Hello,
Since March I have problems with a good friend, or more exactly with his new girl friend, what is quite the same, because he is in love with her. Aditionally she causes many troubles with my other friends. She is gossiping about me and it seems, she tries to destroy both: my friendship with him and my other social contacts.
Maybe it doesn't look like a big problem, but I'm a rather conservative 44 yrs old woman, self-employed, without a family and have a diagnosed sewere social anexity disorder. I don't have many friends, it is not easy for me to find new ones and I also need both: a somewhat serious public image and some help from friends to be able to do my job. I'm unable to leave my home alone and feel extremly uncomfortable among strangers and in groups, so I can barely defend myself.
My friend (her boy friend) says, that I'm obsessive about her and he is right, but her gossiping is so extreme and insulting, that I rarely manage to calm down. I talked with her several times, but she denies to have a problem with me at all. He caught her once insulting me behind my back, they had a dispute and she apologized by me, but it didn't help. The problem got even worse since then. He expects me to forgive her and to get with her along, but she continues with insults and gossip like before. If I end the friendship with him, it won't solve the problem either, he introduced her to almost everyone, I know. I'm trying to avoid her, but I feel like she is stalking me, because she is almost always there, when I leave the house.
She is a very social, 25 yrs old girl and has many friends + I've never had any sexual/romantic relationship with him, even not any harmless flirt just for fun, so I don't understand what is happening. And whatever is the reason, it a nightmare.
I suppose, even if she would stop now, I couldn't force myself to trust her. I'm so hurt and exhausted, that I feel real repulsion and sometimes even hate.
As I see it, I have some hard transits and maybe anyone could give me an astrological advice, when my problems will end and how to deal with them. I'd be grateful.
I attached her birth chart and synastry with her, too, but I don't know her birth time.
Since March I have problems with a good friend, or more exactly with his new girl friend, what is quite the same, because he is in love with her. Aditionally she causes many troubles with my other friends. She is gossiping about me and it seems, she tries to destroy both: my friendship with him and my other social contacts.
Maybe it doesn't look like a big problem, but I'm a rather conservative 44 yrs old woman, self-employed, without a family and have a diagnosed sewere social anexity disorder. I don't have many friends, it is not easy for me to find new ones and I also need both: a somewhat serious public image and some help from friends to be able to do my job. I'm unable to leave my home alone and feel extremly uncomfortable among strangers and in groups, so I can barely defend myself.
My friend (her boy friend) says, that I'm obsessive about her and he is right, but her gossiping is so extreme and insulting, that I rarely manage to calm down. I talked with her several times, but she denies to have a problem with me at all. He caught her once insulting me behind my back, they had a dispute and she apologized by me, but it didn't help. The problem got even worse since then. He expects me to forgive her and to get with her along, but she continues with insults and gossip like before. If I end the friendship with him, it won't solve the problem either, he introduced her to almost everyone, I know. I'm trying to avoid her, but I feel like she is stalking me, because she is almost always there, when I leave the house.
She is a very social, 25 yrs old girl and has many friends + I've never had any sexual/romantic relationship with him, even not any harmless flirt just for fun, so I don't understand what is happening. And whatever is the reason, it a nightmare.
I suppose, even if she would stop now, I couldn't force myself to trust her. I'm so hurt and exhausted, that I feel real repulsion and sometimes even hate.
As I see it, I have some hard transits and maybe anyone could give me an astrological advice, when my problems will end and how to deal with them. I'd be grateful.
I attached her birth chart and synastry with her, too, but I don't know her birth time.
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