Well I'm trying to study my chart but it doesn't happen as someone more experienced would help me. I don't have contact with him unless he contact me, I don't do it. So do the charts say that the relationship is doomed? What can be told about the charts? If he change ( I doubt it but... ) I want him always and I will accept the pain only if he's mine in the future
Okay Leo,
I apologize for my previously direct and short response. But since you had already generated every possible interpretation to your question from other members on this forum, I didn’t see it was necessary to go into the astrology of this synastry. But if you want my honest opinion, here you go....
Your case is really pretty simple. To start, the two of you are not a good match. Period. But more importantly, you already have a natal venus square pluto. Then this guy came along and triggered that within you. Most “obsessive” manifestations of a relationship can usually be traced to a pluto interaspect, whether it is venus or any other significant planet. So the problem here is not HIM. (Although he clearly has problems too.) The problem here is your own tendency to be obsessive about intimate relationships. And this will most likely always be the case for you because both of those planets represent your relationship axis, therefore most relationships that your find appealing will be with those people who trigger these planets, which then always triggers this hard aspect within you (the square), which then trigger your obsession….get it? So again, I can’t say this enough…..the focus right now in your head needs to be on YOU. It’s time to fix YOU, not this other guy or the failed relationship.
Read everything out there that you can about the characteristics of people with a hard venus/pluto aspect in their natal charts. Then you can go ahead and multiply that by 100 to make is represent the intensity of obsession and codependent attachment that you bring to your relationships. The reason for this is because not only do you have that aspect in your natal, but they are amplified by the fact that they represent your ac/dc axis AND rest on your angles.
I know when it is worth my time to step in and offer practical advice and when I need to just step back and let the flames continue to die down on their own. Right now, just based on the severity of your continued obsession, it is apparent that you are not in a frame of mind that is capable of being objective about this relationship, nor are you able to see that the harm caused by it to both of you. Both of you keep each other locked down in your lowest possible form of expression. Everyone here has told you to step away. You should listen to this advice.
Recovery from any kind of addiction takes time. Your addiction right now is this relationship. And possibly future relationships as well. So do whatever you have to do to create distance between you and this man (distance in time and space). One day you will finally have enough distance and maturity to realize how foolish you have been to waste so much time on this. But none of us here can force maturity upon you. That is something you learn with time. You are very young. By astrological standards, you have to get to your first Saturn return to really begin understanding yourself in relation to the world around you. You are just now beginning to grow up. And there’s still a long way to go.
Let’s start by studying your natal. Create distance between yourself and this man. We will know that you’ve done that after you step away from your computer and stop asking questions about him. As long as you continue to let your mind be glued to this person, and continue to be glued to your computer, you should know that you still have a long way to go before you will begin to taste your greatest potential in life. Instead, you are letting the lowest possible manifestation of your natal chart take over.
The time is now to begin understanding yourself. The time is now to stop behaving like this. The time is now to stop obsessing about another person. Start obsessing about yourself. Start by studying your own natal chart. There is enough on the web for beginners to start getting their feet wet.
You can do this. But it’s not going to happen until you reach your own breaking point of finally wanting a better life for yourself. Obsessing about a person or relationship like this is not anything to be proud of, nor will it take you where you need to go in life. It’s time to wake up.
S.
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