Long term relations

Edimaza

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Hello,

I am already 31 but I've never had relations which lasted longer than 3 years. I had plenty of opportunities to get married but it was always something wrong. I am a Virgo so I always see all the small details which doesn't fit to me. i also mostly attract wrong men in my life.
I sometimes think that maybe my thinking and the way I live is the best to stay alone but from time to time I really miss that warmth which comes from another person and intimacy. Strangely enough recently I started thinking about marriage and even kids which I never wanted in my life. I find myself in absolutely new different way of living and thinking and I feel a bit lost and confused.
So what I would like to know if there is anything that indicates that I am gonna have something long lasting. Maybe somebody could give me an advice on what kind of man I should be looking for as I am very poor in my choices...
I just sometimes think that I am too passive and lazy in my life...

Thank You for Your time!
 

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Zarathu

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http://www.amazon.com/Find-Husband-...00&sr=1-1&keywords=finding+a+husband+after+35

Regardless of what the astrological symbolism shows of your circumstance, no one is going to come to hour house, knock on the door and say they are your prince charming. And if they did, you'd call the state police and get a restraining order on them for stalking you.

So buy the above book and follow it.

Astrologically... you may have issues to be addressed. I haven't looked at that yet. I don't believe in telling people when something will happen since free will is involved, and a) doing that ruins your free will, and b) doing that keeps you from working out the stuff you do to do, and being out-going to find someone.

At your age now, you are going to have to be proactive. All the easily to find men, already moved on what THEY wanted.
 

Edimaza

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Thank You, Zarathu!
Well, happily I am not yet 35 :) It's not that I don't have any opportunities but it's always something wrong with the men I get involved. Last boyfriend of mine was alcoholic and couldn't have children. After I decided I now start to check the drinking level of everyone who comes around I find out that the new man who came around doesn't drink or smoke but lives with a child and his mother and tries to make another kid with some other women. All I can say that I make really quite interesting choices in my life... I am not desperate to find a man here and now I just would like to know if I have a possibility to find someone equal me. I know lasting relation takes a lot of work and little by little through many lessons I am learning that... To find a man it's not very hard for me as I have something which stills attracts them but to find a man who could move my brain or share same interests looks quite impossible or simply I am looking in all the wrong places....

http://www.amazon.com/Find-Husband-...00&sr=1-1&keywords=finding+a+husband+after+35

Regardless of what the astrological symbolism shows of your circumstance, no one is going to come to hour house, knock on the door and say they are your prince charming. And if they did, you'd call the state police and get a restraining order on them for stalking you.

So buy the above book and follow it.

Astrologically... you may have issues to be addressed. I haven't looked at that yet. I don't believe in telling people when something will happen since free will is involved, and a) doing that ruins your free will, and b) doing that keeps you from working out the stuff you do to do, and being out-going to find someone.

At your age now, you are going to have to be proactive. All the easily to find men, already moved on what THEY wanted.
 

Sakti

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Hello Edimaza!
May I know your place of birth?
And let me know whether these details are true:
Date of birth: 13/9/1982, 9:20A.M

regards,
Sakti
 

Zarathu

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To find a man it's not very hard for me as I have something which stills attracts them but to find a man who could move my brain or share same interests looks quite impossible or simply I am looking in all the wrong places....

That's what the books is about. It teaches how to look in the right places. When you were in school, all the available men(or women) were gathered ion one place and you could make a selection. But once that end, short of going back to college or graduate school just to find an available man or woman(which is actually not a bad idea), you need to use other techniques.

However, it may be necessary for you to move, if there are simply no educated men around. You may need to move to a graduate university town.
 

Sakti

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@Edimaza,
As per horoscope details provided by you, your asc is Libra. Present period is mars antardasha in Mercury Mahadasha. This period is so good for marriage.
Becoz 7th house lord(marriage) is mars.ur 7th house lord is in his own house which is good. But this period ends by april 2014.
Dear, if u r not married by april 2014; u have to wait till november 2016. In november 2016 Jupiter in Mercury starts. Jupiter is very good in your chart. Also u r having 'GajaKesari yoga' which is very good yoga. So u might get married in Jupiter.
One thing is sure, u will lead a very happy marriage life. Ur star is Punarvasu. It is a good star. U will receive tons of love from ur spouse:love:
Now it's a period where u will get good career opportunities. Go ahead!

All the Best Edimaza!:smile:
 

Edimaza

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Thank You so much Sakti for a good word! :)

Well, I guess it's impossible for me to get married till April as I am single at the moment but I keep searching! Put myself into meditation classes so maybe I will not find a man there but at least Ill learn something new :)

Generally, I believe Ill be married only once as I look very responsible to this but sometimes you can think one thing and happens different....

I am also very happy that I have some good stars in my chart :)
 

Sakti

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U r welcome Edimaza!

Hope u will definitely find ur best soulmate soon.
As per my knowledge u will be married only once....
U will have a happy married life dear.
All the best!:smile:

regards,
Sakti
 

Zarathu

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Please remember that for some people, perhaps, there is fate. While these times indicated for your marriage may be accurate, they may also just be good times for something to happen.

If you continue to look for small details that are wrong about anyone that "wants you", these these good times will go by the wayside.

Just because good times are there, if you sit at your house waiting for something to happen, you cannot expect Prince Charming to arrive, knock at your door, and tell you that he's rich, seen you from afar, and wants to marry you. This doesn't happen, except in fairy tales.

