It's very frustrating, because it seems like life just conspires against me to make sure I have no opportunities and I have no idea on how to go about making any. And if I ask anyone what they did to make friends or meet a significant other, no one can tell me. It seems like something that is supposed to just organically happen, you know? Not something you make happen. And im just looking for some glimmer of hope. Am I destined to just go to work, come home, rinse and repeat until im old and dead? I really hope not. I know that having a 4th house stellium is hurting rather than helping things. But is there something in my chart that will bring any luck to me in these areas?
Is it ny Saturn or a bunch of planets in the 4th house? Im so desperate to figure out an answer to this. Why can others just make friends and get romantic partners by just living their daily lives but not me?
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Hi Clip 11!
I've responded to many of your posts. I'm wondering what you take away from them. You are always so genuinely disturbed by something. Today I pulled up your chart on my professional software and have you saved in my files. That way I can look at transits and progressions easily.
Anyway, we have several planetary influences in common. We have Virgo rising - with mutable signs on our cross. We have Sagittarius Moon in the 4th. Our nodes are similar in that there is an Aries-Libra influence - yours by sign and mine by house. My South Node is in Virgo in the 1st house - Aries natural house. So, I can personally related to some of your influences.
But I also want to say that I think your assumption that people have relationships effortlessly - is maybe a little too dramatic. I think people have a great deal of trouble with relationships generally. It may not look like from the outside - but they do. Some people put up with a lot of **** while others don't take any ****. The one's willing to put up with a lot of **** stay in relationships longer.
With Virgo rising and Sag Moon - there are high standards set - for yourself and other people. I'm in the same boat. I have very high standards and not very many people meet them. You are also a Capricorn Sun with Mercury and Neptune. Capricorns tend to be very comfortable with solitude. They can be loners. They don't reach out to others so easily - as they aren't as social in a fun kind of way. They love to work.
Now, I'm not saying you can't have a love relationship. Many Capricorns have them. I'm just pointing out that there are influences here you might consider working with. I think the high standards of Sag and Virgo are most likely the thing you might look at. They have high standards and also can be critical of others too. So, they aren't attracted to a lot of people. How inviting are you to others - really? I don't know the answer to that, but I wonder how you come across. Since I have the same Sag and Virgo influences, I'd honestly say that I don't come across as very inviting. I'm friendly, a good conversationalist, caring and giving - but in terms of love relationships - I'm not inviting. My standards are very high. I've heard this from many others - particularly the Sag Sun and Moon people, but also Virgo people. Our attention is more geared toward work, analysis, meaning of life questions, understanding things . . . Virgo also is a bit worry wort - and is focused on helping. Helping isn't the same as a love relationship.
That said - Virgos have relationships too. But, there needs to be a strong willingness to compromise what you want - to work at the relationship - to sacrifice your own goals at least a little. You have to love someone enough to give up something. In your case, you've got an Aries North Node - very independent. For you to personally develop that North Node, you'll have to be very independent within your relationship. You'll need a partner with good boundaries and who is secure enough to give you room.
Honestly, I think there is luck involved in this love thing. Finding a right person isn't easy for those who can't compromise too much. Those willing to compromise a lot, can always find someone. Those willing to compromise only so much, well - there's luck needed in coming across a much smaller number of good matches. And sometimes I think that not every lifetime is going to be about having that kind of relationship. Also, your Chiron is in Gemini on MC. There is a problem with how you think of yourself in regard to your social life. Perhaps you need to reflect upon your social self-identity. Who are you socially compared to how you'd like to be - and what thoughts do you think that might not be creating the social life you want?
Anyway, these are the thoughts I have looking at your chart.
SP Sun is in Aquarius and SP Moon is in Aries. These are the two most independent signs in the zodiac. NN in Aries anyway, says that you are learning to be more independent. Perhaps if you come across as more independent socially, that will be more attractive. Feeling like you want a relationship can come across as needy. If you're doing that, try acting more independent - feel independent - feel autonomous - and see if that gives you a stronger, more attractive presentation. Don't care so much and need so much. Virgo can be needy. Your SP Moon is in the 7th house of relationships in Aries - so that could work for you.
When we feel good alone, have self-love, and don't need a relationship to feel whole - we are more attractive to others.