Laid back 9th Mars is seems you just might look to your Uranus for assertiveness that Venus makes a most perfect attempt to un-ruffle others feathers by in your chart. The rulership book by Rex E. Bills gives Uranus as another positive avenue that allows assertiveness (not to argue but I think Mars is listed as a ways and means of that trait, being at home in His sign in Aries also) from where He lists, but remember they are Malifics in horary as well as in the native configurations.
At this time Mars is in Taurus but is in Harmony with Jupiter (they share a harmonious displacement, author Doris Chase Doone announces by brotherhood of light lessons.) for whatever theme they are about in the chart.
P.S. If Mars is in the 10th maybe once bitten twice shy is the theme of your character traits right now. You may be uneasily be aware of past youthful experiences that lead to altercations- ones that were involved in making your attempts to bend over backward to smooth things over apparent-with your parents or other's-a catalyst to making anyone wish to develop psychology in their backbone.
A great temperament of character evolving
All the best
Vyri