You have issues and challenges to work out in your life. If you don't work on them, then other things will not simply fall into place, IMO. And your comment above:
"I just sometimes think that I am too passive and lazy in my life..." emphasizes that to the extreme.

Now a question for you: did you move at any time from your birth place during the first 6 years of like, and if so specifically where, and specifically when?
 
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Edimaza

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As I said before I started to take my life into my own hands. My workplace isn't a good place to find a man that I want and also it doesn't satisfy me so I started to look for the courses in the college Health sector. I also registered for the meditation classes and I am searching for a way to get my driving licence in the UK as I have only Lithuanian ones. I do it not only to find a man but also to fulfill my constant need to be needed and loved.
As for moving in my first 6 years I can't tell much about it as I had an abusive alcoholic father and as much as I know we stayed in one place till he left. After we changed the house but the city remained the same. I started traveling and living in the different places only after 21. In the other hand I was many times left at my grandparents place in the village which is around 50 km away from my living place.
Long to cut short I believe I didn't move from the place I was born in the period you asked :)

As about all these small details which I see in every man is really annoying me. That's why I still didn't get married even though I had proposals several times. Once it was that a man was living in the USA and I had to go back to Lithuania to finish my degree and later didn't get the chance to come back. Other time the man wasn't educated enough and his habits were annoying me. Also we didn't have things in common. Last one my one of the longest relations were doomed from beginning as the man was 15 years older Greek who was against the marriage, couldn't have children and was an alcoholic. But we had very strong intellectual and spiritual connection which I never had before.
 
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Zarathu

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Without knowing your domicile circumstances during the first couple years of your life at least, I cannot help with challenges of the present. And I believe this is the key to your present circumstances, in addition to your birth chart.

Trying to fulfill a constant need to be loved and needed puts you on the constant needy receiving end of any relationship. IMO, you need to find ways where you can be of assistance to others.

So I can only hope that someone else can assist you, since I cannot. Good Luck to you.
 

Edimaza

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Well, I can always ask my mother about moving but as I said before we were a poor family and we moved to another house after my father left me (around age of 5) which was 1 km away from my birthplace.

Just in case: I was born in Kaunas, Lithuania and lived in Garliava, Kaunas reg., Lithuania. My village were I spent quite a lot of time was Karcrude, Sakiai reg., Lithuania.

I know I have problems in my character which I am trying to work through with the help of a specialist. I am thinking to find a job or in the senior care or with abused women and children or with mental care for addicts. That's what I can choose from in the local Stoke on Trent college.

Thank You for Your time and insights :)
 
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Zarathu

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Well, I can always ask my mother about moving but as I said before we were a poor family and we moved to another house after my father left me (around age of 5) which was 1 km away from my birthplace.

OK... so in the first few years of your life, you didn't move more than 25 km from your birthplace?
 

Zarathu

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That's for sure :)

OK.... as they said in "The Wizard of Oz", that's a horse of a different color.

I'll look later. I have to go stack wood now for the next part of winter here near Canada, on this day of 50F degree temperatures before everything drops by to the teens later in the week.
 

Edimaza

Active member
Hello,

I know it's a long time since I wrote this post but maybe You could still take a look at my chart.

I am facing a bit different kind of problems at the moment as many men comes to my life even without knocking but they are all not the right kind... One was married, another irresponsible and so on. Seems like my Solar return is right - whatever I start this year everything finish in a month or even faster.

Sadly, all my interests is very women and all groups I join (as whole my life) is mostly same gender communities. I was thinking I ll find someone at my work place but true is that I work at the warehouse and I don't really fit in that society. As many guys as I met they are more interested in drinking in pubs or enjoying gossips too much which are things I really don't enjoy. Maybe I am too much a snob but...

The astrologer who looked over my Solar return said that this year is just for a lot of attention and not for serious things. Also next year will be the same. I am just thinking how much of the truth it can be?

I actually met one guy who I quite like. We enjoy talking to each other and find lots of in common but somehow he doesn't ask me out and as many times as I asked him to join my company (for a coffee or in the park) he finds excuses...

So my question again is the same: is it possible to start something meaningful or I just have to be more patient?

OK.... as they said in "The Wizard of Oz", that's a horse of a different color.

I'll look later. I have to go stack wood now for the next part of winter here near Canada, on this day of 50F degree temperatures before everything drops by to the teens later in the week.
 

ashriia

Well-known member
Hi Edimaza,

while i don't have a answer to the question you posed here. Just wanted to suggest maybe trying an online dating site like 'okcupid' for instance. It's entirely free and very popular amongst 20 and 30 somethings. I only mention it because.. trying to find someone deep & intellectual enough to satisfy your mars in scorpio; in a warehouse environment seems like it would be impossible. Seems like a problem area would be your venus in virgo.. based on what you have written in this post. virgo/venus like to find faults to fix in their partners. just like virgo risers. Keeping venus balanced is a great idea. that can be done with virgo venus things like writing/literary stuff..some kind of service based endeavor. and so on.


all the best to you :sideways:
 

Krewster

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Was there mention of your Ven apex/midpointing the Moon 90 Sat (to form the 45-90-45 triangle)...? (don't know your astro level but at least you can check on the net as if there were 90's among those planets and tone it down to taste.

T Nept currently lies perfectly to quadrangulate the above triangle into an Octo-Kite (i.e., 135-45-45-135 around the edges with a 180 as spine and a 90 as the crossbrace).

The transit lasts (w/ softenings and re-comings) until very early 2015 during which period you should please not pressure yourself too much about an immediate resolution to these issues.

As per the latest Disney story, it is a period to just "...let it go..."
 
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