And sweet Kai, do yourself a favor and stop looking at his future transits.
Time to fully move on and stop worrying about what he does or doesn't do in his new relationship.
Btw FYI he did tell me once the following “you are independent, strong willed, fierce, sweet, sexy, hot, beautiful, smart and a well read woman who is well informed about a lot and that you also turn me on so hard even mentally, he also added that he loves how I think.”....... considering the number of times he got kicked to the curb by me I’m sure he realized that I’m a woman who doesn’t take **** and I can dump him at any time I wish (my patterns of cutting him off so many times) so maybe it isn’t about me but he just doesn’t want an independent woman who is fierce and strong willed. He said that we are like an oil and water and that we don’t mix. He also told me that I’m lucky in life for being what I am and how I am. Lol yet he kept contacting me all the time he initiated our contacts 95% of the time so makes u wonder why in the world then, if he didn’t even initiate sex we never did it and I think it’s when he noticed that I like him is when he started keeping me at arms length yet acting like there’s something going on between us for over a year so I never understood what it is he wanted from me where he kept praising me all the time openly telling me that he liked me and how he was attracted to me and how he would like to have sex with me he even saidnimagine how hot our intimacy would be. He also told me during our last contact that he doesn’t initiate intimacy with me as he might like it too much.....whatever this even means! Not to mention he said a year ago that he didn’t initiate sex because he doesn’t want me to feel disrespected. Well I’m glad it’s over this way to be honest. I get disappointed in men so often now that I don’t even care it’s like emotionally I’m shut off from it all unlike before.
I can see that your emotions are in a swirl, but I would recommend a more mature, considered approach to relationships. Love isn't about "kicking someone to the curb," thinking about who "dumps" whom, and virtually seeing a love interest as an enemy. Which is an alternate meaning of your 7th house. Even with in prospective relationship that doesn't work out, it's best to treat other people with respect.
You might look at how Pluto or Mars is placed in your natal chart.
Kai, if you actually look deeper into the way he behaved with you in a more constructive manner, especially now that you are out of that relationship, "the fact that I was into him yet his cancellations of the dates" perhaps he was trying to sort of not let you build hope too much, which, actually would have happened had he not cancelled all those dates, especially knowing your interest in him. Can you imagine how emotionally shattered you would have then been having been so deeply and even more emotionally involved with him then. Perhaps he did realize, after first leading you on, that it is not fair to you after all because seeing each other can lead to Lord knows what.You will be interested to know that my mars is in Aries in my 12th lol and Pluto is at 29.22” degree in Libra but almost like in my Scorpio in its Home sign both. Mars and Pluto are inconjunct by 1 degree.
My aggression towards him comes from how he has been misleading me with these invitations his interest in me for this long and the fact that I was into him yet his cancellations of the dates and the way he’s been with me which eventually has developed that attitude in me which you pointed out above...
This is not astrology related but...perhaps its your ego reacting...and you feel hurt and confused.? It's not that you loved him or anything, u only feel manipulated by him and probably he played games with you.
some men are like that, specifically if you.re attractive. Cause they want to conquer you and feel their own ego.
I met someone like that too.when I realized it, it was too late. The moment I stopped, the moment he felt his ego betrayed. They will not stop though...they try one more time just to have the upper hand. It's nothing to do with affection or care or love.
so...fortunately you didn't get intimate. Be glad for that and move on.
just my 2 cents.
does he have lots of Pluto in his chart?
Kai, if you actually look deeper into the way he behaved with you in a more constructive manner, especially now that you are out of that relationship, "the fact that I was into him yet his cancellations of the dates" perhaps he was trying to sort of not let you build hope too much, which, actually would have happened had he not cancelled all those dates, especially knowing your interest in him. Can you imagine how emotionally shattered you would have then been having been so deeply and even more emotionally involved with him then. Perhaps he did realize, after first leading you on, that it is not fair to you after all because seeing each other can lead to Lord knows what.
Of course, the most sensible thing for him would have been to not lead you on at all because somehow I do get the feeling that he knew from the beginning somehow that it would go nowhere with you both. For you, it would also have been sensible that you would have kicked him out of your life when you noticed perhaps not the first time, but surely the second or third time he cancelled the dates. That is a strong hint that something is not right. Right now, surely, the most sensible thing is to let bygones be bygones, learn your lesson out of this, and to move on without analysing this any further because that way you will remain stuck with this, feel more and more sorry for yourself and be more bitter towards him.
Kai,
He actually has a pretty decent chart, and he has got to be a decent man otherwise.
He is quite a softie actually with Venus in Pisces, sextile Moon and square Neptune. Venus square Neptune could be one of his problems, as he might get disillusioned easily. It also is a sign of deception, but more in the sense of running away from reality and suffering because Venus is in Pisces. There is also some problem with women in general or at least with the mum due to the Moon being in detriment. However, that extremely strong Venus softens it.
Venus also rules his partner house, via Taurus, so it is strong basically, but Neptune weakens it. The North Node there also weakens shows some struggle in obtaining a steady relationship. Hi Asc. ruler, Scorpio, is in detriment though (Mars in Libra). Is he well educated or well-travelled?
As to Uranus-Pluto-Saturn, don't worry about that aspect because that is too impersonal and generational.
His natal looks like a big red flag to me. A big one.
I understand your situation kai, truly I do. I don't judge you for reacting the way you have but understand that this man is bad news. Even if he were interested in you right now, he would still not be good for you since he hasn't addressed his natal issues. I don't know what your chart looks like but I can imagine the relationship houses are highlighted and you've got some Neptune going on...Luckily for you, you can more easily get away from him by separating yourself mentally from him. You are not bound to him by past or current circumstance. Trust me, take the steps toward letting him go now, and thank us all later. If you need help doing that, I can certainly help.
hikaithat's his natal...m sorry im not good at natals much i guess he does with scorpio asc, pluto conj uranus & opposite to saturn? im also interested to know now lol