Thank you ALL for your responses and input. It is so much appreciated.
Greybeard: Can you tell me what you see with the Uranus - Pluto - Asc? I did some research and the Pluto conjunct Asc person can be quite unpleasant to be around - controlling, manipulative in an underhanded way. That is not me at all, I'm quite the opposite but I can sense those kinds of people a mile a way. In fact, I have a sweet friend who sees only the good in everyone that I've had to break the news to about the intentions of some people she had befriended.
JupiterAsc: That is great advice about the quicksand, both literally and proverbially. Maybe working on my sidestroke will help me navigate this
Just to confirm, I *do not* have an unaspected moon? Because what I read about an unaspected moon is pretty sad.
Gemini888: I can be extremely indecisive because I can see the pro's and con's of all options. I don't change jobs often BUT I do prefer working different part time jobs rather than one full time job because I can't stand being in one place every day, all day. My career history is in corporate environments and it was a slow, painful, soul-death for me.
My family and very close friends are very supportive with my emotional challenges and people I meet do find me pleasant but because I am so uncomfortable in social situations, I feel my pleasantness is more like trying to be agreeable so that I will be liked and accepted. It's like I'm mirroring them, being what they want me to be. It's a mask and its exhausting. And I believe people perceive that, even subconsciously, so making real friendships is difficult.
The soft aspects is something I didn't consider, as I've got A LOT to learn, but the consequences of them are, again, spot on. My motivation level is pretty much in the toilet most of the time but I believe (hope) it is because I have not yet found what really gives me a sense of purpose. Things don't come easy for me though and I do feel ill-equipped and extremely discouraged with life in general. I'm 52, when does it get easier? I'm ready to retire.
I have interests but none are enough to make me want to jump out of bed (or pay enough to cover the mortgage). I am envious of those who have passions like that. Writing has never been an interest. I can write a good business letter and am better at writing my thoughts/feelings than speaking them, for sure. But I do prefer working with my hands and making things or, especially, repairing things. I used to be a helpdesk technician. I also replaced my lawnmower's carburetor by watching youtube videos.
I'm good at stuff like that.
In my research, I've also read that I'm supposed to love working with groups of people and be in service, or perhaps it's my lesson to learn this time around, because I really don't like working in groups - too many personality conflicts which I don't have patience for.
You have truly put a lot of time into helping me and I want to you know I do appreciate it very much. I wish I could buy you a cup of tea!