demand that you balance independence with a relationship. The two people I've known with this placement were both married. The better example of the two had a marriage which was not sexually "open" but more open as far as space. She had an apartment she would go to in another city and he would travel for work quite a bit. They were very compatible on many levels, especially the need for independence. She ended up going to Costa Rica to work with animals and he moved to Chicago but they are still very good friends and there is always room to get back together. She was the one with Aries N.N. and she was the one who initiated the "break up". She was definitely the type who could not be tied down although she really wanted a committed relationship. The secret is to find the balance. Given that your so young, perhaps you should discover what it is you want to do for a living and don't sweat the relationship aspect so much. Volunteer work is always a good way to get your mind off your problems. Nonetheless, the universe will always provide what you need. If you want to read more about your north node, I recommend Jan Spiller's "Astrology for the Soul".

I also do not see an easy solution here that would result in an immediate happy relationship leading to an imminent marriage. There is a Chiron in the 7th house, which means that problems with relationships is likely to be an on-going topic. You will know about relationships more than others, yet it will be difficult for you to follow your own advice.

Also, an activated Venus activates the South Node, which as we know is a cup that is never full. Relationships are easy, but they do not bring a lasting satisfaction.

The North Node, on the other hand, is in Aries and in the 5th house of games and flirting. Which is what is supposed to be good for you.

So, my advice is to learn thyself. Know what you like, what you do not like. Resist the Virgo's desire to fix everything with hard work and by showing excessive dedication because that does not work long-term, and will backfire pretty badly and quickly. Remember that you do not like to hurt others, and will hate yourself if you do, but always remember that your own needs cannot be ignored for too long, and act to the best of your abilities.

blueskye said:

What I suspect is that although you want to be in a committed relationship, something inside you also wants independence. You have Aries N.N. With this placement the universe will forever demand that you balance independence with a relationship. The two people I've known with this placement were both married.
The secret is to find the balance. Given that your so young, perhaps you should discover what it is you want to do for a living and don't sweat the relationship aspect so much. Volunteer work is always a good way to get your mind off your problems. Nonetheless, the universe will always provide what you need. If you want to read more about your north node, I recommend Jan Spiller's "Astrology for the Soul".

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Nodes are to do with Life Lesson only for the fact that it's libra/aries axis can you bring in relationships. South node in libra 11th house suggests that friendships are important, also group activities within relationships. Also the house of hopes and wishs in libra/partnerships. This is what is holding you back from your North node Lessons.
north node 5th in aries, suggests you need to come away from partnerships and be more direct and to the point, start initiating projects connected to 5th house. These are children, creativity, recreational matters, self employment, gamling etc.
http://www.skyviewzone.com/astrology/houses.htm#house5

So I wouldn't automatically or exclusively connnect N Node aries into romance/relationships

North node
http://www.cafeastrology.com/northnodesouthnode.html
http://www.astrologycom.com/nodes.html
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/astrology-articles/north-node-karma.php

http://northnodeastrology.blogspot.com/search/label/North%20Node%20and%20the%20Quest%20for%20the%20Authentic%20Self
http://northnodeastrology.blogspot.com/search/label/North%20Node%20in%20Taurus
http://northnodeastrology.blogspot.com/search/label/South%20Node%20Seventh%20House
http://www.north-node.com/astrology-tutorials/nodes



Chiron thread
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=9786
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=286
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17165
http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=11976

Further discussions on AW and links from this thread….
http://www.moonsweb.com/ast/chiron.shtml
http://www.aquarianage.org/west/planets/ch-nat01.html
http://www.astrotherapy.eu/Chiron.htm
http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/chiron21.5.html
http://www.aquamoonlight.co.uk/chiron.html
http://www.martinlass.com/chiron.htm
http://www.zanestein.com/chiron_a.htm
http://www.pathwaytoascension.com/astrology/lesson6.html

http://books.google.com/books?id=4rnvfxrc4LwC&pg=PT1&dq=astrology+chiron&lr=lang_en&as_drrb_is=q&as_minm_is=0&as_miny_is=&as_maxm_is=0&as_maxy_is=&as_brr=0&ei=wMfUSoj-HI6MNdHKzYcO#v=onepage&q=astrology%20chiron&f=false

Again, I would suggest reading about the north node because your south node is actually VERY focused on relationships (of any kind, but mainly love). I have Libra north node so I can somewhat relate. Of course, I don't think anyone can really relate unless they have experienced what you have. "To thine own self be true" - Shakespeare.

I actually have the opposite of you, I have aries south node in the 5th and libra north node in the 11th. Relationships are completely the focus but I've noticed that when I approach anything selfishly, I "lose". Because of the 11th house influence there always has to be a humanitarian spin to everything I delve into. To be successful, I have to take the group into account. I would think it would be the opposite for you, maybe not being selfish but self promoting. Instead of doing what's good for the group, you should be focused on what's best for you.