So I met this Pisces woman a month or so back. We hit it off immediately, had a long chat and there was so much eye contact and subtle flirting. I see her once a week at her place of work so each time I have been back we chatted a bit longer until finally one day I asked her to go for a drink with me and she agreed. We ended up staying out all night together, it was the most amazing night, we talked for hours and I really felt a connection with this girl. There was definatley chemistry between us. We ended up going to bed together, nothing happened as we were quite drunk but we did cuddle all night. I did not however tell her I liked her that night, the closest I got to this was to say I really loved being around her and wanted to spend more time with her.
The next day I drove her home and she seemed a bit distant towards me. We chatted and she told me she had a boyfriend but it was pretty much over as he never made and effort towards her.
I saw her a few days later and she agreed to go for a drink again. While at work she was totally normal and happy towards me, as soon as we were alone at a bar she went distant again. She did perk up when I asked her if her BF had made any effort to come and see her, she replied he had not and proceded to reiterate to me that she saw herself as single and no longer loved him. We had previously spoken about taking some lessons together and as we parted she said she still wanted to do them with me and she would look into it.
A few hours later she texted me, just a hello text mentioning something we had talked about. We chatted for a few texts and then she just dropped offline, no goodnight or nothing.
I decided it best not to contact her or chase too much so I did not contact her for 3 days. On the night of the third day she texts me again asking me how I am. Again we chatted, she said again she wanted to do the lessons with me, we joked and then sure enough she just droppped offline, no goodbye.
So a few days later I see her at work again. She is just finishing as I go to leave and I give her a small present, just something she said she wanted when she was at my house. she says she will walk to the station with me. I keep it light hearted but eventually we start chatting about a mutual holiday we wanted to take and she says that we should go away together at Christmas. I agree, we chat briefly about arranging our lessons and finally I muscle up the courage to ask her out. Now this is where everything goes a bit weird. It was a standard boy asking a girl out. I looked her in the eye, said "Come out to dinner with me on friday". She looked happy at that thought, agreed, gave me a hug and a kiss on
the cheek and we parted. The next day she texts me saying she knew she had plans that night with work but asked if I would like to come with her. I agree.
Friday comes and I meet her at a bar. She is with a few collegues I barely know. She has also had a bad day at work and is talking with the other girls about this. Whats weird is she pretty much totally ignores for for the first hour and a half I am there. Every now and again she would look up from her conversation and make brief eye contact with me before looking away. One thing to note here one of her colleagues kept telling me what an amzazing woman she was and how lucky I was!! Like she new we were into each other even though she was ignoring me!!
We next head to a bar and I am a Taurus and although very sensitive I will tell someone if they have done something I think is off. I told her that i thought it was rude after asking her on a date to invite me out with her friends instead and then ignore me. She apolosiged but then said she never realised it was supposed to be a date!!! In my confused state I asked her "So you dont want to go out on a date with me?" to which she replied "Yes id love to". When then chatted for a while, she keeps asking me why Im
single, like she just cant understand why. I end up saying to her that what she told me about being over her boyfreind was a lie, that she was still in love with him. She did not look upset at this but said I was right she did still have feelings for him, then proceded to tell me she WAS SINGLE...she said this a few times as if to ram the fact into my brain!
So We end up back at mine but her friend is with us and needs to stay as its late and has to sleep on my sofa.(I have a large room in a houseshare so the friend was in the room with us) She immediatley jumps into my bed
(not the friend) and I roll over and simply say "gimme a cuddle"...she replies "no, its too hot".
The next morning I drive her home and I just feel the need to confront her. I ask her what is going on between us. She tells me that she likes
being around me but she wants to leave things as they are. She says this twice and then ends on "I just dont like the word date, or dating..it puts pressure on everything"! Next thing she says we should start our lessons that week, thanks me for a lovely night and statutory hug and kiss on
the cheek, I leave.
Later that evening I'm at a friends party and I decided to text her, it was just a silly text, refering to the previous night...3 days later she has still not replied to me. Its Whatsapp message so I can see she is logging on and off in this time, she has ignored the text. I end up sending a message saying I hope I did not offend her by what I said, almost straight away she replies telling me "dont be silly". I was really tired so we only chatted a
bit, and I said goodnight and went to bed. Next day I remembered she wanted some music I played on the friday, I put a list together for her and emailed it over. Later that night I decided I should take the lead on organising our lessons and rung up the center and whatsapp'd her the details....yup no reply again, message sent at 7pm she was on and offline
until 1am.
When I woke up I just felt the compulsion to ask her if she recieved my text...messaged her asking and almost immediately got a reply saying she did and was about to respond the night before but got distracted. Then went on to say that my music I sent "Touched her soul". She also said to go ahead and book the course, we chatted for around and hour via text and she was at work so replys were every 10 mins or so but eventually when I asked her if she wanted to do something with me the following weekend....yep she ignored the text...still on and offline but ignoring it! Its been 24 hours and nothing.
A few things I should point out here. Re-reading this post it looks like its happening to two teenagers. I'm late thirties and she is 30. We are both very spiritual souls, although not religious. Like I said I'm pretty much your
typical Taurus. I admit a very sensitive one. She is a total Piscean. Also she is an amazing woman, I mean AMAZING. I have never met anyone before this incredible. All her friends at dinner kept telling me she has the biggest heart of anyone they ever met and is so loving. This makes the way she is acting so weird, she knows I like her and cant she see her actions and hot and cold/mixed messages hurt me?
