I think its more likely that you have long standing natal chart issues that you need to address which make it difficult for you to deal with Partnership relationships.
Some of those are as follows:
1. A Tight YOD with a Jupiter Focus
I am not so familiar with quincunx aspects so I just tried to read about it from Astromatrix. It says:
Venus inconjunct Jupiter
You easily overextend yourself. Overindulgence and exhaustion can come from feeling over-optimistic about yourself and what the world will do for you. You take on obligations that are other people's responsibilities because you feel so good about yourself. You are happy and healthy when you learn how to set real limits without being talked or coerced into overdoing it, in some area of your life.
Characteristics of Venus inconjunct Jupiter
Generosity, Optimism, Consideration, Aspiration, Overconfidence, Charm, Socialite, Pomposity, Ambition, Creation
Shadow
Laziness, Conceit, Indecisiveness, Vanity, Indulgence, Fanatism, Possessiveness, Being Jealous
Mercury inconjunct Jupiter
Exaggeration is second nature to you. Whatever you focus on tends to grow in your mind without anything happening in the external world. Circumstances in life can easily seem much better or much worse than they really are. Learn to trust other people's assessment and to judge life more on the concrete facts and less on moral pronouncements which tend to be very colored by self justification and avoidance.
Characteristics of Mercury inconjunct Jupiter
Generosity, Optimism, Intelligent, Gullability, Aspiration, Overconfidence, Perception, Pomposity, Resourceful, Quick
Shadow
Laziness, Conceit, Indecisiveness, Two-faced, Nosy, Fanatism, Instability
From these, I am going to admit that I can get quite indecisive. When I break up with someone, it's hard for me to stick with my decision once I realize that
a) I have made a big deal out of something that can be talked over (exaggeration); or
b) I feel that we can give it another go and it will be better the next time around (overconfidence); or
c) I had faults too and that I should be more tolerant of the other person's being human (optimism); or
d) the relationship was better than I gave it credit for (fanaticism).
I don't necessarily think I am vain or conceited. I have good amount of self-confidence but I'd like to think that my Moon in Taurus keeps me grounded somehow. I do get overly generous, even after breaking up, with the mindset that the other person used to be special to me and thus, it should remain that way forever and I should keep on doing nice things for them long after the breakup. I am good friends with all my exes. I am strange (and quite daft) like that. I also tend to be a stickler to my morals and principles and I guess that makes me self-righteous. I realize that it's wrong and that that's not what should happen. I guess I should change that.
I have read that a yod is actually a good thing once you learn how to integrate the energies of the planets. But I am at a loss as to how to work these placements in a harmonious manner. I am still a newbie at astrology and don't know for sure how to compound the houses, signs and aspects in order to make an interpretation and/or render advice based on it.
2. A Kite with a Moon Focus and a reaction point of Neptune
Perhaps you mean a reaction point of Pluto? Still a newbie so I don't know which chart you are referring to but all I know is that my Taurus moon is in opposition to Pluto in Scorpio in my natal chart. Kites are another thing that I have read are supposed to be good. Once you learn how to use it. But I don't know how this moon opposite Pluto aspect is going to help me out. So far it's been doing me more harm than good. How do you suppose that this aspect can be beneficial?
3. A grand Earth Trine(Moon, Saturn, Neptune)
Which chart is this in? By any chance, did you mean Moon, Neptune and Sun grand Earth trine? Because my Saturn in actually in Sagittarius.
Again I don't know how this plays out. Especially with Neptune in it. Does it make me likely to be idealistic perhaps? Because I have been told that I am. But from the sounds of it, they don't mean it in a good way. Haha So I don't know if having a grand trine is good, as per what they books suggest.
4. Moon, Mercury, Mars, and Saturn all in Critical degrees
Can you help me with these? I have read about it once you pointed it out. I have never really noticed that. What does it mean when you have four critical points in your natal chart? Does it mean that I will always be in crisis once transits or progressions come in contact with these points?
5. and Out of Bounds Mars
I have never heard of this. But I did read about it once you mentioned it. Come to think of it, according to the interpretations of OOB Mars, I can get quite aggressive. And I tend to defy the norm often. I tend to listen to the beat of my own drum. I am quite fearless. Which is good in leadership positions, I guess. But not in relationships. I have never been violent though. I guess my Venus in Libra keeps my actions in check. At the end of the day, I still crave for harmony. And if arguments arise, I opt to walk out. Or give the cold shoulder.
6. A powerful and high friction 11th house of friends and you plans for the future.
How do you say that my 11th house is powerful? Is it because Saturn is in it?I have never really paid attention to the 11th house so I don't know. And what does "high friction" mean exactly?
7. A very powerful and high friction Sun Square Saturn
How is this aspect powerful? I think this aspect does ground me somehow. I am pretty happy-go-lucky, or at least that's what my heart desires. But Saturn reels me in every time. I can't say it's good entirely. I think this is what makes me become realistic, sometimes to the point of pessimism. But it does give me tenacity, which I guess trickles onto my relationships.
8. An even more powerful and even higher friction Moon Opp Saturn.
Again, do you mean Moon opposite Pluto? How is it more powerful than the Sun-Saturn aspect? Isn't it that the sun's aspects supersede the moon's? Again, I am quite new to astrology so I want to learn as much as I can.
9. Fight or flight issues tend to consume you for a longer time when new situations arise shown by your ASC.
How is this reflected in my ASC? I do have fight or flight issues.
10. And after you have resolved the fight/flight issue, you spend a much longer time dealing with personal security before collecting lots of data about what to do with your powerful but low friction Mercury(which often procrastinates you, but is probably exacerbated by the grand Earth Trine). We would see this by the Moon in Taurus and the 4th house.
YES. Unfortunately. That is often the case. It's amazing how much astrology can say about a person. I really do want to make myself better. Recent experiences have urged me to look deep within. I'd like to think I am a good person, as what people who are close to me say, but I know something's amiss. I guess it coincides with my Progressed Lunar Return a few months ago. I am more focused on my emotional health lately.
On January 26, 2015, alongside the first hit of my Saturn Return on (January 29), my progressed moon will be on my progressed IC too. So I guess it will cause more emotional issues to surface. Pluto will also be on my ascendant on that time. I want to be more aware of my flaws this early on so it doesn't blow up in my face (as much) when that time comes. I know it wouldn't stop the universe from teaching me a lesson, which I am anticipating would be a not-so-sweet experience. But I do want to have a review of what I have done and how I have grown to become so far.
Thank you for pointing these out! Reading about the things you have noticed about my chart definitely struck a chord. I do hope these could do more good than harm for me. I think being more aware of them can afford me to use these things to my advantage, rather than to my detriment. It's exciting to read about how "rare" and "special" kites, grand trines and yods are. Especially if you apparently have them. But it's no walk in the park to materialize for sure. But I'll get there. I hope.