Here's my personal opinion about "handling your planets."
In most cases, with most people, you don't and can't "handle" your planets.
Most people have neither the consciousness (we aren't aware of our own "defects", mostly because we hide them from ourselves under a mountain of delusion) nor the will power to "overcome" them.
Dr. Farr suggested in a post a few months ago that we list the positive and the negative expressions of our planets, then direct ourselves toward the positive expressions. This works, but takes time...often a great deal of time.
The first requisite for growth (positive rather than negative expressions of planetary energies) is consciousness. Without that there is nothing. We will continue as we were without change, except by fortuitous accident.
Here's a story showing how one young man made the right decision at the right time, and put his Mars to work on a positive plane. It illustrates the process.
I used to work at a children's home in Mexico. One afternoon the older boys put me into a basketball game. I've never much liked basketball, have no skills, but have a competitive personality -- which resulted in one of the 18-year olds (physically a full-grown man, suitable for cannon fodder) running rather abruptly into my shoulder as he dribbled down the sideline. I don't know how he ran into my shoulder...it was minding its own business, attached to the rest of me. But he got very angry, something about foul play.....
Twice I saw his body move toward me, an attack imminent. Twice he pulled himself back. Then he took the ball and drove to the basket, unstoppable, scoring.
He converted his anger into competitive drive, high-energy positive accomplishment. That conversion or transformation of anger into accomplishment sublimated the anger: it did not have to be repressed or expressed negatively. The conversion resulted in a sense of accomplishment, of deserved pride, and was one positive step toward positive growth and maturity that will result in the next step being easier (repeated) and leading to growth at an even higher level.
No stars were necessary. He figured it out on his own and did the right thing. The kid will be a winner, not on the basketball court but in life. He observed his instinctive impulse, realized it was not productive, and re-directed that aggressve energy toward an expression appropriate to the situation.
That's how it's done.
Studying the symbols of astrology can be helpful. It can show us which are positive and which are negative expressions of the same energy. It can heighten our awareness and lead to a faster and smoother growth, even if we never learn to read a horoscope.
But it is not THE ANSWER. The answer lies within ourselves and demands that we develop and expand, constantly throughout our lives, day in and day out, Consciousness. We have to become aware of ourselves and our behavior. We have to be truthful with ourselves.
We must examine our perspective (point of view, attitude) on life. Most of us, most of the time, look at life from some certain, usually fixed, point of view, based on our expectations, what we were taught as kids (usually by absorption), cultural values....in short "what should be." And in doing this, we fail to recognize that other points of view are possible. And it never occurs to us that by simply changing our point of view, our life changes without effort.
It is often very difficult to change our behavior through imposition of the will. But it's as easy as falling off a log to change our point of view. The hard part lies in recognizing that another point of view is possible...and the first few times it may be hard to move to a new vantage point. But if you try it a couple of times, and observe the results, it becomes very easy to do.
It's the same thing Dr. Farr recommended, just explained a little differently.
The book Think on These Things by Jeddu Krishnamurti may be helpful to you.