So can anyone out there in Astroland give me some ideas on what is going on?
The next day I drove her home and she seemed a bit distant towards me. We chatted and she told me she had a boyfriend but it was pretty much over as he never made and effort towards her.
I saw her a few days later and she agreed to go for a drink again. While at work she was totally normal and happy towards me, as soon as we were alone at a bar she went distant again. She did perk up when I asked her if her BF had made any effort to come and see her, she replied he had not and proceded to reiterate to me that she saw herself as single and no longer loved him. We had previously spoken about taking some lessons together and as we parted she said she still wanted to do them with me and she would look into it.
A few hours later she texted me, just a hello text mentioning something we had talked about. We chatted for a few texts and then she just dropped offline, no goodnight or nothing.
I decided it best not to contact her or chase too much so I did not contact her for 3 days. On the night of the third day she texts me again asking me how I am. Again we chatted, she said again she wanted to do the lessons with me, we joked and then sure enough she just droppped offline, no goodbye.
So a few days later I see her at work again. She is just finishing as I go to leave and I give her a small present, just something she said she wanted when she was at my house. she says she will walk to the station with me. I keep it light hearted but eventually we start chatting about a mutual holiday we wanted to take and she says that we should go away together at Christmas. I agree, we chat briefly about arranging our lessons and finally I muscle up the courage to ask her out. Now this is where everything goes a bit weird. It was a standard boy asking a girl out. I looked her in the eye, said "Come out to dinner with me on friday". She looked happy at that thought, agreed, gave me a hug and a kiss on
the cheek and we parted. The next day she texts me saying she knew she had plans that night with work but asked if I would like to come with her. I agree.
Friday comes and I meet her at a bar. She is with a few collegues I barely know. She has also had a bad day at work and is talking with the other girls about this. Whats weird is she pretty much totally ignores for for the first hour and a half I am there. Every now and again she would look up from her conversation and make brief eye contact with me before looking away. One thing to note here one of her colleagues kept telling me what an amzazing woman she was and how lucky I was!! Like she new we were into each other even though she was ignoring me!!
We next head to a bar and I am a Taurus and although very sensitive I will tell someone if they have done something I think is off. I told her that i thought it was rude after asking her on a date to invite me out with her friends instead and then ignore me. She apolosiged but then said she never realised it was supposed to be a date!!! In my confused state I asked her "So you dont want to go out on a date with me?" to which she replied "Yes id love to". When then chatted for a while, she keeps asking me why Im
single, like she just cant understand why. I end up saying to her that what she told me about being over her boyfreind was a lie, that she was still in love with him. She did not look upset at this but said I was right she did still have feelings for him, then proceded to tell me she WAS SINGLE...she said this a few times as if to ram the fact into my brain!
So We end up back at mine but her friend is with us and needs to stay as its late and has to sleep on my sofa.(I have a large room in a houseshare so the friend was in the room with us) She immediatley jumps into my bed
(not the friend) and I roll over and simply say "gimme a cuddle"...she replies "no, its too hot".
The next morning I drive her home and I just feel the need to confront her. I ask her what is going on between us. She tells me that she likes
being around me but she wants to leave things as they are. She says this twice and then ends on "I just dont like the word date, or dating..it puts pressure on everything"! Next thing she says we should start our lessons that week, thanks me for a lovely night and statutory hug and kiss on
the cheek, I leave.
Later that evening I'm at a friends party and I decided to text her, it was just a silly text, refering to the previous night...3 days later she has still not replied to me. Its Whatsapp message so I can see she is logging on and off in this time, she has ignored the text. I end up sending a message saying I hope I did not offend her by what I said, almost straight away she replies telling me "dont be silly". I was really tired so we only chatted a
bit, and I said goodnight and went to bed. Next day I remembered she wanted some music I played on the friday, I put a list together for her and emailed it over. Later that night I decided I should take the lead on organising our lessons and rung up the center and whatsapp'd her the details....yup no reply again, message sent at 7pm she was on and offline
until 1am.
When I woke up I just felt the compulsion to ask her if she recieved my text...messaged her asking and almost immediately got a reply saying she did and was about to respond the night before but got distracted. Then went on to say that my music I sent "Touched her soul". She also said to go ahead and book the course, we chatted for around and hour via text and she was at work so replys were every 10 mins or so but eventually when I asked her if she wanted to do something with me the following weekend....yep she ignored the text...still on and offline but ignoring it! Its been 24 hours and nothing.
A few things I should point out here. Re-reading this post it looks like its happening to two teenagers. I'm late thirties and she is 30. We are both very spiritual souls, although not religious. Like I said I'm pretty much your
typical Taurus. I admit a very sensitive one. She is a total Piscean. Also she is an amazing woman, I mean AMAZING. I have never met anyone before this incredible. All her friends at dinner kept telling me she has the biggest heart of anyone they ever met and is so loving. This makes the way she is acting so weird, she knows I like her and cant she see her actions and hot and cold/mixed messages hurt me?
So can anyone out there in Astroland give me some ideas on what is going on?